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Are you unhappy as an Homosexualist?

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Yes, I am sometimes. Sometimes I just love it though!
 
As a homosexual I am not unhappy. Sometimes as a human, I am unhappy, but that's because of the horrible crap that is going on in the world and the way other humans treat each other as a whole.
 
Whaaaay. First post on this site and may I just say it's awesome. :-) Anyhoo, I only came out this year. Coming from a very religious background sometimes I hate being gay. But hey, that's me and I can't change it. The majority of the time I'm happy to be gay. I've finally come to accept who I am.
 
I wonder if guys from different races say the same thing (straight or gay)? Would I be happier if I was something other than what I am? It all comes down to we don't really know anything different than what we are - gay, straight, white, black, brown, etc. Maybe its not the same thing, but whenever one is out of step with whatever the majority is, it must be a thought that comes up once in a while.
 
I'm lucky enough to live openly (in my neighborhood, at work, at church, etc.), and I'm very happy as an American man who happens to be gay. I don't let the gay thing necessarily define who I am though, and I think that's why it's never driven me to unhappiness. Being gay is just a part of me.

I do feel unhappy at times (for the same reasons AusTexFeet shared), which is totally normal. It gives us perspective and helps us enjoy the happier times even more. ;-)
 
For me it seems to be more a religious thing for a long time going up I was taught that this was bad but now that I'm older (just turned 30 in Feb) I am able to come to a medium that just like my family God still loves me no matter what. Do put yourself down for too long!
 
I am unhappy in general. It's got nothing to do with my sexuality.
 
Accepting myself as a homosexual is a walk in the park compared to the 40+ years of denial I was in.

Think about it.
 
I am very happy being gay. Even though it came late in my life.
I am now fully out,and thanks to changing times, it doesn't seem to do any difference. But I am happy that younger generations don't have the same fears and problems we faced all those years ago.
Now we have marriage, adoption, are protected against discrimination...It's unbelievable the changes those last ten years !
But then, I am lucky to live in one those very few free countries.....
 
In response to "the Pianist"; Isn't that the sad part of the gay society. It seems that for all the rhetoric and ranting about accepting, respecting, and perceiving value in other human beings, we seem to show prejudice, and yes even discrimination towards older members of gay society. Just recently, a straight frind of mine pointed this out, "Yeah we straights do align alot of our relationships and activities in age oriented ways. That's OK. But we don't call down each other like you guys do. I've never heard straight young people label unattractive or old people 'trolls'. What's with you guys, that you segragate yourselves in such a way?" My response was that his observation was pretty broad brushed. But it did make me pause and wonder: are gays so image and youth oriented, that we reflect it in such a way that leads the rest of society to make the obsevation my friend shared with me?
 
The_Pianist said:
I'm fifty years old and only came out in the Fall of '02.

I found out then, the majority of the *gay world* has little to no use for older, out-of-shape men.

C'est la vie.
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I'm 53 years old and I've been out since I was 19. You should consider yourself lucky you only discovered the rampant agism in our community at such a late point. I found it out about 20 years ago. Of course, it makes it that much better when I run up on some 20 something who doesn't look at someone over 30 as a fossil. I'm not attracted to most guys under 35 anyway so in that regard it really doesn't matter, but it's nice to occasionally find young guys who are willing to listen and learn from what I've gone through and not assume they know it all.

There are days when I can't fathom not being gay, and then there are days when the thought of sex with anyone, much less another man is just repugnant to me.
 
Well, hypocrisy is the order of the day for any social group because, alas, we are all human, imperfect and to some degrees selfish and one-sighted.

I think I am content with myself as being a gay man, but given the opportunity to choose I would rather be straight. I know this brings up a lot of ire in the gay community when fellow gays say this, but this feeling makes sense. Who wants to be a member of a hated social group consigned to live on the fringes of civilization like one colossal "freak show" praying for the day that they can share the equities of an ignorant, hateful and hypocritical mainstream society.

jakke said:
In response to "the Pianist"; Isn't that the sad part of the gay society. It seems that for all the rhetoric and ranting about accepting, respecting, and perceiving value in other human beings, we seem to show prejudice, and yes even discrimination towards older members of gay society. Just recently, a straight frind of mine pointed this out, "Yeah we straights do align alot of our relationships and activities in age oriented ways. That's OK. But we don't call down each other like you guys do. I've never heard straight young people label unattractive or old people 'trolls'. What's with you guys, that you segragate yourselves in such a way?" My response was that his observation was pretty broad brushed. But it did make me pause and wonder: are gays so image and youth oriented, that we reflect it in such a way that leads the rest of society to make the obsevation my friend shared with me?
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I think that there is someone for everyone in this world, however I think this rings greater truth in the straight world than the gay one. When one is gay and not beautiful (in our shallow perspectives) they must invariably live a lonely existence where the only thing to look forward to is a cold, wet root-entwined hole in the ground.

I say if all of us cannot have the opportunity to find happiness within the confines of the gay community then to hell with the whole Goddamned gay acceptance movement because we can't even accept and love one another who are we to tell straights to the same for us. Unless we improve our damned attitudes towards one another in the greater gay community, as far as I'm concerned, we will deserve our diseases, our ridicule, our persecution, our inequality and whatever other shit our Goddamned society can toss on us... because now I'm getting pretty fucking tired of the fucking whining of our community's narcissistic bastards!
 
Here's another thought I just had on the topic. I'm very happy being a homosexual, I'm just not happy with all the hell I sometimes have to go through just so I can be happy being a homosexual.
 
All in all, life would have been easier if I'd been born straight. Not automatically easier, just certain aspects of growing up would have been less stressful many parts of life would have been easier to cope with.

But, I 've learned to accept what cannot be changed. I actually did try to change my sexulaity when I was in my early 20's. There was a sort of therapy that was supposed to help you associate naked girls with pleasure and naked boys with pain. Of course it didn't work with me and I doubted it worked with any gay guy that tried it out.

Fact is I still can bring up the images of the naked guys making love that were shown on the films and cannot remember what film showing the females.
I think the 'therapy' just reenforced my sexuality.

Sexuality is a means to achieve happiness, it does not define it.
 
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