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Pegasus69

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I have been celibate for quite some time now. For me it was a matter of an emotional response to casual sex. I always found that I was left lacking the more intimate needs and wants as well as the emotional feeding that casual sex didn't even come close to satisfying. I love sex, and think it is great. But I find it much more satisfying and sensual with the emotional tie to it. It does help that I apparently am not one of the desireable ones around here. Not the flavor of the day so to say.....
 
Okay, I modify my response. I am celibate when it comes to having a second person in the room. If I don't wank I become a raving bitch and would be tranquilized by the nearest zoo.
 
The theory is that monastic life is celebate, but there are accounts of nuns getting with child. I expect in a male single sex enclave, where every one is physically intact, streaming with hormones, something is bound to occur. Otherwise, all that pent up sexual energy has to be diverted into something else. Have you considered martial arts? Is that why the Chinese Shaolin Monastary is so famed for its brilliant kung fu? The mind boggles. And they are allowed to eat meat apparently. So, it can't be all bad.
 
You only live once. That other warm body on top of you is just as important and just as spiritual and just as enlightening as your religion. If you want to give up something, give up your dogma, not your sex life.
 
I have thought about it....not so much for my own good, but for the good of anyone who might be in a relationship with me otherwise...lol (and I would only have sex in a relationship).

Even the Catholic church (my church) acknowledges that married life is not for everyone...(without being a priest).

However, the no-sex thing is a bit of a mystery to me (since my mind since to spend a lot of time there)...I guess the idea of celibacy makes me think I'll have more time to be the genius I am...not.

Right now I don't see myself ready for another relationship...I have too much more of a life to take care of...and I don't see that changing anytime soon...so I guess I'm going to celibate at least for a while.
 
I plan on celebacy unless I am in a marriage or committed long-term relationship. I would agree that this is a healthy expression of sexuality. A person doesn't "need" to have sex like an animal. We can chose how to express ourselves as gendered creatures and find meaning in both sexual activity and/or inactivity.

Question: What is your sexual prime? Of course, our reproductive prime is when we are young...but sexual prime as far as pleasure, enjoying sex, intimacy usually occurs around age 40 when we have known and grown in our intimacy with a partner.

As my professor put it, for us guys in college, the people having the best sex in the world are our parents after we have moved out of the house.

Our "do it while you're young" philosophy is not very healthy and leaves a lot of people with empty feelings about sexual fulfillment as our friend Pegasus69. We place too much importance on sex, especially around here. There is so much more to life, even for gay persons.

Good luck in your search for happiness and fulfillment.(*8*)
 
I spent many years celibate while I was denying I was even sexual. Now I feel really stupid about it.
But there are times in some people's lives when it may be a good idea, I suppose.
 
Posted by Peto - It's a very hard and lonely life!

Ah, but for me the opposite is true. Just because I am alone does not mean that I am lonely. And for me, personally, the sexual encounters with people who I did not have some sort of emotional bond with beyond that of friendship left me feeling so much more alone and empty that I have since I began this journey.
 
I was celibate for three years before engaging in gay sex. I had lived as a straight guy previously.

I reached a point where I was craving human contact. It was like I was drawing energy from the guy I was hooking up with after no human contact for such a long time. I have no desire to ever go back to being celibate again.
 
As long as someone isn't basing their decision to be celibate based on fear of eternal perdition, I think it can be quite healthy.
 
I think celibacy is a waste of time. I keep respect whoever applied though
 
It is a notorious lie that you can't be spiritual and sexual. If you noticed in early Pagan religions there were many fertility cults, Gods and rituals. In Hinduism to this day there is the Tantra side of Hinduism in which sex is apart of holy ritual.

However I am just going to give attention to the elephant in the room. It is foolish for one to be celibate simply because some backward religions tell them that they can't express their sexuality and be spiritual.
 
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