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Friends or Family You Stopped Talking To!!!!!!!

provenlogic

provenlogic

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lets see:
My Father (if you can call him that)
Best Friend #1 from gradeschool
Best Friend #2 from gradeschool
Best Friend/BF from highschool (who subsequently tried to run me down with his car)
Friend from College (who turned out not to be such a good friend.. i.e. theft of laptop, money, etc...)
Best Friend/BF #1 from College
Best Friend/BF #2 from College

hmm, i'm sure there are others... it sucks to be me :)

moral of the story... Forgive. and Love.
 
My father, since yesterday, when he was unbelieveably mean and selfish. I can't think of anything else right now and I am so crushed.
 
I have a sister like that. I didn't speak to her for almost 10 years and then we had a brief period of reconciliation and she started in again. She has a bi-polar disorder and is impossible to deal with and I am sick and tired of her treating my mother like dirt. She had estranged herself from the family for years and is doing it again. She owes everyone money and has been through several jobs because she doesn't want anyone telling her what to do. I'm over it. It is better that we stay away from each other because we can't be in the same room for more than 5 minutes without a screaming match breaking out.

I also HAD a friend I stopped talking to because he's an alcoholic in denial and abusive and a troublemaker. Stopped talking to him 2 years ago. I still see him in the bars ocassionally...and, as usual, always drunk. Eventually he will hit bottom and get the help he needs. I gave up. He wouldn't listen to me about getting help and I refused to take anymore of his crap.
 
Move on.

What is done cannot be undone.

What is said cannot be unsaid.

There are many great guys around. Why dwell over the negativity of the past events?

SC
 
I don't talk to any of my friends that I've known from before the school I just started in this September but for most it's not becasue of any fault of theirs.

All my friends until January this year: Because there's a lot of shit I'd rather not remember and talking ot them would just bring it back

All my friends January up to September of this year: Same thing but some of it was also their fault (a lot of VERY, VERY fucked up shit I'd pefer to not think about from this period in my life).

In the past 2.5 years I've only contacted one guy who I wasn't going to shool with or hanging out at home with at the time (ie after we didn't see each other anymore) and that's the guy the story in my sig is about.
 
I have two siblings I haven't spoken to since 1997. I believe in respecting a dying person's last wishes - and they didn't. For me, that was the final straw. As simple as that. The only family that's really important to me is my mother. The rest, I can give or take. I'm always given prejudiced bollocks from the rest; I raise above it when I have to spend any time in the same room as them, but I wouldn't lose a second sleep over it if I never saw or spoke to any of'em ever again.

I've never parted with a friend over indifferences. We've grown apart, over the years, sure, but never over a disagreement or a fight. Even if that happens, I always make sure we make up before we part. You never know when it'll be too late. I don't believe in hating people. Takes too much time and energy. Instead, I'm a believer in moving on and away. Which is what I've done with some.
 
I stopped talking to my best friend when I was 13.
There was a girl in the neighborhood, pretty wild but a lot of fun.
His mother told him he couldn't hang out with her, and if I continued to be her friend, he couldn't be my friend either.
I never have liked ultimatums and picked her.
At the time I was rebelling against my own parents "over control" why would I let my friends Mom dictate who I could or couldn't like?.
 
More recently my best friend who decided the new man in her life whom she'd never even met but only spoke to on the internet was more worthy of her time than I was. Now she is trying to get back in touch with me and I haven't got the energy for her at all. It's terrible when friendships break down but sometimes it's inevitable.

I haven't had a conversation with my step sister in about 8 years now and I don't intend to either. She is a destructive, vile little witch and I hope what goes around really does come around when it comes to her. If it does then she has a hell of a time coming up and I hope i'm there to kick her when she's down like she did to me. ..|
 
