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Got an AIDS test...

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My condolences. But I can tell you why you SHOULD take the test: If you're infected, you're likely to infect other men AND it will continue to spread this horrible disease. You may not think it matters but it does. It's called the domino effect. Second, taking 25 pills a day is a FAR better alternative to slowly dying in the most humilating and painful way possible.
 
It is scary. I've been safe nearly all the time, but still...you never know.
I got tested a few weeks ago, I was negative and got the result in 20 minutes.
I went through the waiting period for results years ago when I got tested and was jittery about it for a week.

All I can say is hang in there. Which ever way it goes, at least you'll know.


(*8*)
 
Hey pal,
and may i please call you "pal", don't sweat it, it is unbearable, but it isn't ineviatble, we who play with a loaded gun, must be ready for the end results, and I mean whatever they may be. Just know if they are " the horror word" we will be here for ar at least I will, I've lost one too many of my close friends to let any one go thru this alone.
Be strong and be true, you are loved.
 
Taking the test is always a very nervous experence. I've taken about 5 of those and everytime i sweat it off until i get the negative answer. But good for ya on checking yourself out! I know too many ppl who don't want to cuz they're afraid to find out.
 
You did the right thing. Don't sweat it most people come up negative, I know I gave out the test for the last 15 years. I still test twice a year at least, depends, since I broke up with my bf.
 
EmptyPants said:
Ok you found out you have AIDs, now you cant fuck anymore, you cant live life as you wanted, all you can do is sit there and take 25 pills a day to try and prolong the inevitable.
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Who said you can't fuck anymore or live your life the way you wanted? You can do both. Just be responsible and use a condom. And I'm not an expert but I think they have the pill regimen down to just a couple pills. As far as "the inevitable" goes, it's inevitable that we're all gonna die, HIV positive or negative.

yuty said:
If you're infected, you're likely to infect other men AND it will continue to spread this horrible disease.
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Sorry, but that's bullshit. Sure, some guys might go out and have unprotected sex even though they're HIV positive, but to say that it's "likely" is ridiculous and actually offensive to EmptyPants by assuming he would do so. If you're HIV positive and responsible, it's highly unlikely that you'll continue to spread the disease.

gan0n said:
Why take the test? To make sure u aint spreading it!
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Again, BS! You use condoms to make sure "u aint spreading it," not an HIV test. You take the test for your own peace of mind and so that you can start treatment as soon as possible if you are HIV positive.
 
I don't remember those days with any fondness, I always felt so isolated and alone. My heart bleeds for you. (*8*)
 
Rockercub said:
Who said you can't fuck anymore or live your life the way you wanted? You can do both. Just be responsible and use a condom. And I'm not an expert but I think they have the pill regimen down to just a couple pills. As far as "the inevitable" goes, it's inevitable that we're all gonna die, HIV positive or negative.


Sorry, but that's bullshit. Sure, some guys might go out and have unprotected sex even though they're HIV positive, but to say that it's "likely" is ridiculous and actually offensive to EmptyPants by assuming he would do so. If you're HIV positive and responsible, it's highly unlikely that you'll continue to spread the disease.


Again, BS! You use condoms to make sure "u aint spreading it," not an HIV test. You take the test for your own peace of mind and so that you can start treatment as soon as possible if you are HIV positive.
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Your post is the BS.

The last time I checked condoms weren't 100% effective.
Nor will they ever be.

The responsible thing, if positive, would be to abstain from sex with others.

How would you feel if you happened to be that 1% (or less chance) when the condom broke, or was used improperly, etc.?
Just shrug it off and say "Oh well, you did know you were positive but you didn't mean to infect me. By the way, where do you get your prescription filled."
 
Rockercub said:
Sorry, but that's bullshit. Sure, some guys might go out and have unprotected sex even though they're HIV positive, but to say that it's "likely" is ridiculous and actually offensive to EmptyPants by assuming he would do so. If you're HIV positive and responsible, it's highly unlikely that you'll continue to spread the disease.
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EmptyPants said:
Why get a test in the first place ?

Ok you found out you have AIDs, now you cant fuck anymore, you cant live life as you wanted, all you can do is sit there and take 25 pills a day to try and prolong the inevitable.
Or you can just do what you have been doing, fucking, drinking just living life to the fullest and one day you will fall into a plot, just like everybody else will one day anyway.
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It clearly states that he was pondering to NOT take the test regardless of whether or not he had AIDS and just "live life to the fullest". That means having sex whether protected or unprotected. I personally think a person should know so he can properly prepare during sex to risk infection. And an HIV-infected should take even GREATER precautions to prevent HIV infection towards others.
 
Brijan said:
Your post is the BS.

The last time I checked condoms weren't 100% effective.
Nor will they ever be.

The responsible thing, if positive, would be to abstain from sex with others.

How would you feel if you happened to be that 1% (or less chance) when the condom broke, or was used improperly, etc.?
Just shrug it off and say "Oh well, you did know you were positive but you didn't mean to infect me. By the way, where do you get your prescription filled."
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No, actually yours is. I didn't want to get into it, but part of being responsible in my opinion is letting your partner know that you're HIV positive. If the partner is willing to take the risk, and a lot of guys are, then what's the problem? Also, what's the problem with having sex with other HIV positive guys?

