just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[sixthson]

mini-venting... I wish I knew what the hell this guy's deal was.

I'm like 75% sure he's gay and I thought he had a crush on me in high school. recently, I've felt like he's trying to rekindle our friendship (this is like +10 years after graduation)... we've hung out a couple times, but I can't get a read on how he actually feels about me (eg: friends or more than friends).

I should say, I keep getting a more than friends vibe, but then every time we hang out, he's always encouraging me to invite mutual friends along so it's not just us two.

Maybe you intimidate him? Maybe he doesn't like the responsibility of carry a one-on-one conversation?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

IS he gay? Maybe he's trying to be social with you on what he THINKS is on your level ?

"Gotta act a certain way around the gay guy I'm trying to be friends with, even though it makes me uncomfortable."

 

[borg69unimatrix]

could be! but he identifies as bi on his FB page and acts fairly effeminate (and did in hs too), so I'm at least reasonably sure that he's not straight.

I'm pretty dense when it comes to subtle flirting. If it's not EXTREMELY obvious, I pretty much have to have a house fall on me to realize it's going on.

 

[refujiunderground]

Yeah, I had to deal with a bunch of self-flagellating about-to-turn-twenty-eight-ers earlier this month. Jesus, they wouldn't stop. "I guess this is it." "My life is kinda over now." "Guys, I'm officially old." Oh, snap the fuck out of it. I'm 43 and more awesome than all of them (and you, ref) put together. Stop looking to the stars and tea leaves and "27 clubs" to tell you how your life is going. Stop existing. Start living.

Lex

naw, man. this is kind of different or at least this morning it was. it has nothing to do with getting old or whatever. that doesn't bother me at all. it's one of those six sense kind of moments.

 

[G-Lexington]

mini-venting... I wish I knew what the hell this guy's deal was.

I'm like 75% sure he's gay and I thought he had a crush on me in high school. recently, I've felt like he's trying to rekindle our friendship (this is like +10 years after graduation)... we've hung out a couple times, but I can't get a read on how he actually feels about me (eg: friends or more than friends).

I should say, I keep getting a more than friends vibe, but then every time we hang out, he's always encouraging me to invite mutual friends along so it's not just us two.

Flirt back. Be a bit more obvious than he's being. You'll find out soon enough.

Lex

 

[borg69unimatrix]

naw, man. this is kind of different or at least this morning it was. it has nothing to do with getting old or whatever. that doesn't bother me at all. it's one of those six sense kind of moments.

Refuji - in the kindest way possible, I"m going to remind you that you're OCD, Depressed, and borderline bipolar (by your admittance). Therefore, you cannot always believe EVERYTHING your mind tells you. Sometimes, no matter how real it FEELS, your own brain is lying to you. Please keep this in mind and do not dwell on those kind of thoughts.

 

[refujiunderground]

Refuji - in the kindest way possible, I"m going to remind you that you're OCD, Depressed, and borderline bipolar (by your admittance). Therefore, you cannot always believe EVERYTHING your mind tells you. Sometimes, no matter how real it FEELS, your own brain is lying to you. Please keep this in mind and do not dwell on those kind of thoughts.

last night that's exactly what happened. you know, now that you mentioned it, i think the most hardest part and painful is that my own family, my mother, my brother and my father do NOT know what i'm going through and when i try to explain it to them, they don't get it.

in fact, telling my mom about having ocd yesterday and even telling her way back that i think i have a problem at 14 in high school felt like coming out except i felt like everytime i try to explain myself to her, she just is like . it's like "you can't say that you have a problem. you don't have ocd. ocd is when you wash your hands 50 times a day and you don't do that." it was the same thing when i told her that i was depressed when i started out college, "you're not depressed. you just need a girlfriend or you need to go out and do something." so i still have this thing in my head where i can't admit that i have a problem.

you know, i know that i still have to do what i have to do BUT it's hard when i'm under pressure dealing with myself, i know i have to get a job and etc BUT then i also have the people around me putting pressure on me as well. it's like damn... i want to just explode.

 

[Nishin]

Lex, we all go through a phase in our late 20s, and especially when we turn 30, that we feel old. [...]

Nop

 

[xbuzzerx]

That was me all over, Johann. And my coworkers knew it, so they all wore black on my 30th birthday and gifted me old people paraphenelia.

 

[Lefty]

@ Fuji.....
If you persist in this silliness, at least name me as principal benefactor in the will.

