"Outed" by girls?

[mega]

Maybe you follow your co-worker's example and just come out...

 

[iah822003]

I know exactly what you mean... happening to me at the moment. I've been out to friends and family for a few years now and have finally accepted myself for who I am. But I don't want all the people at work to know, just simply because I feel that it's none of their business. However most of the people where I work are women, and they tend to ask me a lot of questions... the matter got even worse as there is a girl who apparently really likes me. I've tried giving hints and stuff which I think most of them have got (except her, although she's left me alone now, at last!), and I don't care if they think I am gay, I just don't want them to have to force it out of me.

 

[sunshinesteve]

You obviously have a big pink triangle tattooed on your forehead, just give up the charade and be yourself, seems you aint fooling anyone

 

[iah822003]

You obviously have a big pink triangle tattooed on your forehead, just give up the charade and be yourself, seems you aint fooling anyone

Fuck that! They'd then just be asking me yet more questions like what's it like taking it up the shitter and other more personal questions which I would rather not divulge (you know how persistent some people can be...) I'd rather leave them in the dark, thank you very much...

 

[CGHJ]

Hello, let me give you a great piece of advice. Tell the girls you're gay and let them hook you up. Or tell them you're bi...I've got a girl trying to hook me up with her boyfriend right now.

 

[Frafilippolippi]

I know exactly what you mean... happening to me at the moment. I've been out to friends and family for a few years now and have finally accepted myself for who I am. But I don't want all the people at work to know, just simply because I feel that it's none of their business. However most of the people where I work are women, and they tend to ask me a lot of questions... the matter got even worse as there is a girl who apparently really likes me. I've tried giving hints and stuff which I think most of them have got (except her, although she's left me alone now, at last!), and I don't care if they think I am gay, I just don't want them to have to force it out of me.

I know this exact situation, because I've been in it. My solution: turn the tables and enjoy driving them nuts trying to figure you out.

This is a personal favourite. I tell anyone who asks what my orientation is (think it must be obvious but whatever) but if the person is a real ass, or I want to bug them, I just tell them I like twins. It's very confusing for them and gives you time to get the hell away from them and go get laid.

 

[TheTrish]

As for the girls I wouldn't say they were judgemental in any particular way or even intolerant but what they do seem to be is "curious".

Hi, Opt! Girls are not curious as to whether they have figured something out. Girls are curious as to whether you are available to them. The next tume a nosey girl asks, you answer "Bend over in the storage room, and we'll see!" LOL

T

 

[iah822003]

Plus, I also have a different relationship with the girls than other guys do. I mean, I notice they will talk about guys they have the hots for in front of me which they wouldn't do with other men. They will tell me their problems they have with their boyfriends even. I think the plain truth is girls simply know I'm gay within a short space of time but I just don't want to lay my cards down on the table. Also I can't quite figure out what the big deal is and why I get the third degree.

That's exactly what happens to me and how I feel. It's so annoying...

 

[TheTrish]

I detect an element of teasing when they raise the topic of my being or not being gay. You know it's like "you can't fool me!". However, they include me in their own little group and everything is reasonably cool so long as the discussion doesn't stray in the direction of my sexual orientation.
You know something else? Once the girls took me aside at a party and set to work with makeup, getting me up as a Rocky Horror character for a fancy dress. They seemed to love it too. I had a few drinks that night and just let them get on with it.

Hi, Opt! I hear you. Believe me, tho, these girls are just sizing you up, there is no guessing game of "Is he?" going on. If you like one, let her know.

Oh, yeah, you should hear the sexual gossip among girls! hehe LOL

T

 

[TheTrish]

I guess it kind of pushes a button when girls delve into my personal sexuality. It feels somehow awkward when they can see through you and detect things on a personal level.
Here is something I don't understand, though: I hear Madonna has a brother who is gay and apparently she used to like to watch her brother make out with guys. Of course, Madonna herself is gay, according to other women who knew her over the years.
Is it just a small minority of women who like to see all guy action, possibly in an erotic flic? Any thoughts?
My own hunch is only a small minority of women share Madonna's predilection for liking gay sex between guys. However, I did once have a female netfriend in LA who told me she liked watching guys in gay blue movies.

Hi, Opt! Girls have no "awkward" button, so they are not trying to push yours. I still think it's just flirting.

So, you didn't answer, do you like one of em? See, no "awkward" button here. LOL

No, gay sex itself does not do anything for me, personally. But gay sex in a MMF, a guy and a girl sucking a cock, thrills me! hehe

T

 

[TheTrish]

Yes, there were some pretty hot girls working with us. My gay friend from Mexico had a sister too and he introduced me to her once. She came in with these hot-pants on and bronze skin and she was something to see. She had travelled from Mexico to visit her brother which is why I came to meet her.
So, she was one girl I had the hots for.
The situation where a guy and a girl suck cock together seems pretty rare to me but I'm sure it does happen.
From what girls have told me personally, I know what they do get thrilled by is being between 2 guys - boy/boy/girl. However, it's not a gay fantasy but more of a 2 hunk fantasy scenario with the lady being the centre of attention.

