This Cliche (aka help)

[RRUGER]

Well (for anyone who cares), I tried to be just friends with him, and our eyes met and it was like electricity between us. He deifinately has feelings because he cannot stop looking at me, and he copies my exact movements, and he plays footsie with me, he knows I'm checking him and out and vice versa, but we wont tell eachother (I know), we are more or less an unofficial couple, it's great! The only problem is everytime I'm ready to tell him so I can make it official, our friends show up, or one of us has to go and do something really important (for classes), so our busy schedule and our friends are driving me crazy! I was so ready to confront him about us, but our friends showed up and I was so pissed and I think he was too. So earleir today, three of us were in his room, and I became so pissed that I had to go out of town for the day, and he didn't want me to leave (aww). Well, I can tell you this shy guy is going to try and muster up some courage to tell this guy how I feel about him tomorrow. Wish me luck.

dont get knocked out LOL

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RIP LMAO

thats the last we hear from him hehe

 

[iminluv86]

LOL, now that I've thought it out, I think I'm just going to "go with the flow", because the other night, he was walking out of the bathroom, his hair wet (HOT), and I swear if our friends were'nt around we were about to kiss. I think I'm waiting for "that" moment again, because it's so many potential chances now that things are easing up.

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

Every situation is unique, and it doesn't necessarily mean that he's gay. Some guys just enjoy the the flirting to inflate their own ego; I have, and I know others that have done exactly that. Please, I don't mean do inflate or deflate your ego. but sometimes the dance is just the "dance." I am predominately gay, but I still flirt outrageously heterosexually ... I'm sure its the mirror effect with him.

 

[iminluv86]

So, I chickened out and didnt tell him (I know), but I took a step back to see everything without a rose tint today. I noticed that when our friends would see the two of us together, they would smile and be all giddy. At Dinner, I was waiting for him in "our spot", and of course, a very annoying girl decided to sit down and talk, moving my intrest a seat over. He didnt seem very happy about it, but anyway, we tried to play footsie, but we we're too far away, and it would be too obvious, so I figured that would be the perfect time to try something. I more or less gave off the "you slightly amuse me" vibe (because in the back of my mind I'm thinking he's just playing with my heart) , but I tried my best not too, needless to say, he left early kind of down. So here I am hating myself for what I did, so me and some friends and I layed in the grass, then you know who shows up with another one of our friends, and they start playing some music. We all enjoy it, but he isnt very enthusiastic, so they start playing lovey dovey songs, and one by one our friends start leaving, and the more romantic the music gets, the more into it he gets ( he was "shy" about singing amongst friends at first apparently) *look at the original OP for why I doubted that*, and eventually it was just us two and a girl that was singing (she has a girlfriend btw), so we start to glance at eachother, and we're back to this.

*phew* Long story short lol, should I stop the ride, or wait to see if it finishes on its own?

 

[seven2go]

For what it's worth........I say ride 'em cowboy.......

 

[ElmosToe]

At least kiss or hold hands already or something. Don't obsess over "talking" about it, just do it, let SOMETHING happen.

Here, let me help you.

 

[iminluv86]

Yesterday, I decided enough is enough, and I'm ready to confront him due to his constant eye lingering (and his pupils constantly dialate), his body pointed towards me, and his quick (but noticable) glances. The only problem, the douche from my OP decided "hey, I like him too...", and totally tried to erase me out of the picture. My crush drives, and four of us are going to the movies, and I always get shotgun (hehe), and this other guy wanted shotgun for once, well my other friend (who I'm pretty sure knows about us) says, "hey *my name*, you get shotgun", his words pretty much trump either of us because he's my crushes best friend and roomate. So we're driving, and "our driver" constantly glances, and puts him arm by mine, you know same old same old, but when we get to the movies, our new friend wants to sit between us (grr). So the next day, some of us are in his room, and I'm right by his bed in another chair while our new friend is on his bed sitting by him, and wouldnt you know it: he has his whole body turned toward me, with a hand draping over the edge of his bed towards me. We decide to get something to eat, and our friend gets shotgun (grr), and wouldnt you know it, my crush isnt looking at him at all, except if he makes a joke, and his arms are so close to the wheel you think he's an old lady. *sigh* You still here? So with all of that you would think "he likes you dumbass", but the problem is when I try to actually do something about it, there's always an interruption. Always a friend popping in, and always that one guy attempting to get close to him.
Almost forgot to mention, we we're watching a show in his room last night, and I gave off the body language I wasnt interested, and behold he was quiet as a mouse (he always makes jokes during something we watch), then I started to warm up to him, and he was laughing and all that good stuff again; the cute part is, I couldnt help but have a little smirk on my face, and I look over and he does too.

