Anal Sex - Erection question (also anal masturbation)

[mason9]

I've never had anal sex, or any gay experience, but i am curious.

Why is it on the anal sex videos I have seen the men on bottom never have an erection? Does it not feel good? I am so curious as to why?

Can you cum while being fucked in the ass alone (no stroking)

Does anyone have advice on anal masturbation I could try?
Thanks so much, I hope my questions are not stupid/insulting, I just want to learn.

-mason

 

[SilverRRCloud]

IMHE, more than 50% of bttm dudes are hard while being seriously pounded. And some gay porn shows that, too.

It happens every so often that the bttm guy shoots without ever having touched or stroked himself. I wouldn't count on it, but yeah, it happens, mostly if both dudes are in sync on multiple levels. Whenever this happened, the bttm dude said, it was mind-boggling and totally amazing. Over the time, in such relationships, the top dude learns to push all the right buttons and practically controls his bttm's orgasm. Very rewarding for both, in my books, that is.

The only good bit of advice anyone could give you here is to take your time and think it over. Decide what is it that you really want to do, get well prepared for 'your fav. scenario', feel free to ask questions, no matter how specific or crude, or gross or whatever they might appear to you, and go for it, when you feel that the time has come.

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[DryIce]

As far as the limp-dicked bottoms in porn movies go, who knows? Maybe they're not enjoying it, maybe it's just an issue of being self-conscious about having a crew of a couple dozen people standing around watching you pretend like you're having sex with no one else around. That's a real turn-off for me in porn, which is why I tend to prefer the earlier porns from the 80s, where the performers truly seemed to be turned on by what they were doing, and the bottoms were always rock hard if not dripping with pre-jizz while they were getting fucked.

Bottoming isn't for everyone. That's why gay men come in tops of bottoms!!! The first time I ever got fucked, it hurt like fuckin hell at first, but then got better as it went on, and kept getting better the more I did it over time. It definitely magnifies the intensity of the orgasm. My husband, on the other hand, doesn't like getting fucked at all. It doesn't hurt him -- it just doesn't do anything for him like it does for me.

And in answer to your next question, yes you can cum via anal stimulation alone. I describe it as an anal orgasm because it truly feels as though your ass is cumming along with your dick. I used to be able to cum that way a lot, but unfortunately as I have gotten on in years I've developed some debilitating back problems that prevent me from getting in just the right position where the hubby's dick nails me on just the right spot to make me pop. Also, I definitely think it has a lot to do with how turned on you are by the guy and his technique. I've been worked over by all shapes, sizes and techniques in my day, but the hubby is the only one who has ever been able to make me cum without any direct stimulation to my dick.

BTW, knowledge is power, and asking questions that lead to knowledge is never stupid. I hope this sheds some light on the issue for you.

 

[rickdboy]

I'm pretty much an exclusive bottom and for me it is usual for me not to be fully erect when I'm having sex. This can vary on the circumstances and the position. Usually, if I'm sitting on top then I keep an erection, otherwise usually I dont.

As to the pleasure of it, for me the whole pleasure centre moves away from my cock and into my anus and all around it. This is in many ways toally different to the feelings that lead to ejaculation but mind-blowing in a more continuous way. I will often climax, have a form of orgasm, without "cumming", and I can keep doing this over and over.

Very often, when my partner has come, I am happy just to stay with the glow that I have built up that is something like a cross between the feeling just before ejaculating and the feeling just after.

I have, on the other hand never, ejaculated from anal stimulation only, but this is probably because I am greedy. I settle into a plateau of ecstacy from the anal stimulation and like to stay there as long as my partner lasts or until I get tired, whichever is the sooner.

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[mason9]

1. The bottom on anal sex videos has often been pounded for 30+minutes whilst trying to give the camera the right views etc etc and it is not unusual for them to lose their erection in this situation.

For me I am usually rock hard thoughout.

2. Lots around here (me included) have cum without jerking off whilst getting fucked.

3. Have you read the sticky at the top of the relationships and sexual health forum?

just saw it, thanks!

