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Can you fall in love after?

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Do you think its possible to fall in love with someone the more you know them? I think most people think of fall in love (the first time you ever see them). So, does it have to be the first time? or could you fall in love with them more and more the more you know them?
 
thats kind of how it works for me

I fall in love with people very slowly

the more I know them the deeper I fall

I am not one of those to think that a fast infatuation is being in love

dont get me wrong, inafatuation is a good place to start, but it wears off, and if nothing solid is there the whole thing just peters out

thats the way it works for me, anyway
 
Andreus said:
thats kind of how it works for me

I fall in love with people very slowly

the more I know them the deeper I fall

I am not one of those to think that a fast infatuation is being in love

dont get me wrong, inafatuation is a good place to start, but it wears off, and if nothing solid is there the whole thing just peters out

thats the way it works for me, anyway
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It's exactly the same way with me! ..|
 
Sure you can. I have a couple of straight friends that did that. They knew each other from work, they started doing things together. He wanted to keep it platonic because he was still getting over his ex-wife. After a year or so of this, it sort of dawned on them both at the same time that this was the real thing. Kind of a When Harry Met Sally thing. A very sweet couple.
 
You have love at first sight and then you should be able to fall in love after knowing someone for a while. As they share parts of your life with you and vice versa, it would only make sense for you to be able to fall in love with them.
 
But -- I also do believe in love at first sight -- it happened to me! And not just infatuation either. I knew it was the real thing. The other person did too -- but it scared him, so he was in denial. But I was patient and he got over it.

And then came Chapter 2 -- but we won't go into that.
 
That's the way love happens. Yes, it is more likely to happen slowly than to be love at first sight.
 
It takes time to get to know someone which could result in loving them. You need to know something about someone first and on a much seperate level then people you just interact with everyday.

I think that the whole love at first site is just lust.
 
Andreus said:
thats kind of how it works for me

I fall in love with people very slowly

the more I know them the deeper I fall

I am not one of those to think that a fast infatuation is being in love

dont get me wrong, inafatuation is a good place to start, but it wears off, and if nothing solid is there the whole thing just peters out

thats the way it works for me, anyway
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Same here! For me it seems that the more time I spend with someone, getting to know him, understand him and share with him the harder I fall.
 
Love is worth waiting for :D


In most cases I don't think it happens over night
 
I'm always skeptical of the guys who 'fall in love' in weeks. I think it might be possible, but not for me.

The more I know someone I love, the more I love them it seems.

Err, something.
 
Friends in graduate school had been trying to set me up with women for months. None of them really clicked. At all.

The day I met my wife, I told a good friend that she was 'it'. We had a great relationship for 15 years. Sure, we've grown apart, but I think we'll always remain good friends.

Sometimes you just know.

But that doesn't negate the topic of this thread at all. Our love obviously grew from that first day. So, yes, whether it's love at first sight or not, the love will continue to grow over time if it's real.

Beyond 10 years, though, and people start to change; often quite a bit. Sometimes it lasts forever, sometimes not.
 
I think love at first sight is not nearly as common as "falling in love". Physical appearances and infatuation are often mistaken for love. Finding out who someone is beneath the surface and loving them for that is so much more meaningful.
 
I don't know if this really counts, since it's unrequited love, but I knew this guy for 3 years before I had the slightest attraction to him and now (the 4th year) I'm crazy for him. Weird, huh? In fact, when I first met him I found him to be quite irritating but slowly and I mean very slowly, I learned more about him and one day all of sudden.....wham!!!.....out of no where I find myself attracted to him. The attraction grew and now I want him so bad I can't stand it. BTW, he's straight as an arrow, married with kids. Story of my life.
 
Thats how I fall in love. The more I get to know a person, and the more they continue to be awesome, I fall more for them.

Sadly, sometimes they do not mirror my feelings and it hurts to try and detach.
 
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