Hi, Opt! Yes, what I like is two guys pleasing me but also pleasing each other, and we'd share a cock. My ultimate fantasy would be for the wrestler Triple H to spread me on a bed and FUCK me and Goldberg to mount his bucking ass and FUCK him! hehe

LOL I've just written a porn script! LOL

So, are you interested in a HOT girl? hehe

T

 

[wanderer]

they may just be joking like that in an attempt of "fish" any answer out of you. they dont know for sure, and perhaps are interested in you, and the only way for them to find out is joke around. if you want to stop this, why not try joking back, make up things to say, and ask them i they "carpet munch" from time to time and if they do ask to watch. i assume they will have a stunned look on their face and stop after that.

i have had a similar situation where i thought i would be outed. but she was a nice girl and i eventually stopped worring. the problem that complicates things is this. if you read my profile you will see the bi part, which is true. this girl was hot, and it was at a late party where everyone was to sleep over. well when i come into the room i find her in my bed. it was obvious what she wanted (or was it the hint of her trying to pull my swim shorts off during the swimming part of the party?) anyway, i get in there, and as we talk she tells me she is almost 18, while her hand is fondling my hard dick in my pants. i wanted to go for it, but i really worried about the under 18 part, and the fact that since she was a co-worker, that might just complicate things. i think i made the best decision to not let it go any further, but i still wonder if she thought i just didnt like girls. thank god she wasnt the type to go open her mouth to everyone about it.

she was very understanding, and told me she wanted me as soon as she turned 18. but i moved away to college, and now that im back, i cant find her. damn!!!

 

[Caution]

Yes, there were some pretty hot girls working with us. My gay friend from Mexico had a sister too and he introduced me to her once. She came in with these hot-pants on and bronze skin and she was something to see. She had travelled from Mexico to visit her brother which is why I came to meet her.
So, she was one girl I had the hots for.
The situation where a guy and a girl suck cock together seems pretty rare to me but I'm sure it does happen.
From what girls have told me personally, I know what they do get thrilled by is being between 2 guys - boy/boy/girl. However, it's not a gay fantasy but more of a 2 hunk fantasy scenario with the lady being the centre of attention.

she was so hott, all you can talk about is her pants and skin

 

[TheTrish]

they may just be joking like that in an attempt of "fish" any answer out of you. they dont know for sure, and perhaps are interested in you, and the only way for them to find out is joke around....

...i think i made the best decision to not let it go any further, but i still wonder if she thought i just didnt like girls. thank god she wasnt the type to go open her mouth to everyone about it.

Hi, wand! These girls just need a HOT beef injection and are trying to get Opt's beef! hehe

No, no girl thinks a guy doesn't want em. hehe

T

 

[wanderer]

Hi, wand! These girls just need a HOT beef injection and are trying to get Opt's beef! hehe

No, no girl thinks a guy doesn't want em. hehe

T

this sounds familiar to me...LOL, there are 2 girls at this exact moment that want a hot beef injection from me. and its driving them crazy.

 

[WRITERPAUL]

Just come out. Then those girls won't have anything to discuss because it'll be in the open.

 

[TheTrish]

this sounds familiar to me...LOL, there are 2 girls at this exact moment that want a hot beef injection from me. and its driving them crazy.

Hi, wand! It's rude not to inject girls in need. LOL

T

 

[Danugh]

Yup many times, i guess they have a finely tuned gaydar. The thing with me though is that i am masculine if i dont move but in converation i tend to move my hands, gesticulate and girls always pick that up. They pick up the slightest clues and run with it and i cant stand it , it makes me more self concious that i have to man up and pretend heterosexuality. Im getting better.

 

[Danugh]

i really don't care if people think im gay or not cause in the end they will still like me

Great attitude

 

[starlight70]

Girls are girls. They sense.

Especially when a guy is cute, and at the age where he shold have settled down. they talk. I knew that my female colleagues talked about me behind my back, but I did not care much, as apart from that - they were nice colleagues. I knew that my colleagues were mostly talking about whether I was or not, and not that being gay was evil.

So, once J found out my blog (old blog) where i talked about my new found love, and also my colleagues, including her. She did not tell anyone.

One day, as we headed out for a meal, I suddenly got tired of keeping her and the others out of my 'world'. I told myself that if I were to consider them as important people in my life, I should open my door to them.

She was driving, and I told her that I wanted to tell her something BIG.

She told me to hold on - and told me this bullshit that she was in love with my bitchy boss and how she was a lesbian all along. And then, she started to laugh and said she was only kidding - which she went on to say that her actual big secret was that she knew my secret.

There.

But the only 'girl' who out-ed me by surprise was my royal MOM-ness. At lunch, she casually told me that my sis-in-law knew about me. I asked her how - and she said that she told her that the guy who came for dinner once was my bf.

There. Gee, thank you, MOM.