So, am I ugly?

[radioian]

No--dont be daft! Youre fine looking--go get em!

 

[KCMoeDavis]

The last time was May 1996 or 1997, Its been to long to remember clearly.
And I remember I was getting really frustrated by my 25th birthday, from the "friend" speeches.

I worked at a mixed crowd bar for 7 years doing Artwork, bouncing/barback and running lights for shows. And yes I talk to people I find interesting and they break into two groups; the want to be friends and the rude group.
I like mixed crowds better because I don't have one type.

 

[PieRules]

Maybe you can ask one of your closer friends that you can confide with what characteristics they find attractive/unattractive in you - definitely someone you can trust and can share things with.

Many times, a good friend is able to tell you things that you yourself may not notice when you interact with people(confidence/the way you carry yourself/pick-up lines/being too upfront/etc, etc, etc.) and half the time, it's these types of friends that are willing to introduce you to people that they think may be a good match for you.

Also, what other people tend to suggest is going to other places that you may not typically go to (car show/book stores/sports activities, the list goes on) as these activities most often times are a common bond that you already share when going to these venues.

It's pretty hard stepping out of your comfort zone, but it's worth it, if not for anything else, having and sharing an interest that you can have fun with. Plus, it detracts from just focusing on a mindset of "I need to get laid/date ASAP! Holy fucking shit, what the fuck is wrong with me, I must be some freak or something." Sometimes you find people that you connect with in some of the more unusual places. In any case, here's to things looking up for you in the relationship department.

 

[theFallenGod]

You are an extremely good looking guy... I would definitely ask you out if I were to meet you.

However I did make 2 observations....

1) You haven't told us what kind of guys you generally go for other than the fact that it isn't bears or daddies. The facial hair coupled with the fact that are a in your 30's is an instant bear magnet. The gay culture seems to be very clannish in that most of the time twink types aren't as likely to go with bears and vice versa.

2) Perhaps it could be the age old problem... People can smell desperation. If you are actively looking for something you are less likely to get it than when you aren't looking and it just falls in your lap.

 

[KCMoeDavis]

I don't really have a type, it was something different each time.

Since I started coming out to the bars and clubs, I've always attracted bears and the older crowd. None of my friends could explain it, I was really skinny until I hit thirty and I looked like a 16 year old until I was 25.

And my close friends tell me "eventually you'll find someone and nothing is wrong."

I've done the "other places" bit, I'm usually the youngest single guy there.

 

[bond000]

you look cute mate ,

But my advise will be :

Get a nice hair cut

 

[Srappy2]

relax you look great if your looking for a certin boi for an evening or looking for a LTR u need to prepare yourself for the chase if you are hitting a twink venue do as much as u can to make yourself look yngr how you dom the hair the clothes u where trim the beard to a more mod look or shave if u plan on an age closer to yours (ours) then just a neat clean trimmed look nothing over dojne and again i say relax have a cocktail dance don't look or act like it's your last chance to get a date or trick then if you see someone u like engage then in a conversation find thier interests what they are looking for and always give the aire of confidence and availability

 

[rollex_2000]

Okay here is my opinion, honestly..

You are not ugly, I'd say you are cute, even to some extend above an average cuteness.

So one of things to put aside is the idea that you are not getting laid because of your face.. it's not assue...


here is one more secret... cuteness of your face, as a rule, has nothing to do with the success of getting laid.

It's all about self esteem and self presentation.


Would I have sex with you? yes and no...
Why? lemme answer

no - i would never go for a hookup with you... i look for a different type of personality for hookups
yes - lets say we were 'friends' i've known you for a while, we are traveling somewhere together, after havin a great day seing around we are back to hotel, and assuming you have a great personality, and I CAN SEE THAT YOU ARE CUTE... I would not mind at all having a hot time with you. and no, i am not a daddy-type... i am just 24


PM me if you went. I come down to San Antonia couple of times a year.. haha

 

[wowsexi]

Like they teach u in skool
"its not was on the outside that matters its the inside that matters"

 

[DeafFoxDemon]

hell to the no, u are handsom and sexy

 

[Soyboy]

You're not ugly.

Rather handsome in fact.

 

[xanderking]

You're NOT ugly! You have to know though, real beauty, comes from within, and that shows on the outside. Its really up to what you are looking for, anyone can get sex anytime, but if its something more serious you want, be patient, it'll come. If people think you're funny and entertaining, thats a HUGE advantage you have (if you really are), no one wants to spend too much time with someone pretty and shallow or boring for that matter!
Tip of advice, loose the beard, it ages you and distracts from your best features, if you insist on it, try a goatee- you could look smashing with one! I know grooming a goatee is a bitch, but fact is beauty takes a lot of work!

 

[hotschober]

My Friends tell me I'm attractive, but every time I find a guy I find attractive or interesting.
You would think I was a horror movie monster by the way they act.

Just leaves me very frustrated.
I can't turn around without finding a Bear or Daddy type interested in me ("you have a great personality" - line), but that type doesn't do a thing for me.

So, am I ugly?

take your time - everyone is looking for someone - everyone has different tastes - you are a handsome guy - you'll make someone happy soon - don't give up

I think you're very cute

no man you look great I would stick you to like glue, good things come to those who wait