But anyway, I've come to the conclusion that it actually might be a lost cause... but I have the saddle and I'm still riding.

 

[ElmosToe]

My thought: It's safe to say you don't have to wonder if he's gay or straight or whatever anymore, sounds like his roomie is fully aware of the situation between you two as well. So unless you like this cute little flirting game (who wouldn't), there's really no denying the chemistry. Just enjoy it, enjoy his company and if something does happen, at least you know where you both stand with each other, ya know?

It will happen when it does, let it be organic and natural. Just be ready though for when it does that you let it happen and actually follow through with it, for his sake at least.

Good Luck, keep us posted of course.

 

[iminluv86]

Yeah I guess you're right, I think the problem for me is that he's began to make it almost like we're actually boyfriends (we talk to eachother about everything, we sit together whenever we see eachother, he make jokes that will make only eachother laugh, and of course that look into eachother's eye for a long period of time), but when I see this other guy try to do his "thang" by making jokes and stealing my thunder, it makes me really jealous, and I dont want to be because I dont want to seem like the clingy type, but it really doesnt help when we barely see eachother when classes and activities are cracking down on us, and now Spring Break, and we'll both be with our respective families, I just keep wondering "WTF universe?"

 

[seven2go]

Unless you have a weather report displaying on your retinas GUYS don't sit and look into GUYS' eyes for extended periods of time.......unless there's something going on.
I don't know bud but I think you'd better reach for a stirrup soon....... .......next thing you know you'll have hold of the saddle horn.......

 

[Ganoderma]

hi iminluv86,

I would like to advise you to find a way that you get rid of all the 'others', and that you create a situation with Him and you. Maybe you also have to be a bit more blunt (eg when going to the movie and when deciding who sits next who).

This guy is definately into you, and all (most?) people around you are already aware that both of you 'like each other'. Sitting next to each other and gently stroking his leg / his fingers (etc.) is an easy way to let him know that you like him (and in most cases also a clear signal that you are a gay guy).

Good luck and please keep us informed.

 

[iminluv86]

Thanx for the support guys, what's funny is that as soon as I finished typing las night, I saw him in one of our friends room (she's a girl), and of course, if was four of us, but his reaction to seeing me in shirt and shorts .

What was cute was that he put on his hoodie and started to act like a nut (making me laugh of course) and standing so close to me, and telling me goodnight personally, so I think it's safe to say there's hope.

 

[deksman2]

Not to be condescending (and I apologize if it sounds like that), but reading this thread gives me an impression of an extremely 'childish' behavior.
This cat and mouse game seems to be going on for ages, and of course there's the 'friends keep interrupting us' excuse.

Here's an idea: the next time one of your friends 'interrupts', politely tell them that you have pressing things to take care of. Set the guy aside and so something about this entire situation to confirm if there could actually be something between the two of you, or if his flirtations are nothing more than friendly gestures (individuals do have their own ways of portraying their platonic feelings towards others who might mistaken them for something else).

If you allow friends and other situations to constantly interrupt you, leaving things to 'chance' is reasonably unrealistic.
I would suggest you find some time, invite him out or someplace you can hang out and talk with him about the entire situation.

Communication is important.
Without it and without direct input from him, you really won't know where you stand.
We can make personal theories about situations to envision various possibilities, but many people go beyond that and simply assume that what they think is happening is actually the case (which in great many cases turns out incorrect).
I'm not saying that you are necessarily wrong about the situation or your views, but you should keep in mind the possibility you might be mistaken - otherwise, you might be setting yourself for an unfortunate outcome should the situation turn out to be different than how you interpret it.

 

[Kyanimal]

Personally, I'm having some doubts about the veracity of your ongoing "Story". Sorry about that, butt it IS the Internet, and assumptions do abound!

However, as much as I'm enjoying the teasing nature of you "tail", if all of this is, indeed, True, then it's High Time to step up to the plate, take your swing, and hopefully score a "Home Run" with this Dude!

ALL the "signs" are There! I'm pretty certain you shouldn't have any great concerns! The "proof of the pudding" is, are you "Man" enough to go for what is obvious, or are you still going to be skirting the issue?

 

[ElmosToe]

So If I'm understanding correctly, someone who has been a member on this site since 2011 and only now started posting...to merely ask for some advice on a touchy situation, is making it all up for shits and giggles? Seriously? While some level of suspicion is warranted to the validity of the facts and events, this story is hardly the material of a troll. If it is, it's quite possibly the most uneventful, banal troll tales of them all.

