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A tough question for you: Answer with honesty.

Would you deffend your kind?

  • Yes, I would tell them they´re wrong.

    Votes: 54 75.0%

  • I would somewhat tell them they´re wrong.

    Votes: 13 18.1%

  • I would say nothing, staying quite would be better.

    Votes: 4 5.6%

  • I would bash them too. My anonymity is more important.

    Votes: 1 1.4%
  • Total voters
    72
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Let´s suppose your family or friends who do not know you are gay start bashing gay people in front of you, telling all kinds of lies ans misconceptions you know they are not true. would you make your stand and, even if impersonally, and some how try to undo their conceptions or would you go with the flow and bash them too?
 
I would let it be known I'm not in agreement and then remove myself from the situation.
 
I chose 'Tell them they're wrong'. I have done so in the past. I don't expect to change that in the future.
 
If it were family and friends, you'd better believe I would say something. I certainly wouldn't associate myself with gay-bashing 'friends'.
 
I think I'm like most people here...just let them know I don't agree. They usually try to get me into the conversation, and in that case, I usually end up making a fool of them, considering they haven't thought any of it through and I actually have a bit.

Sometimes I do like to just keep it at letting them know I disagree and fleeing the scene...hearing all that doesn't help me much, even though I'm not convinced by anything they say.
 
Since I'm not out, I make it a policy to not add to my hypocracy by accepting anyone's misconceptions or phobias about the gay community. At this point I don't much care whether they think I'm gay by confronting their bigotry or ignorance, but since I'm such a flaming liberal I assume they think this is just another one of my tree-hugging issues. I cannot imagine letting anyone get away with defaming the gay community even if they are not out.

As an educator I make it a policy to confront these issues with my students.
 
I would definitely argue the point with them. I've done that many times before over things they've said that I've disagreed with. This would be no exception. And, as in the past, I would use rationale and statistics to support my assertions.
 
I have with my mother who does not know I am gay yet. She is a big catholic church lady and always says it wouldn't hurt me to go to church to which I respond no thanks. I always say to her look at their attitude towards gay people that is just not right!!!
 
We really need the search engine back because there is a topic about this exact same thing in the relationships forum for 2 days now.


I just laugh it off especially when its a blatent and unecessary comments. My brother everytime we are driving on the road together and someone cuts him off or something he would always shout a derogatory gay name towards the person. Its just instinctive because the last time he did it the person driving was a woman but he said the f word, i just gave him a look.


But what i really get pissed about id when gay people bash gay people in public but secretly have sex with bed on the DL.

I had a boyfriend once he was 90% straight which i didnt mind because that was a turn on, but whenever we would go out together he would always bash gays with his friends and the hypocrisy of the whole thing we would always fight about it and he would always tell me that he has t maintain an image. We eventually broke up.
 
Supposing any of my family didn't know I was gay (a suspension of disbelief on a massive scale being required), I'm the kind of person who would take a familial gay-bashing scene as a perfect moment to come out. It's very dramatic, and would make them look intensely stupid.

If the gay-bashing continued, a little ant-poison in the sugar-bowl would take care of things to my satisfaction.
 
there are too many things about me that are obvious (my race and faith namely) to ever consider not defending myself and others.

its just what I have always done.

I haven't ever considered defending people from prejudice an optional choice.

If you have character and are an honorable person, you stand up for anyone that is being victimized.
 
It really would just depend on who it was. Some people aren't worth using that much oxygen.
 
springboksfan said:
It really would just depend on who it was. Some people aren't worth using that much oxygen.
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That's exactly what I was gonna say before I refreshed the page.

Half of my family isn't worth wasting the breath on.
 
I have no problem telling people their full of shit and I have gotten my ass kicked for it as well, but I believe in calling a spade a spade! ;)
 
Andreus said:
there are too many things about me that are obvious (my race and faith namely) to ever consider not defending myself and others.

its just what I have always done.

I haven't ever considered defending people from prejudice an optional choice.

If you have character and are an honorable person, you stand up for anyone that is being victimized.
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YES! :=D:

I stand up against all types of stereotypes and bashing of any group! (Except maybe Right-Wing Republicans. ;) )

When I'm in the company of acquaintences (my friends and family know better) I just get a disgusted and look and start shaking my head NO. When I get asked "Why do you have that look, and why are you shaking your head no?" (For some reason they always ask me.)

I tell them; "I don't feel comfortable listening to y'all bash Gays and Lesbians, anymore than I would feel comfortable listening to y'all bash blacks, or hispanics or any other group. And the real kicker is unlike those other groups, who here knows who they're offending? You could be bashing someone here, or a member of someone's family. Sounds pretty ignorant, stupid, and bigoted to me."

Sometimes they'll ask me if I'm gay, and I'll ask, "How bad do you want to know?" ;) For the smart-asses who insist I ask, "Are you looking for a date? Cause if you are, I don't date narrow minded bigots."

I could just walk away, but when they do shit like that they really don't know who they're hurting. I've myself experienced, and watched enough friends suffer because of some ignorant, stupid, bigoted comment that came out of the mouths of people that they love.

It has to stop somewhere, so it may as well be with me.

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I always defend gay people.

My family just thinks that it's because I'm a "tree hugging liberal hippie" but whatever.
 
All the people that know I am gay are not stupid enough to bash "my kind" in front of me.

BUT! At work I have to deal with this sort of thing everyday. It's common at work for guys to tell total lies about how a gay relationship/sex works. It runs rampit in my work place. I choose to stay quite and listen and smile, so as to keep up the apperance that I agree. HOWEVER, I NEVER join the bash fest. I have never done that at work. I just stand idley by and listen to their ignorance.

Dirk
 
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