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ok so I need some advice from u lovely people.

Im 25 years old and still in the closet. I say I am bisexual but in all reality I don't like labels, I prefer to say that Im happy with whomever I wanna be happy with, man or woman don't matter.

Anyway hers my situation. I go to this awesome gym by my house and theres this one guy that Ive seen there almost every day that I kinda find very attractive, we've never talked or anything just a few glances here and there but nothing that screams hey lets fuck or hey Im into you on both ends, I try to hide it and Im good at it lol.

About 3 weeks ago I was on a gay app on my phone when someone started talking to me and he sent me his photo and then I sent him mine and then I guess he blocked me, idk. Turns out that the dude on the app is the same dude that Ive been checking out at the gym. So I thought to myself eh whatever he blocked me his loss cuz he didnt want to get to know me. a few days pass where I didnt see him at the gym and I thought to myself, ok so this dude took it a step further and stopped going to the gym period lol. Then one day last week he starts showing up again and I started noticing that he worked out near whatever machine I was working out and I didnt think anything of it. Then slowly I noticed that whenever I disappear to some obscure area he starts walking around casually looking to see if he sees me (I noticed this the most the other day when I was in the ab area and he saw me walking to that area then he went to get water from the fountain and when he came back and looked into the ab area didnt see me started looking around until he saw me walking back to the ab area and casually played it off.) Then about a day ago I came into the gym and he was already there working out and I went to the water fountain to fill my bottle up before working out when he appears right next to me and stands there for a second before bending over to the other fountain to get water. I leave without saying anything and he does the same thing, later on during the workout I go back to refill my bottle and behind me is none other than the same dude. I finished my workout and head into the locker room to shower and change clothes for work, as Im leaving I notice that he's leaving as well I look back to say bye to the people who were at the front desk and he immediately looks down at the ground before leaving right in front of me, I walk to my car and from my peripheral I see that he takes a quick glance at me getting into my car before getting into his.

Now Im not saying that I want to just fuck him and b done with it and Im not saying that I want to see if I should start a relationship with him by talking to him because Im leaving in less than 6 months. What Im looking for is advice as to what I should do? Should I talk to him and tell him I know that he knows that we both know each other from the app? or should I play it casual and just start up a conversation at the gym and pretend that the app hasn't happened? or what?

In all honesty I wouldn't mind having something happen between the two of us, just as long as we know that no matter how attach we get eventually I will b leaving and never coming back.

so guys, what do I do?

thanks for the help,
Simrex
 
I'd delete your app profile and create a new one so that you're no longer blocked, and try a conversation there again. If he responds, you can easily see if you've got the green light. If he blocks you again, you know he's a creeper and move on.
 
Just say hi in the gym next time he's near you, just a "hi" and smile and a nod that basically says "oh hey, I've seen you in here a few times." The next time, make some small talk, like "gym is good/crap/whatever (however you feel about it) after a long day at work." See if you get a response, anything at all. Do this a couple days in a row so he can see you're a decent and approachable guy and that you also seem as interested in him as he appears to be in you.

If the small talk thing seems too weird to try, ask him to spot you on the bench-press, or similar. Either way, make some level of contact. From there you can gauge whether or not telling him you know he was on Grindr or whatever is a good idea.

Kep us posted.




If I may ask... why are you leaving there and never coming back? Just curious. :D

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Don't mean to sound mean but this sounds Jr High-ish. Just approach him and talk to him and also ask why he blocked you. I know it will be hard but just do it and you will know.
 
he blocked you. that would be enough for me to ignore him altogether. why bother?
 
I find it rather odd he would block you in the app, and stalk you in the gym without saying anything to you. It seems rather childish and a little creepy/head game-ish.

I hate it when guys hover, too shy to talk and hoping you'll notice them and make the first move for them. "HEY!!! I'm HERE!! Notice me and think I'm cute and say HI to me... PLEASE!!! ... cause I don't have the balls to say HI first! "
 
he blocked you. that would be enough for me to ignore him altogether. why bother?

Exactly. Maybe he thinks he's hot stuff, trying to flaunt and get your attention all the while knowing that he blocked you and isn't interested. If I were you, I'd ignore him and pay him no mind. Probably wants you to make the first move so he can reject you again in person.
 
he blocked you. that would be enough for me to ignore him altogether. why bother?

Not so sure about this. Perhaps he's also closeted and doesn't want to get made just yet, so he's hiding his face now in the hope that the OP didn't recognise him before the block happened.

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As Blaclbelt ninja said ;just say hi and maybe make small talk. Take it one step a time. Then see were it goes.
 
How closeted could the guy be if he's on a hook up app and is sending pics to random guys? It doesn't sound like a closet case to me. He might be nervous that something might actually happen. Just smile and say hi to him when u see him...
 
I think the guy overreacted when he realized the app linked him with someone that he already knew. The way he seems to be following you suggests that he wants to make a connection but it too shy to make the first move. Just start a conversation with him and offer to work out next to each other so that you can talk/have company. See if there is any chemistry there.
 
ok so update on this sitch. So I took the advice that someone said here and I got a new account and we basically started talking again. Only this time we had a full on conversation knowing who each of us was, until at the end of the conversation when we both said our goodnights cuz it was late he blocked me again hahahaha kid is something alright lol. And to answer the question about y am I leaving and never coming back? Its because I wanna start a new life in a different state, I wanna start my career and just live in a new city. Start fresh ya kno? Anyway I think Im just gonna let it be, we traded we talked he blocked, move on right? lol. When I see him at the gym I'll politely smile but thats as far as I'll go with him.
 
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