just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[G-Lexington]

Lately, friends of mine (who know that I am talented with a camera) have been begging me to do portraits for them. Problem is, I don't like portraits, I like street photography. I love candids and the like. Buildings, street scenes, not posed photos. It's frustrating that few of them understand me, and when I try to explain it to them, they seem to not get it. Meanwhile, I never want to come off as a hard ass, so I end up just giving in to their demands. Ugh.

I was asked to do some portraits for a group. I told them I would under one stipulation - that I was in charge. I was going to take the photos as I saw fit, rather than what they were hoping for. I said "If you want photos of you standing in front of the pretty backdrop smiling vacantly, I'm not the right person for you." They thought it over, and decided to have me do it anyway.

I didn't do anything weird. I just put them in unusual groups, and stood in weird places to get the angles I wanted. (I lay down on the floor more than once.) But the pictures actually came out really well. They were very pleased with them.

Lex

 

[refujiunderground]

Just ride it. Keep the sexy going for as long as you can.

Lex

i'm trying but damn..... this is too much.

 

[G-Lexington]

That's precisely what it's supposed to be like. Keep going.

Lex

 

[G-Lexington]

I'd like to repeat a theory I'd heard.

They say it takes 1000 hours of pure listening (no talking) to hear all of the sounds of a foreign language. For example, it would take a 1000 hours of listening to Mandarin Chinese before we Westerners could hear all the tones.

With this in mind, I wonder if it would work for music? I could listen to the 1000 hours of rap music at night while I sleep.

I don't suggest this in any way to learn to kiss anybody's tail, or anything. In my case, I would find it an interesting experiment in neurology, to see what would happen in terms of a physical brain.

The words "Stockholm Syndrome" come to mind.

Honestly, I've ended up finding things to enjoy in musical forms when I'm forced to listen to them. I was stuck somewhere where everybody listened to modern country in the early 90s for several months. I didn't come away from that with a huge appreciation of modern country (or early 90s country), but I did find songs I liked, and artists I thought were pretty good.

Should people be forced to "get" bands and styles that they dislike? Not at all. There's nothing wrong with saying "I don't like (style)" or "(artist) doesn't do a thing for me". It's when people choose to deride the style, artists, and fans that my hackles get raised.

Lex

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Just say no Lex.

I guess it would depend on what "sparky spark boom boom" is. Right now, I'm thinking it's "sex on weed".

Lex

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I am having the strangest case of Deja Vu -

I swear I've seen this conversation before ?!?!

 

[refujiunderground]

That's precisely what it's supposed to be like. Keep going.

Lex

well, i took your advice and WOW!!!!!! i don't know what it was. if it was the pic of the guy that i was jerking off to, the fact that it took like an hour to bust a nut, if the curtains was closed or if it was something else, i busted one of the biggest nuts in my life and i squirted. it landed all over my shirt and my right hand. think some of it may have shot out on the floor. DAMN!!!!! i just whipped some of it off my neck.

then next thing you know, the upstairs phone starts running and i'm in total disbelief figuring whether i should get the phone even though there's still semen all over my hand and shirt or if i should continue to clean up. DAMN!!!!!!!!!! can't even say that it felt good. just can't believe i had all that much semen inside of me. i jerked off twice yesterday then took like a 12 hour break so i dunno if that was it. that's crazy.

i'm contemplating on whether i should go to sleep for a second and then go to the gym because damn, that was too much.

 

[Scealle]

Wow you jacked for an hour? Damn and you sure is a "hot spring" if you know what I mean.

 

[bankside]

Some musical genres speak to a certain experience or a certain background that sometimes others can't appreciate even secondhand, yes.

For me that genre would be country. I just can't like it. However while I could go off on some rant about hicks and rednecks and annoying twangs and cowboy boots-- I won't because that's not the reason I don't like country.

The fact that people who attack rap can never quite seem to attack the class or quality of the people who make or listen to it is part of why people get defensive about it. Your post unfortunately wasn't an exception. The inability to simply say "I don't like it" and the need to go further and attack what it represents, the class of people who it appeals to or whatever else-- is why people recoil and feel something more than a subjective dislike of the music is driving you.

But my post wasn't even about rap; it was about life events and insights that are so different that it is difficult to even discuss the difference. The rap opinion was beside the point, though it did serve to illustrate it. Probably what rap advocates, perhaps including yourself, forget, is that rap can raise issues that provoke defensiveness as well.

When I was writing my unvarnished opinion of rap, it is because I think it is better to express opinions, particularly when a person is willing to change them, than politely tuck them away. Do you think country music comes from a bunch of hicks and rednecks? If there is a reason you can't like country music (neither can I, btw) then what is it?

I should have added in my earlier post an idea that runs throughout a lot of my posts on JUB: I don't believe calling something "cultural" entitles it to any special respect as an idea. I think we all need to be free to have conversations which are critical of various traits, attitudes, practices, art forms, assumptions, political structures, that some person or another might consider to be part of their cultural legacy. My commitment is to respecting people's individual humanity; but all of us inherit and create our own contributions to culture that are open to criticism by others. Sometimes people confuse the two.