 

[megustamyn]

Why is it on the anal sex videos I have seen the men on bottom never have an erection? Does it not feel good? I am so curious as to why?

There's another thread from a few days that asks this exact same question. You might want to read the comments at http://justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=86104

Can you cum while being fucked in the ass alone (no stroking)

You can have an extraordinarily intense orgasm without touching yourself. Your prostate gland is the organ primarily responsible for cumming and it rests against your rectum. Doctors probe men's butts with their fingers because it is the only way that they can reach the prostate to check its health. During anal sex it is stimulated directly. For many men, it is the most intense pleasure they can feel; more so than stimulation of the penis.

Does anyone have advice on anal masturbation I could try?

There are many sex toys designed for this purpose and available online. They come in different sizes and its best to start with a small size and work your way up. It's important to have good lubrication so as not to irritate. Sexual lubricants can also be purchased online and they are available at most drugstores. The best way to keep your sex toys clean is to use a condom as you would with a Real Cock

Many people use regular household items, such as cucumbers. but items not designed to be inserted into you can slip totally inside and potentially cause damage or require medical assitance to remove. Dildos and butt plugs are designed with a large base to prevent them from slipping in.

 

[LeoMikey]

If you want to try it, as the others have suggested, DO IT! I'm mostly a bottom, and it is hard to describe the intensity and joy of having been fucked silly. I'm usually rock hard while getting stuffed, even i've already fucked him first, the erection returns soon after he enters me. Cumming hands free can happen, sometimes it will just leak out while you are getting fucked, other times it will shoot far. There are times when i will be limp, but that does'nt mean i'm not into it! So if you fuck a guy who stays limp, but he is loving it otherwise, don't sweat it. As for limp bottoms in porn, that should be edited out or fir that model. After all, porn is not real sex with your boyfriend, it is a fantasy.
Before you get fucked, you really ought to get yourself used to having something up your happy hole! A dildo butt plug, vibrator, fingers....anything that is safe to stuff up there, use plenty of lube and go SLOW! Start with the smallest and thinnest item (a toothbrush is good) and once that is pleasureable instead of painful, move up to something thicker. Many dildoes and butt plugs have suction cup bases, which are great! You can fuck yourself and beat off at the same time, perfect practice. Before i got cornholed at 15 i had been fucking myself for a few years with various items, so i was more than ready when it happened.
You might end up being a top, which is more work, butt either way just go for and happy cumming! Let us know how you make out.

 

[LeoMikey]

Almost forgot: before you let a guy ramrod you, make sure you are clean! Washing your ass is not enough, you need to flush out any crap that is up your hole. Go to a drugstore and buy an anal syringe (don't laugh, they exist!) and follow the directions, an enema will work too. After cleaning your insides, then wash your ass. Sorry if this grosses you out, but it is better than your lover ending up with shit on his condom!

 

[thewiz]

I've kept an erection when taking the bottom role; I have to admit that jacking off while getting it produces a rather intense orgasm. I have never cum without touching it, however, I have had to ask someone to stop because it was just so intense and they were hitting my "G" spot so often that I was about to scream.

 

[budgieboy]

I always stay hard. I have seen lots of comments from guys who say they don't, though, but are still enjoying it. Try your own fingers with lube (trim and file your nails smooth, though) and see what you think. Could use dildos, or other items around the house (nothing hard or made of anything that can shatter). Cucumbers are excellent (out of the wrapper)!! But don't use them in your salad later, mind you!

As for cumming without the use of the hand, this hasn't happened to me when being fucked. I can jerk myself so far, then just concentrate on the pleasure and take myself the rest of the way hands free. I learnt to do this jerking first, though, so it is not an exclusive anal thing.

As for ths shit / douche thing, I agree it is not recommended. A bit of shit on a condom sometimes is a fact of life for anal sex. It grossed me out toally the first time, but it doesn't happen all of the time.

 

[marqau]

Yes well there are lots of posts on the medical forums from guys embarrassed by getting erections and even ejaculating during prostate examinations by their doctor. Just google "ejaculate during prostate exam".

