ok i did it.

[jensu846]

I had some type of sex with an HIV positive man, I knew it going into it. This is something I said I would NEVER do, but I think with all the education, that will be ok.. I never kissed his lips. I did jack him off meanwhile I was licking his taint. got a little precum on my hands. a few pubic hairs in my throat. But thats about it,. he never came either, I am just ranting hoping someone will tell me not to worry cuz what i did is relatively safe. thanks.

 

[nafhoosier]

HIV positive people are Not the enemy in our fight against the virus.

It is positive people who do NOT know that they are positive. This is how over 60% of infections occur.

I am not a psychic and I don't read minds, but from you say, you are not at risk for HIV.

You don't get HIV from simply jacking somebody off (there might be a risk if you injected semen into a new fresh wound---- why would you do that?) and you don't get it from a pubic hair.

You may be ranting - but it won't change anything.

Also - I know (because I'm smart) that you did this while drunk or high.

Be smart - don't have sex or do anything under the influence.

It doesn't matter this time - you weren't infected. But for future reference - take note.

Best.

 

[Westatl]

Hmmmm....okay...I'm really not sure how to take your post. I don't want to 'flame' you here but seriously, you can NEVER be sure that the person you have sex with is NOT HIV. You should always approach each person as if they do have HIV. That way you will always play safe.

I am HIV+. Have been for 20 years. My partner is negative, and we have been together for 15 years. It can work, and it does work.
We deep kiss, rim, suck and pretty much have a normal sex life...well as 'normal' can be. But neither He nor I feel like we are 'missing' anything.
Just never assume that they guy telling you hes negative has been tested, or even telling the truth, especially if you don't know him or is a one time hook-up.

My best to you..

 

[jensu846]

thanks for the reply, but i was sober. so you are wrong on that aspect of it. But i hope you are right about all the rest of it. He was very courteous, and said dont do anything you dont want to. he was even patient with all my inane routine questions about HIV.. he wanted to make out and kiss, , but I just couldnt see myself doing that. I did lick his dick tho (just the hard shaft) stayed away from the tip cuz he was leaking precum. wanted to eat his ass too but just before I was gonna go that he spit on his hand and used it as lube for his hole for his dildo. So, i backed off again, not knowing if I can rim a guy with his saliva all over his hole.

 

[FutureSomeone]

I had some type of sex with an HIV positive man, I knew it going into it. This is something I said I would NEVER do, but I think with all the education, that will be ok.. I never kissed his lips. I did jack him off meanwhile I was licking his taint. got a little precum on my hands. a few pubic hairs in my throat. But thats about it,. he never came either, I am just ranting hoping someone will tell me not to worry cuz what i did is relatively safe. thanks.

May I ask why you decided to hook up with someone HIV+? I mean because you said you never would, so what prompted you to? Do you think you'll see this person again? I'm sure you're fine though, I'm sure there are plenty of us who hooked up with HIV+ people without knowing, but it's good that you were cautious. Like westatl said, "You should always approach each person as if they do have HIV."

 

[jensu846]

May I ask why you decided to hook up with someone HIV+? I mean because you said you never would, so what prompted you to? Do you think you'll see this person again? I'm sure you're fine though, I'm sure there are plenty of us who hooked up with HIV+ people without knowing, but it's good that you were cautious. Like westatl said, "You should always approach each person as if they do have HIV."

I really cant say why. I have always been curious I guess. he looked amazing and had a great body. which scares me a little knowing I would have or probly already have hoooked up with such a nice bodied man... I racked my brain as to why and really cant answer it. I want to see him again as friends, cuz he says he is so lonely. hes 29. and has absolutely no one. I feel bad for him, maybe thats why i offered him my company.. i dont know. the last thing he said to me as i was leaving was lets stay in touch, I would like to be friends. that just made my heart melt. I am thinking about texting him tonite, but I dont want to seem toooo clingy. I know we will never really be more than friends but still.. I enjoyed laying on his bed stroking his dick and chatting about life.

 

[FutureSomeone]

I really cant say why. I have always been curious I guess. he looked amazing and had a great body. which scares me a little knowing I would have or probly already have hoooked up with such a nice bodied man... I racked my brain as to why and really cant answer it. I want to see him again as friends, cuz he says he is so lonely. hes 29. and has absolutely no one. I feel bad for him, maybe thats why i offered him my company.. i dont know. the last thing he said to me as i was leaving was lets stay in touch, I would like to be friends. that just made my heart melt. I am thinking about texting him tonite, but I dont want to seem toooo clingy. I know we will never really be more than friends but still.. I enjoyed laying on his bed stroking his dick and chatting about life.

Aww that sounds very nice! I'd text him tonight, I don't think you'd come off as clingy, especially if he's lonely. I'm sure he'd really appreciate it.

Good luck!

 

[Aymotin]

Thankfully HIV is not such a easily transfered disease.

I think it might be a wonderful thing to become friends with him and it could become a very rewarding friendship for both of you. The problem is that the honest and responsible persons who communicate that they are HIV+ are treated badly while the dishonest and the criminaly irrespobsible persons live a normal life.

Again: HIV is not easily transmitted. It takes blood or sperm in a significant dose to be absorbed by your body. You will not become HIV+ by jerking someone off or kissing.

 

[bogamer]

I think you should reach out and text him. Even if you don't want to pursue a romantic or sexual relationship, he probably needs a friend or two. Even if you seem clingy (which I highly doubt), what's the worst that can happen?