Also, you're assuming a 100% transmission rate if the condom fails, and that's just not accurate. I've heard a lot of different numbers, but 1 in 20 is the one that always sticks in my head, and it's a good enough example. So assuming that rate of transmission, the chance is not 1 in 100, it's 1 in 2000. And, you know what? That's just the risk you take if you want to be sexually active. Even if the guy you're with has a negative HIV test from the previous week, it doesn't mean he couldn't have contracted HIV that same week.
 
Rockercub said:
No, actually yours is. I didn't want to get into it, but part of being responsible in my opinion is letting your partner know that you're HIV positive. If the partner is willing to take the risk, and a lot of guys are, then what's the problem? Also, what's the problem with having sex with other HIV positive guys?

Also, you're assuming a 100% transmission rate if the condom fails, and that's just not accurate. I've heard a lot of different numbers, but 1 in 20 is the one that always sticks in my head, and it's a good enough example. So assuming that rate of transmission, the chance is not 1 in 100, it's 1 in 2000. And, you know what? That's just the risk you take if you want to be sexually active. Even if the guy you're with has a negative HIV test from the previous week, it doesn't mean he couldn't have contracted HIV that same week.
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I see your points.
I'm not saying I agree, but I do have something to think about.
 
yuty said:
It clearly states that he was pondering to NOT take the test regardless of whether or not he had AIDS and just "live life to the fullest". That means having sex whether protected or unprotected.
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"Living life to the fullest" means different things to different people. EmptyPants never said anything about whether he engages in unprotected sex. His comment, "But if you do that you have a great chance of increasing the disease, infecting someone else, ruining there life," which I should have called him on as well, could have been an erroneous opinion or it might have meant that he is engaging in unprotected sex. I just don't know -- I'm not a mind-reader. But you're comment is still inaccurate, especially in light of his statement that he wouldn't be able to fuck any more if he was HIV positive. How could he "likely" spread the disease if he wasn't having sex?
 
Brijan said:
The responsible thing, if positive, would be to abstain from sex with others.
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I don't agree with you at all.

first, I dont' see any reason why you can't have sex with other people who are HIV positive.

I also don't see why people can't have sex with people who are HIV positive so long as they understand the risks and are willing to take them.

I've had sex with plenty of guys I knew to be positive, and was willing to take the risk.. which is a lot lower than me getting run over on my motorcycle.

but I'd like to correct something.. you didn't have an AIDS test..you had an HIV test.

HIV causes AIDS.. but not always.. some people who have the virus don't ever get sick. AIDS is the last stages of the condition that HIV often causes.. it's a very important distinction.
 
Rockercub said:
"Living life to the fullest" means different things to different people. EmptyPants never said anything about whether he engages in unprotected sex. His comment, "But if you do that you have a great chance of increasing the disease, infecting someone else, ruining there life," which I should have called him on as well, could have been an erroneous opinion or it might have meant that he is engaging in unprotected sex. I just don't know -- I'm not a mind-reader. But you're comment is still inaccurate, especially in light of his statement that he wouldn't be able to fuck any more if he was HIV positive. How could he "likely" spread the disease if he wasn't having sex?
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That's not the point. He clearly stated he contemplating:

A) The "Fuck It" Approach. He would not have the AIDS test and simply live life as he had before. Meaning have sex, whether protected or not. However this is simply a flawed sentiment. If he IS infected, he will continue to practice his sexual habits whether protected or unprotected. However as any conscious HIV positive person knows your sex life dramatically changes in order to insure that they do not spread the disease. If EmptyPants doesn't know, how can he properly take the steps to insure he doesn't spread the disease. Even if he practices unprotected sex what if he lapses during a particularly hot session or he practices unsafe oral sex he previously would have done if he wasn't HIV positive. YOU'RE assuming whether or not he is HIV positive that he is 100% and completely safe in his sexual habits. Maybe he's only 60% or 70% safe with a few lapses. If he IS HIV-positive and he's conscious enough he would take every step possible to take make the 100% mark.

Also I think you're highly underestimating the rate of transmission of HIV and seriousness of the disease. This isn't a minor disease that can be shrugged off like so. This is a life-altering and quite possibly life-ending disease that can lead to the death of others.

I'd rather not take any chances.
 
fucking excuse me?
where the hell do you get your info?
your info sounds like it came from 20 or so years ago.

being positive means sitting around taking 25 pills a day?
that is abolute bullshit
putting off the inevitivable?
I have been positive for over 20 years and I am nowhere near close to dying
(okay now I cant get hit by a bus tommorowp - knocking on wood)

first of all,
depending on the mix you can get it down to four or five a day
and ending life?
honey, I have more life now
I am continuing to work, love and play

you just have to take the responsibility to protect those that you are having sex with

just make sure you have a good medical team working with you.
 
Soilwork said:
first, I dont' see any reason why you can't have sex with other people who are HIV positive.

I also don't see why people can't have sex with people who are HIV positive so long as they understand the risks and are willing to take them.
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I stand corrected.
Those two behaviour are responsible.

I, admittedly, posted without full thinking through my response.

[exeunt]
 
Regardless of all the bantering going on here right now....good for you for going and taking the test. I had my first just about a month ago and I completely understand the feeling. But its important to be responsible and take the step and go, even if there is no concern, better safe than sorry.

Best wishes :-)
 
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