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I feel profoundly unattractive

TheLoveableLoner said:
I have another thread ("Unhappiness and Indecisiveness") about my own struggles. They're very different than yours, though I definitely relate to you in that the negative always sucks and the positive tends to be easily shaken off.
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I'll look for your threads. Feel better though.
 
I do too starting 27 yo. That's why I turn myself into a buyer :mrgreen:
 
IamNoah said:
I feel ugly and undesirable. I feel this way most of the time and the internet makes it much worse. I do not think anyone in my life knows that other than you (I imagine JUB to be one large, kind Native American bear). I'm going to attempt a seven day social media fast. (Why this thread you ask? I'm a millennial that had a malignant narcissist as a parent--it's almost impossible for me not to write random confessional shit that no one cares about). Thank you. Now carry on.
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I feel the same way 92% of the time... then I think about the wonderful things I am able to do when I stop worrying about how others see me or think of me. It gets me through the day. But yea... I'll never look like anyone on a magazine or porn movie, and maybe that is a good thing because it must be difficult to look that way and worry about the day when it starts to fade away.
 
There was a time that I woulda considered myself sorta ugly, now its more-so: I'm by no means cute or hot or goodlooking or anything like that, but I don't consider myself ugly - probably the best way to say it would be, just very dull/plain/average so much so that I'm all but invisible. (funny part about that is I used to joke about wanting a invisibility/cloaking device :lol: well I don't need it because I already am (in a way))

Ofcourse I think with most people its hardest to judge one's own cute-/ugly- -ness...you can only make assumptions. A person really needs someone else to judge/say on that, and problem there is the opinions vary: you may be cute to one guy, and ugly to another at the same time.
 
This is the most recent avatar I've used. If you see Little Richard then you should seek help from some manner of specialist--either for the eyes or the brainView attachment 1098871. :)
 
Harke the Boeotarch said:
I'm sure you have a lot more in common with him than you'd like to admit.
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He's black, I'm biracial. He's a believing Protestant, I'm an atheist who was raised Catholic. He's musically gifted, I am not at all musical (my aunt who is a classically trained concert pianist says I don't even know how to listen to music like an adult). We are both Southern, but he grew up working class/poor. My family has been socially prominent and Upper Middle Class since the 1760's. I do not feel that we share very much, but perhaps. :)
 
IamNoah said:
He's black, I'm biracial. He's a believing Protestant, I'm an atheist who was raised Catholic. He's musically gifted, I am not at all musical (my aunt who is a classically trained concert pianist says I don't even know how to listen to music like an adult). We are both Southern, but he grew up working class/poor. My family has been socially prominent and Upper Middle Class since the 1760's. I do not feel that we share very much, but perhaps. :)
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You look similar to me, but then I'm Dutch.

Most black or coloured people I'm familiar with are not Americans, but Surinamese, people from the Dutch Antilles, Jamaicans or Africans. When I compare you to The Queen of Rock 'n' Roll I may be very biased because I'm also comparing you to other people who aren't part of American society.
 
Harke the Boeotarch said:
You look similar to me, but then I'm Dutch.

Most black or coloured people I'm familiar with are not Americans, but Surinamese, people from the Dutch Antilles, Jamaicans or Africans. When I compare you to The Queen of Rock 'n' Roll I may be very biased because I'm also comparing you to other people who aren't part of American society.
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I believe I could look a bit like people from the Carribean. I've yet to meet an African as pale as me or Little Richard, but ok.
 
Noah, I would characterize your appearance as striking or arresting. But how you look doesn't impress me as much as how well you write does. When you are not just tossing off a quick line, but are trying to express a deeper thought, you handle English so well and so gracefully--correctly written, correctly spelled, and correctly punctuated--that it is a pleasure to read.
 
Thank you--that's honestly the best compliment I've ever gotten.
 
Preach, preach.

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If it's about paying for sex that's nothing to be ashamed of. I will pay Alex Pettyfer any day.
 
I felt unattractive once. But there was no depth, no pathos. I could only dream of being profoundly unattractive; I was merely superficially unattractive.
 
I have pathos. I think I can objectively evaluate my face as attractive--maybe more attractive than mot human faces. But honestly *leans in* "blackness" is a burden in gay contexts--I was fundamentally harmed at 17-18 in ways that mean peace with mirror is not likely this side of the grave. Meh.
 
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