 

[refujiunderground]

Wow you jacked for an hour? Damn and you sure is a "hot spring" if you know what I mean.

yeah, it varies. sometimes, 5 or 10 minutes and sometimes for an hour, two hours and etc. there was one time where i tried to jerk off to this porn brent corrigan was in for two hours and i couldn't get it off. my dick went from hard to limp, then just refused to get up.

and naw, i don't get what you mean as in "hot spring".

 

[Scealle]

yeah, it varies. sometimes, 5 or 10 minutes and sometimes for an hour, two hours and etc. there was one time where i tried to jerk off to this porn brent corrigan was in for two hours and i couldn't get it off. my dick went from hard to limp, then just refused to get up.

and naw, i don't get what you mean as in "hot spring".

Doesn't two hours of stroking hurts? Brent Corrigan? Guessing that you like twinks?
I meant to say Spring/ Geyser because of the ejaculation.

 

[xbuzzerx]

But my post wasn't even about rap; it was about life events and insights that are so different that it is difficult to even discuss the difference. The rap opinion was beside the point, though it did serve to illustrate it. Probably what rap advocates, perhaps including yourself, forget, is that rap can raise issues that provoke defensiveness as well.

When I was writing my unvarnished opinion of rap, it is because I think it is better to express opinions, particularly when a person is willing to change them, than politely tuck them away. Do you think country music comes from a bunch of hicks and rednecks? If there is a reason you can't like country music (neither can I, btw) then what is it?

I should have added in my earlier post an idea that runs throughout a lot of my posts on JUB: I don't believe calling something "cultural" entitles it to any special respect as an idea. I think we all need to be free to have conversations which are critical of various traits, attitudes, practices, art forms, assumptions, political structures, that some person or another might consider to be part of their cultural legacy. My commitment is to respecting people's individual humanity; but all of us inherit and create our own contributions to culture that are open to criticism by others. Sometimes people confuse the two.

I agree with everything you're saying here. However, I think one of the disconnects we might be having is that class in the U.S. is so underdiscussed-- and when it is discussed, it's so frequently code talk for race.

That's part of what people react defensively about, I think. And unfortunately in the U.S. it's almost impossible to talk about class and not talk about race. The overlap is enormous.

You aren't from the U.S., so I'm just pointing this out to you that that's part of the difficulty of having the discussion with Americans I think when it gets into the issue of how the genre speaks to "low class" or whatever else.

 

[G-Lexington]

well, i took your advice and WOW!!!!!!

That's what sex is supposed to be like.

Lex

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Johann -

What could you find in a library that you couldn't find on line???

2500 years ago they had the Oracle and the scrolls in Alexandria - today we have GOOGLE.

 

[maxpowr9]

Brent Corrigan is so gross... I can't look at him without thinking that he looks like a washed up coke whore, even in the movies he did when he was like 18.

Most porn stars look gross after a while, either with excessive tattoos or too many drugs.

Most people don't even realize that they are heavily covered in cosmetics. Although there are some poor sites I have seen that are just lolz with the trash they allow on.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Johann -

What could you find in a library that you couldn't find on line???

2500 years ago they had the Oracle and the scrolls in Alexandria - today we have GOOGLE.

I still get mad at the Romans when I think about that.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

@ALL:

Have you ever heard of the automated system? Does your local library use it? I found a link:

http://knowledgecenter.unr.edu/libraries/kc/about/mars.aspx

In the movie "Minority Report", they stored criminals in much the same way.

 

[G-Lexington]

Our library has no card catalog anymore, but the terminals are open for everybody to use to look up where something is. Then you actually walk over and get the book. I'm assuming ours will look like yours someday.

Lex

 

[xbuzzerx]

^

Lexy, I don't like the new system much, because it discourages browsing.

I used to spend hours in Getchell Library, just browsing. Sometimes, I'd just walk the orange-day-glow floors, and stop at random. Very often, I'd find something that would catch my interest, and it'd absorb me for the next few hours. Often, I'd lose track of time, until nature called.

Something else:

Remember seeing those guys who'd start weeping when they saw a theatre getting demolished? Christopher Reed did that once. Now, after watching a Youtube video about Getchell Library, the same thing happened to me.

What is it about seeing a building destroyed (or abandoned) that touches our emotions?

We have a very great need to feel like we can experience a place where so many people have been before us. It's a connection to the human past.

 

[G-Lexington]

There's something that SEEMS very permanent about a building. They often last as long as we humans do, and sometimes much longer. No one moves into a house, or even an apartment building, thinking of it as a "temporary edifice". It's a BUILDING. It's DONE. You picture it being there always and always.

Lex

 

[Sparky-Sparky-Boom-Boom]

^ I agree, absolutely love library especially historical. There something about the history of knowledge thats so profound and defines our evolution of thinking and discovery.