So YES, obviously you can orgasm from just being fucked as the guy's cock massages your prostate. This is a problem for some men (including myself). I used to blow after the first few pushes when I was younger and then go soft and tell the guy to stop which wasn't good. Now I have a long term partner and he knows he can keep going after I blow for the first time and usually I can go again and cum with him.

 

[1regularguy]

First post here. And coming from a different angle. I am a true bisexual. Wife, kids the whole thing. I am in my forties but have been playing with anal toys since my teens. Mostly I am rock hard while but not always but it feels wonderful either way. And yes I have had anal sex with men in the past. Both ways and loved it. I was never really got into the gay lifetstyle or guess I never pursued it otherwise who knows I may be married to a man now.

The reason I found this forum is because I have recently found my prostate. Slow learner I know. But while jacking off is a daily must my dildo riding hobby only happened from time to time.

Over the past few months I have bought every prostate massager on the market and finally found the right ones for me. Riding a big dildo and feeling that fullness and admittedly a bit of pain at first is fantastic to me. But these prostate toys are different. Over the past few months I was able to learn to stimulate my prostate just right and make myself orgasm. Not ejaculate but something different and fan fucking tastic!

At first I didn't orgasm but it still felt great. Once I did I was shocked. Now I can make myself orgasm in just a few minutes. But the amazing is they last a lot longer than ejaculation and I can keep doing it right away again and again. And they are getting more intense. Its not made me ejaculate hands free but I really don't care because it is satisfying in its own way. I am still just learning. If it happens to me I will add it here.

I suggest you buy a smaller purpose built prostate massager (not vibrator) and try it out. FYI I use my hands to move it around and rub my prostate just so. Take your time and in a while you will find out why men let other men slide their cocks in their ass. LOL

 

[mbamike]

Over the past few months I was able to learn to stimulate my prostate just right and make myself orgasm. Not ejaculate but something different and fan fucking tastic!

This is a prostate orgasm. I have been working on achieving one myself. I have lots of toys, but not a prostate massager that is working for me. Please tell us more, in another thread if necessary.

To answer the OP, I am never hard while being fucked. Anything, finger, tongue, cock, goes near my hole I will lose the erection. This is not a big deal for me because my focus is on my ass and all the feelings there rather than on my cock.

 

[1regularguy]

I am commenting on the question directly above and not the original question. However I think it should apply to both. First I have to say having limited experience with anal play with another person in the room I feel odd giving advice to you. So I'll stick to my experience.

Now that I know exactly where and how to rub my own prostate I can reach it with my middle finger but just barely and my other fingers are all bent all over. So its no use without a toy. I guess that means it would be hard for another guy to do so as well. I've read the prostate is 2-3 inches in but everyone is different so...

I tried the erenos prostate massager. I believe they are ideal for someone with little experience inserting things there. From what they claim you can achieve a prostate orgasm hands free by flexing you rectal muscles. This toy definitely feels great because it kind of puts pressure on the whole area. But the hands free thing wasn't working for me so I started moving it with my hands. After a while it seemed to be taking it to the edge of what I have read about. I tried bigger toys but found that for me a smaller ones worked better because I could move it on the right spot in little circles back and fourth etc. Mored targeted.

Not trying to sell anything here but what first made me orgasm was the doc johnson mens pleasure wand. It has a vibrator but I seldom turn it on. It'd help to google a pic. I lay back in a recliner, left foot on the recliner's arm, my left hand below holding the little ring and right hand over top moving the little handle. This gives me total control. I have a clear acryllic one that works for me too. What doesn't are the soft latex ones as they flex too much to put the right pressure. I've ridden some sizable toys and have been fucked by well endowed men (only a few times) but for me its not the thrusting in and out. Little circles, side to side and so on. Think of (sorry guys) a woman rubbing her clit.

Again I don't want to overstep here but I am not sure I would have been able to orgasm with a partner. Maybe now I could but for me I think I needed to get in touch with my own anatomy without any distraction. Oh and I am not always hard when I orgasm. And so far nothing but precum and not in huge amounts...so far lol. But let me tell you I am red faced, convulsing, and trying not to scream like a porn actor. This is not the urban legion that I once thought it was.