It sounds like you were some best friend unclaimedblessing (I hope you'e much more caring for and less quick to dispose of the friends you have now). :/
 
well.... i'm not on bad standards with any of the people i grew up with.. we just grew apart and never see eachother anymore.. but there was a group of guys i hung out with all throughout highschool that i don't talk to now because we hung out for years and years and they introduced me to this guy i ended up dating.. and they were around through the whole relationship... and knew he was trying to cheat on me with this other girl who was a friend of mine.. but of course no one told me.. they just said i should dump him with no real reason behind it (yeah like i'm gonna dump a guy without knowing a reason) well anyway.. he broke up with me and eventually i found out he was "in love" with that girl who denied she had any feelings for him above friendship.. and my ex eventually told me how my friends were talking behind my back.. and it wasn't pretty... eventually i found out the girl fucked around with my ex (who i was still in love with) and they started dating... so I stopped talking to her... and didn't talk to him for a couple months...

then I find out around 6 months later out of the blue my str8 friends don't like me and don't wanna hang around me anymore.. for god knows why.. that was the final straw and I don't talk to any of em anymore (about 5 guys)

luckly I have 2 best friends that I have been friends with for 8 years now and we have the kinda friendship that no matter how much we fight one day the next day we're still chilling and laughing together
 
I think "best friend" is being used lightly here.
Best friends work things out...not stop talking....
 
actually i just started talking to my family again, and my brother came out of the closet and moved to boston.

i feel sorry for you guys if he ever gets a handle on english. i have a few translator programs he uses to read posts, but he hasnt worked up the courage to post anything yet.

we are very similar yet very different...

he has completely rebelled against our faith. that causes alot of friction between us. he does not want to be muslim. i tell him that he has no choice, but....

i guess he is kind of stubborn and says that he will do as he thinks is right, no matter what me and my father say.

why cant he be as easy going as me? ;)
 
I just started talking to my dad again, last winter. I hadn't spoken to him in about 3 years, but my younger brother was due to graduate from college and I didn't want his celebration to be ruined by tension between my dad and I. When I stopped speaking to him, I had intended it to be temporary. I wouldn't completely cut someone out if I could avoid it. We're working on communicating again.

I don't really speak to anyone on his side, but it's not intentional. I don't avoid them, but I also don't go out of my way to see them and neither do they. At my brother's graduation, I saw my grandparents for the first time since my highschool graduation 7 years before. They're a bit afraid of my brother and I (and my mom's family).
 
Brother and I have had a huge falling out I havent spoken to him in 7 months.
 
I only speak to my brother during crises such as medical emergencies and funerals. I hadn't spoken to my father in 12 years unitl just before his death in the hospital. Even though he was a bad person, I am thankful that I was able to see him before he died. I always said that I couldn't care less if he died or not, but I was wrong.
 
I had a BEST str8 friend that went awol on me a couple of years after i came out to him. We know each other for over twenty plus years and now for the last three years he says he needs space/time.

I have tried to talk with him via letters and not a friggen call. One night my daughter called him and she said that I may be at the bar later. At that point he said he would drop by. However I was at my BF's at the time and I thought okay to meet each other if my daughter was going to be there but he can't take five minutes and call me????? give me a break.


as of this writing I have not seen or talked with the not so best friend any more
 
yeah I had a best friend once too. Yes he was a best friend. We had arguments in the past and other crap like that, but always made up! He was like the brother I never had. Well most of you know the story, cause I've talked about it elsewhere on here. Anyways in the end it came down to a woman. His first GF at the age of 29. He stopped calling me or returning my calls etc. I confronted him about it and somethings were said that I regret saying but in the end we just stopped talking. I do miss him and such cause he was a good friend but you can't turn back time. So well I do mourn the lost of friendship with him....I just go on and hopefully will meet another friend as good as he was.
 
My youngest sister.

I haven't spoken to her since my Mother's funeral two and a half years ago. Probably never will again either. Thank goodness I have a large enough family so when we all get together there are plenty of nice relatives to talk to and I can ignore her.
 
My aunt - for being a mental case (and there are people who think I'm a mental case..they ain't seen nothin') - she used to flip out at me for the least little thing (and I thought I had problems with that), treat me like a child, etc.

My grandmother (that'd be her mother) for being wayyy overly critical and using money to get what she wants (in other words she'd dangle some in front of my eyes - metaphorically speaking - if I did something she approved of).

There's history of mental disorders on all sides of my family and I (with a mental disorder - which is a mood disorder) only have so much patience.
 
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