In love with subordinator

[Lahong]

Please help to solve this problem

I own a company. I hire a young man to work for me. Sometimes, he helps me as a personal driver and we talk a lot. He is a very nice, good looking Asian American guy. At the beginining, I just view him like a brother and tried to help him to have a job to overcome his financial problem. He is very greatful young man. He treats me the same as his older brother also a mentor and a helper. Gradually, I can not control my heart over him. I miss him everyday. I can not describe my feeling to him. I believe he is straight. He is also a man of intergrity that I respest in a great deal. I can not focus on my work and many management over him anymore. I think it is a romance. I want to tell him my feeling but I fear.

The more I love hime, the more miserable I become. Should I reveal my feeling to him.

Please help.

Thank you very much

 

[Kabluey]

If you believe he's straight, then it likely won't result in anything positive.
An unwelcome advance from someone in power can be very intimidating and cause hurt and distress.

I'd recommend expanding your social circle and actively seeking someone who is gay and open to dating.

 

[palbert]

Keep a business like relationship with him - and no more.

You are his business superior and employer. Your approaches could be taken as intimidation or sexual harassment. In many jurisdictions (we don't know where you live) that could have very negative implications for you and your company.

Approaching him is asking for trouble, not the least of which could be extortion.

 

[Ninja108]

You are his boss..and that's how it should stay. Anything more then that will be considered sexual harassment at most jobs.

 

[Bi Married Male]

Ahhh, but the taboo lines that could be crossed....and secrets to be kept forever.

 

[Lahong]

There is no sexual harrassment in my mind about this. Pure romance and pure love. He and I are so connected interlectually. He helps me to choose clothes to look younger than my age. I am awalked in many social activities. He helps me to overcome my incofindence about myself. I feel inferior when being around him. Only thing I have is more financial advantage. I tried to give him a hint that I will help him but he tried to be fair with his performance. Once he invited me to a Italian restaurant. Like other time, I tried to pay because "I am a boss". I found down that he already paid and told me that he invited me. I am so devastated to fall into this emotional stage. We did share so much stories about our sex life. He has a girlfriend but he does not have any plan to marry her and dónt want to be a husband. That is what he told me.

 

[Lahong]

Ahhh, but the taboo lines that could be crossed....and secrets to be kept forever.

Can you tell me if I have money, can I have him? I love him so dearly. I want to express this love to him. If someone tell me to suppress my feeling, it is like living in closet again. I am crying when thinking about the situation right now.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I find it sad that you zeroed in on the one post that gives you false hope, and that your response was to ask if you could have him because you have money.

Think about the great qualities in him that you love and desire, and then look at the ones you're displaying to get him.

 

[leomendez93]

Trust a mature mind and who has been in business a long time: he can file sexual harassment and you and your business are screwed. Either let him go and then ask him out but even then do it slowly. If he works for you, the court will see it as sexual harrassment.

 

[Str8Top14701]

Don't shit where you eat.

 

[Lahong]

I ran with him this morning. We had great conversation. I believe he knows I have a special relationship on him. It is hard too hide my feelings.