 

[iminluv86]

I wish I was making this stuff up because after yesterday...I just dont know, actually I know, but ugh! Anyway, I'm trying to get us alone, but we have crap to do in terms of classwork, so we barely get to see eachother. Some of us go eat lunch of campus and everytime I look at him, he's upping the flirting with another guy, I get visably pissed, and he noticed. Well, in a computer lab, I decided to sit away from him, and he didnt make a peep, Mr. Other guy was there, and Mr. Flirty didnt do anything. Later, he had some things to do for his fraternity, and Mr. other guy was gone, but his roomate/best friend was there, and he did something I've never seen him do before, he stripped down to his boxer briefs, took a "shower" and came back in said underwear, then getting dressed. By this time I was in the dont give a damn mood, and the two, start to talk about how Mr. Flirty might be set up with this girl (who is a drug addict, so obviously bad for him), and I'm right there playing video games, not saying a word, and so flirty sits on his bed wainting for the time to go do his frat stuff. What tipped me off about a whole lot, is that he gets back up to "fix his hair (which he already did) and straighten his tie (which he already did) and bring up mundane facts about said drug addict girl. So I just gave up, and later, some of us (minus flirty) are walking and his roomate asks me "hey, are you okay?" out of the blue, of course I said I was fine. Later thay night, we get back, flirty is in his room shirtless and acts like he didnt know we were coming (we told him via text 20 min. before) and roomate had a chair between flirty and I, this was the big red flag, roomate looked at both of us, and put his chair up to sit on his bed, thus leaving space between flirty and I. I had that "huh?" feeling. Then two of our friends (girls) come in to watch a show, and the five of us are watching it, and flirty (who is laying down, it's 1 in the morning), decides to sit up and gradually look at me (saw it out of the corner of my eyes), then he would talk about me like I wasnt in the room, and finally before we left, he says "goodnight *my name" leavin out the other guests, and his roomate quickly chimes in "Yeah, goodnight *my name* and *other two girls*".
So yeah, I'm done with this cat and mouse game, I really want to make a move, but there is some doubt, because I keep going back to that text where he said "...I'm strait" *yes straight was spelled like that*, and I dont want to ruin our friendship.

 

[ElmosToe]

Poor thing. Well don't ruin the friendship over wanting to get your rocks with a hottie. If you could, maybe take a break from him and just hang with some other friends for a bit. Or maybe when you are hanging together, just enjoy the time you do have with him and jack off in the shower later. My former roommate often said "i'm straight." Didn't stop him from sucking my cock, didn't stop me sucking his cock. Besides "straight" IS a relative term that merely implies he prefers to have sex with women. I suspect it may partly be a ploy in an effort to be more "attractive" to dudes like you, guys who he may have a deeper interest in other than just friendship.

I know that's how my former roomie is, he basically considers himself a "ladies man" (his words), but it's clearly not because he falls in love with women, he seems to use them as stepping stones. I know another one of his friends he messed around with (he doesn't know that I know), he was also in the Air Force and a former MMA fighter and a ginger no less (sexy!) I know part of the attraction to each other was the fact that they were "straight". For many dudes, it's a huge turn on and the fact that they do have sex with women is part of what makes them more desirable.

My former roomie has done many of the things you describe and although we are not together or anything as a couple (neither of us would want that) we are pretty much best friends, as close as brothers and I like that. I am sure at some point if he were to be completely honest with himself, he may ask me if I would ever consider being in a gay or bi relationship, possibly with him. I honestly don't think I could do it. Since I'm not into anal, it would suck for him and other than anal, there really isn't anything sexually we haven't already done together, a threesome would be cool. I love him like a brother and I have too much respect for our friendship as "brothers" to want to take it to some sexual and romantic level. It would be weird.

Maybe one of the things to consider is what you really want. Who cares about all the gay, straight, bi labels crap, that shit will get in the way and cloud your thinking. Labels tend to restrict people by placing unrealistic expectations on them that rarely ever reflect reality.
I would just think about what you are looking for period. Are you looking for a relationship? With a dude? If not, then keep him as a friend and if something happens between you two, just chalk it up to an experience that will strengthen your bond of friendship rather than being some proclamation that you're both gay and now need to join every gay rights group in the country while exchanging wedding rings in Iowa or Washington.

 

[GrkGuy187]

Yeah look, just pull him aside and ask him straight out of he's interested in you at all. Won't hurt to.

 

[andrew thomas]

I do not know why the reader buy this story. on this age people can easy text to each other. Just texxt him and ask if he is interest to go for a walk or a coffee. that's simple as that. you will get all answer. why drag so long and create so many drama . ?

 

[iminluv86]

Well I texted him, and I dont think he's going to tet me back.