@ Loki....
The boy may be trying to do it as a group with straight acquaintances because he
is afraid the animal magnetism and 10 years of burning desire that would fuliminate
in ferociously savage sexual activities might be quelled within a group to just the
hyper subtle groping. That or he is not sure how 'far' you are into gay and does
not want to embarrass either of you at first.

@ Borgie...
I thought my answer was more positive than yours to horned up Loki. As to you
being dense, everyone in the unimatrix knows you consider a lump in the front
of a suit as obvious and outrageous flirting..

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damn, pic won't show...(half the attempt at a funny here)

http://**********.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/gay-porn-super-heroes.jpg

 

[borg69unimatrix]

last night that's exactly what happened. you know, now that you mentioned it, i think the most hardest part and painful is that my own family, my mother, my brother and my father do NOT know what i'm going through and when i try to explain it to them, they don't get it.

in fact, telling my mom about having ocd yesterday and even telling her way back that i think i have a problem at 14 in high school felt like coming out except i felt like everytime i try to explain myself to her, she just is like . it's like "you can't say that you have a problem. you don't have ocd. ocd is when you wash your hands 50 times a day and you don't do that." it was the same thing when i told her that i was depressed when i started out college, "you're not depressed. you just need a girlfriend or you need to go out and do something." so i still have this thing in my head where i can't admit that i have a problem.

you know, i know that i still have to do what i have to do BUT it's hard when i'm under pressure dealing with myself, i know i have to get a job and etc BUT then i also have the people around me putting pressure on me as well. it's like damn... i want to just explode.

Unfortunately, they have NO frame of reference to what you're going through. There is no way for them to put on the same "glasses" and see the world the way you were wired to see it. And, unfortunately, they're right in the sense that you cannot let it rule your life. You have to get up, go to work, and face the day like everyone else... even if it is more challenging for you then it seems like it is for everyone else.

 

[Lefty]

Seriously Fuji,

My old bud from the Borg is right on.

Since you don't like (hate actually) when 'they' tell you what you have/don't have.
Maybe its' time for Fuji to tell HIMSELF and fuck what those others think he has.

Like most people they have tons of their own core rats to kill and when they can't
will retaliate by verbal, physical abuse or demanding you conform to their issues.

Confide in your counselor (3rd party) who may SUGGEST alternative view points
for you to consider. Or bring a pinch of salt and tell all here.

Friend, I've learned one thing...you can't cure the haters (any kind or type) but
you don't have to go into their playground either. Remember fences are not the
only buffers, look at ducks backs and water.

 

[Nishin]

That didn't happen with you, Nishin?

Most people do. 30, in fact, can seem particularly crushing to gay men.

It didn't (yet??)... I know and fell I am getting older... but not Old
No trauma whatsoever, quite the opposite instead, I more than often feel immature compared to my peers so I will at least enjoy the physical respectability that comes with age !

 

[rareboy]

I am really sad people commenting on my tanned skin and said I look less attractive now, bitches, I spent 2 months on the beach, of course I am getting a tan! And there's no guys around my place for me!

We'd all love your tan.

Is it an all over tan?

Pics please.

 

[G-Lexington]

Lex, we all go through a phase in our late 20s, and especially when we turn 30, that we feel old. Most people find turning 30, in particular, quite traumatic; everybody I know has fallen into a depression at that point. I see it as quite normal.

I certainly didn't either. I had a bout of depression a few years ago, but I'm positive it didn't have anything to do with my age. And yeah, I sometimes wish I was trimmer or full-headed or more limber like I was at age 21. But compared to everything I've gained since then, there's really no comparison.

Lex

 

[xbuzzerx]

You know what feels completely cuckoo?

When you're insanely attracted to someone because of their intelligence.

And yes--since the confessions thread is AWOL right now--this is going to have to be where I drop my shit for the time being.

Do you have an infatuation with Stephen Hawkings?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

You know what feels completely cuckoo?

When you're insanely attracted to someone because of their intelligence.

And yes--since the confessions thread is AWOL right now--this is going to have to be where I drop my shit for the time being.

Einstein was sexy, wasn't he???

 

[xbuzzerx]

uh...actually, I mean people that I know on a more personal level.

.... President Obama?! When did you meet him?

 

[refujiunderground]

Einstein was sexy, wasn't he???

a 70 year old head on a 23 year old's body.

 

[G-Lexington]

You know what feels completely cuckoo?

When you're insanely attracted to someone because of their intelligence.

Not cuckoo at all. I get that way too. But it has to be done correctly for it to work on me. They have to show they've got a really quick mind, but without belittling others. That's apparently not so common.

Lex