How Typical Is It To Finish By Jacking Off?

[straightup]

So I'm bi and I have a gay friend who I regularly fool around with. In fact I'd call him my friend with benefits. We make out and we fondle and feel each other up. And we stroke and suck each other's dicks. So we do just about everything except for anal. It's good too. We get pretty worked up. But then to finish, we always self-pleasure. We lay back and we jack off and cum, usually though on each other, which is cool.

So, since I haven't had a whole lot of sexual experience with other guys, I kind of follow their lead as to how we're both going to climax, especially if they're gay. And with the guys I've been with, it seems like for the most part, and even if I topped for a bit, it often ended that same way.

So I'm curious and my question is....Is it commonplace for gay men to finish themselves off when they hook up with another guy? Is that the norm? Or have I just somehow, through chance, been meeting guys who prefer to do it that way? Cuz it goes totally against the grain of all of my experience with women.

Not that I mind though! It's nice to not feel pressured to make him cum. Plus, it's damn hot to watch him work his meat. And I can still play with his other erogenous parts while he's doing it.

 

[jensu846]

I don't think that is the common practice. I will either get fucked till he cums or blow him till he cums. Usually the only time a guy has to finish himself off is when he's been drinking and just couldn't finish.

 

[62624rd]

everybody is different. Some will be able to cum if you do anal and some perfer to make themself cum. When i was active i perfer to finish up myself. Sometimes i would feel gulity if i did'nt. Just ask him how he perfer to cum

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Sex can be highly emotional. Giving someone your total guard down and control over your orgasms may seem too intimate for him.

 

[phillo]

99.9% of porn scenes end with the models jerking themselves off. I wonder if people are copying porn? I was with a guy the other night, we were close to coming, jerking each other. Before we came he took his own dick I guess assuming we'd do ourselves. I told him I wanted him to get me off, he was ok with me doing the same to him...we then enjoyed a nicely timed mutual jo cumshot.

My first boyfriend used to say "I can jerk myself off anytime" and I think I adopted that attitude. If I'm with another person they're going to get me off whenever possible.

 

[straightup]

99.9% of porn scenes end with the models jerking themselves off. I wonder if people are copying porn?

Interesting you say that cuz I thought of that too. Wondering if the guys I've been with lately are being influenced by the porn they watch. So for me, cuz I see it all of the time in porn too, it's easy to get the impression that that's common practice, to finish yourself off. And that's why I asked about it.

 

[hairymtnman]

I can't imagine rubbing one out to get off. That's what the other guy is for.

 

[28josh7]

I agree ..... so much more sensual if the other guy finishes you off. I can then concentrate more on enjoying every last little touch.

 

[hjsimp_992]

If the guy cant get off by me sucking him, I will have him stroke it why I lick his balls or eat his ass. that alaways does it.

 

[straightup]

Well I'm happy to say that since I posted this question a month ago, our playtime together has evolved. The last few times, we didn't need to finish with jerking ourselves off. We seem to be doing just fine getting each other off now! And that's actually pretty awesome. Because now it feels like sexually, we're really in tune with each other. That's pretty cool.

 

[paulo999]

^ Excellent! I prefer to be finished by the other guy - I can jerk myself any time I like!

 

[palemale]

Each two guys are different. The only time I had a multiple orgasm with a man, I was fucking a young, sexy Latino buddy with a big, 9" cock and great ass. As I was fucking him he started to cum like a fire hose. I had big orgasm while fucking him, kept fucking him and had a second big orgasm about a minute later. When bottoming, I usually cum while being fucked. Sometimes, the top and I cum together while fucking.

 

[inferno]

I prefer to finish myself by jerking off, to be honest. And I'm not offended at all if the person I'm with does the same. It's just more of a speed and grip thing, it's too cumbersome to keep telling them "faster", "slower", "squeeze it harder", "loosen your grip a bit", etc... I'm already heavily turned on by them in the first place, that's not the issue at all. And if I'm getting fucked, I'm usually not hard - it's not that I'm not enjoying it, it's more of a concentration thing. I just can't seem to concentrate on enjoying getting fucked, and me staying hard at the same time, I have to focus on one or the other.

Besides, I love having my face right down by their dick while they are jerking off, feeling their body start to shake just as they are about to cum, and seeing it all up close.

 

[JREWING79]

I enjoy finishing the other guy off and I hope he dose the same for me. However there have been a few guys I had been with that could not get me to "fire one off", so I just did it myself.

 

[gumshoe]

I've been with guys who could only finish themselves off. It's never a big deal but can be limiting sometimes. I can pretty much get off any way. I'd prefer not to finish myself with another guy who has a working hand or mouth or ass or whatever I can rub it against...!

 

[ThomasKibaNaru]

I prefer to finish myself by jerking off, to be honest. And I'm not offended at all if the person I'm with does the same. It's just more of a speed and grip thing, it's too cumbersome to keep telling them "faster", "slower", "squeeze it harder", "loosen your grip a bit", etc... I'm already heavily turned on by them in the first place, that's not the issue at all. And if I'm getting fucked, I'm usually not hard - it's not that I'm not enjoying it, it's more of a concentration thing. I just can't seem to concentrate on enjoying getting fucked, and me staying hard at the same time, I have to focus on one or the other.

Besides, I love having my face right down by their dick while they are jerking off, feeling their body start to shake just as they are about to cum, and seeing it all up close.

What inferno said is true as well having a cum in your face is hot and having on your face driping makes it hotter. Thats my option but tell you truth is hot I have had it done to me a few times and i think it brings guys closer

 

[ThomasKibaNaru]

Also Jacking off is good as well I do it all the time even get my straight friends to do it to me just watching them makes it hot. Jacking off is best when ur more in a group Ive tried it and boy was it steamy