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Have You told Your Parents.....

Yeah, they're super Christian however so they make it tough on me and my boyfriend. I can't hold his hand, I can't kiss him, and I can't call him baby if we're in their house. So sure, we respect that. My baby brother(who is 3) asked who my boyfriend was. My mom said he was my special friend.

O.o

Oh well, it's my life being bi so mostly everyone knows. I'm still masculine but I do have a thing for the femme guys. *swoon* :D
 
My dad's dead, he never knew.

To everyone else, I told a couple of people so word got around. I never had to make an announcement or anything.
 
Dad's gone, told my mom later in life and basically I'm disowned becuse of it. I stil have hope that she can get bast the BS her religion spews and come to a place of acceptance, but she's 75 so who knows?
 
I'm only out to a few people (not my parents) I'm out to one of my friends, out to my boyfriend (obviously) and i'm out to one of my boyfriends friends lol

Now that I'm seeing someone I'm probably going to come out totally in the next few weeks! I'm building up the courage at the moment :D
 
my parents knew before i did!!!! they just wouldn't admit it to themselves. #-o
 
^ I'm hoping that when I tell my parents they turn around and say

"We already knew"

That would be my ideal coming out situation...
 
I told my mom when I was 15 or 16. It was in the living room. I just sat down, and told her I was gay. She asked if I had had sex with a guy, I said no. She said "ok" and that was it. Over the years (I'm 19) she has tried to convince me it's a phase, tried to set me up with girls, and done other things... She asked me driving to my college orientation if I was still unsure of my sexuallity, I said "nope, I'm sure I'm gay."​
 
MidnightPrism said:
I never had to make an announcement or anything.
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I was going to buy commemorative cards but my parents suggested it would be a waste of a tree. I think I had made it pretty obvious before I thought to tell anyone.

For people not familiar with Toronto it is a very "gay positive" city. Gay couples are quite visible in most neighbourhoods and we have an older gay psychiatrist neighbour with his very hot (much younger) partner living a few doors down.

My dad had the funniest response to my making it official, he said "When you were five you wanted to be a fireman,That lasted a few weeks. I suspect this may only be a phase as well, perhaps not. No need to rush to a decision." It wasn't, he never seemed to mind a bit. My parents always treated my BF's with respect and friendliness. I did get the "play safe" speech but it was judgement free and only typical caring parental intervention.

Most of my friends had similar experiences...One friend in particular was asked by his parents when he was going to come out of the closet. I don't think "coming out" is much of a deal here anymore. Parents would be more shocked and upset if their kids joined the circus, enlisted in the military or dropped out of school.
 
I told my mom years ago. I figured she knew......wrong! THe next 2 years were "do you know about hiv" "could you change if you would"..etc. Now she's cool with me and our relationship is close again. She is terrified for me to tell my dad. He could be W's campaign manager. Just today he was over and immediately started talking about "that faggot Foley". I had to remind him that straight politicians have gotten caught dippin their wick far more and suprisingly he backed off and agreed. We are close cept he thinks I'm straight. I feel if I told him he'd freak for about 2 weeks and then end up in PFLAG, but I respect my mothers request.

Davey
 
My first love, Vincent, and I, came clean to our parents together when we were 18. It was at a quiet dinner at Vincent's parents' house. The moms were not surprised, neither was Vince's dad. My dad struggled with it for a while, but came around to accept it.

Today he thinks of Dave as another son....
 
I told my parents this summer. My stepmom said she knew since I was in highschool :eek: and was obviously cool with it. My dad seemed to take it well at the time, but struggled with it for a few weeks...now he's cool with it and things are back to normal.
 
I outed myself to my last family member about 10 years ago. It was my father. He took it so much better than I expected. Life really is so much easier when all the cards are on the table. Dad's words were "I have a choice, I love you or I lose you."
 
I never thought my parents would handle it well, but i've been mildy surprised. The mind can play tricks, come up with worst case scenario, etc and I was expecting the worst. My mom, who I thought would have a greater difficulty took it quietly and was silent for a long time. Of course I got the obligatory questions of certainty and how did I know for sure. She then and has since wanted my to find someone in this world and not be alone.

That was the attitude I was expecting from my father, however to this day its something he knows and he has indicated either directly or indirectly that my sexuality is something he accepts, but that as far as it goes. If it was possible I am even more emotionally disconnected from him, then before I came out. Since my bf is a big part of my life, its hard to have a "real" relationship with a family member who acknowledges that you're gay, but doesn't want any details.... The fact that I was able to tell both of my parents and continue to have at least support from my mom and still have communication with my dad, no matter how small leaves my grateful, because I know other guys that have worse situations.
 
Told my mom when I was 20, and she said she knew. My sis beat me to it.

Should have seen the sign that my sis knew - hey, Tom Cruise posters on the wall? Consistent talk about my best friend? Hanging out with him, and not with girls? Duh.
 
My parents were great guys, but at some point of time, when I was approaching my 18 th Birthday, they expressed the wish that everyone's private life should be, what it was: PRIVATE.

It did not take a rocket scientist to figure out that they neither wanted to be told nor did they ever really want to discuss the matter at all. This was all very cool with me.

My parents treated a succession of my BFs, over the years, with a great sense of care and propriety. Even when I broke off with one of them, my Mom and he stayed friends for quite some time afterwards.

I was neither disowned nor treated badly by any stretch of imagination. One particularly important aunt on my maternal side, did express her dissastifaction and disapproval. She was sadly delusional and even offered me a substantial amount of cash, 'if I stopped seeing other dudes and got married right away', obviously with a girl of her choice. So, we all carried on loving her but no one ever took her really seriously.

Much as I would love to give credit to my parents for being liberal and very worldly on the subject, for the sake of truth, I cannot really do so.

Much as my parents raised me and brought me up, I did my part to educate them, too. I was a str8 'A' student, every time, all the way. I was a generally liked dude and since I have had this natural tendency to go out and help the people, I was also pretty much of a popular guy around. I have always enjoyed significant support of two of my aunts, who were both without children and who belonged to the 'affluent class'. Yet, my parents knew that I was 'a fierce guy' as my Father put it and, if they had rejected me or even said anything I did not wish to hear, I would have moved on without regrets. At the top of everything, I even had a very nicely paid side job for an 18 year old.

They knew, it was 'love me or lose me'. They actually did not want to escalate the issue and they would have never agreed to give their formal 'blessing' to it, but they were not going to lose me either. So, a sort of 'a workable diplomatic soultion was found' and we all agreed to play by those rules.

SC
 
I never told my mother she died before i get a chance. Then u told my father he was in total deny for a long time. he's better now but who knows.
 
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