Share what has happened when a straight guy knows U have the hots for him.

[wonderwort]

I've had mixed reactions when straight guys know I have the hots for them.

Sometimes a hot straight guy is OK is that fact I have the hots for him.

Other times it will creep the hot guy out to know that a gay guy (myself) is lusting after them. Then that hot guy that I'm lusting after wants nothing to do with me and I've lost a friend forever.

 

[rickbell19]

No Larryng, he was NEVER a true friend!

 

[wonderwort]

I'll share some of my life experiences on the subject of how my co-workers have reacted to my homosexuality.

On a effeminate scale between 0-10 with ten being the most effeminate. I score a solid five. I doesn't take long for co-workers to figure out I'm gay.

Some straight guys (co-workers) want nothing to do me because I'm gay.

Some straight guy co-workers know that I'm gay but will still hang around with me and be friendly with me. These co-workers are the type that if I don't push my homosexuality down their throats they are OK with me. These are the people who will be creeped out if they know I have the hots for them.

Other straight guy co-workers don't mind at all that I'm gay. They don't really mind all that much even if I have the hots for them.

 

[wonderwort]

The lesson I learned is that dry humping (flirting, drooling , staring at them or their crotches )is one of the best ways to lose a straight male friend.

I can have the hots for a guy but I don't have to be so obvious and aggressively lust over him.

 

[jensu846]

The straight guys that I have told that I have the hots for have respectfully declined saying they aren't gay/bi. when I leave, I don't know what they talk about behind my back tho. One guy still calls me to go out for beers with him and hang out regularly, so I know he is cool with me. The others, I'm not so sure.

 

[Orlandude]

Most of the straight guys I know are only acquaintances, through work or friends of friends, and have always been acquaintances, not friends. If they know I'm gay, they certainly don't react to it since we remain friendly. I also have no interest in straight men because it would be a one-sided, dead end and emotionally draining for no reason. Yes some of them are hot but I know that nothing good will come from hitting on them. All of these guys are totally straight with live-in girlfriends or they're married and have absolutely no interest in anything gay.

 

[njcollegekid]

one of my really good friends is straight, and he enjoys the attention he gets when gay guys crush on him. i havent, hes too good of a friend for me to think of sexually; but ive seen some guys get really obvious about how hard they are crushing, and he leaves smiling.

 

[MatttheBruinsfan]

Really has only happened once for me. He briefly got uncomfortable when I tried to angle for the Full Monty view while skinny dipping, but got over it and as a general rule he liked the attention. Of course, I was respectful and never actually hit on him since I knew he was 100% straight - things might not have turned out so well if I'd tried to push things past platonic friendship despite his boundaries.

 

[zebec847]

Have had mixed reactions. I always fall for close friends and most of them are straight. One of them turned into a regular sex partner, one was creeped out for a while but eventually came around and hugged me so intimately that I got hard, one enjoyed the attention but was scared to do anything more than a massage. Sadly none of them lives close enough for me to see them more than once a year.