My First Time

[borodude]

I joined this site a while back just to see what was up. You guys seem like a pretty level headed bunch of people, which sadly enough is rare in the world today.

I'm a 21 year old college student. I've never done anything with a guy before, just girls, but I think I want to try and see what it's like. I guess I might be bi?

Anyway, I've never done anything before and I've been talking to a couple friends of mine who I could probably do some stuff with and wouldn't feel too weird around.

To get to the point, how do I get ready and what do I need to know? I fingered myself tonight for the first time. It felt really weird -- good, but at the same time kinda hurt; but good. What do I need to do so it doesn't hurt as much, finger or otherwise?

Also, what if I'm the top? How does it feel?

Sorry to post such basic questions, but I guess someone has to start somewhere? Thanks for your help in advance!

 

[woaini]

I'm 21 too, only have been with guys.

Are your friends gay?

You may need to try some lube so that it won't hurt much.

If I ever make out with girls, I will ask for your advice, which may never happen.

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

girls are icky

now stop that and buy astro glide

and condoms play safe or don't play at all

 

[RationalLunacy]

You can practice on me.

 

[naughtypiscesboi84]

Yeah, I agree with culete. Maybe you wouldn't even like assplay. I think it's kind of gross myself. Might let a guy do it (or even let a girl with a strap on do it). But mostly I'd like to suck cock, and have a guy suck me back.

So not every gay/bi guy is into buttsex. But if you're curious, then buy a dildo from an adult store. Or even one of those "personal massagers" from a Spencer's Gifts store near you. Make sure to get some lube. My current favorite is KY Silk warming lube. I'm going to suggest buying condoms also, and putting one on your dildo before playing. Chances are you're more than likely to pull out some "chocolate treasure" while you're plugging away up there.

 

[ronboy]

Sir Ron's short, sweet, and experienced opinion...

1. It's okay to try things out to see what you like and don't like to do

2. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it (or stop doing it)

3. Lubes and condoms (play it safe...ALWAYS...good advice PeTe!)

4. Don't feel you have to limit yourself to one gender. try both genders if you wish. You'll know what feels right and what doesn't. Being with guys doesn't necessarily make you gay, nor does being with a woman automatically make you straight.

5. You aren't going to come to the realization overnight. It will take time...

Good luck on your journey.....

 

[tigerfan]

Welcome Boro Enjoy life and what ever makes you happy.

These are an awesome bunch of guys enjoy the site.

Merry Christmas

 

[jockboy01]

Welcome to JUB borodude!!

The advice here is good. I just wanted to add, that I don't think experimenting is the answer as to what you like. Sexuality is an internal, not external phenomenon. I'm not saying don't experiment, that's totally up to you. Be safe of course. But I wouldn't expect your experimentations to help you figure things out. If that's what you're trying to do, I'm afraid you'll be disappointed.

 

[oh-yeah]

Sir Ron's short, sweet, and experienced opinion...

1. It's okay to try things out to see what you like and don't like to do

2. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it (or stop doing it)

3. Lubes and condoms (play it safe...ALWAYS...good advice PeTe!)

4. Don't feel you have to limit yourself to one gender. try both genders if you wish. You'll know what feels right and what doesn't. Being with guys doesn't necessarily make you gay, nor does being with a woman automatically make you straight.

5. You aren't going to come to the realization overnight. It will take time...

Good luck on your journey.....

Here, here... totally agree. There aren't really any special knowledge you need to know.

I say try whatever intrigues you or what you're curious about. See how you like it or don't like it. Try things a few times so you can get a grasp if its something you enjoy or not. Have a mindset that it's all in having fun and it's really about exploring yourself. So, no need to rush into things, take your time.

Keep an open mind and communicate your feelings to those you're with they'll help you along your journey of exploration. Remember to communicate, go at your own pace and have fun.

 

[KaraBulut]

Not to get too off-track but it seems that many guys who ask about gay sex associate the idea with topping/bottoming.

Wanting to try anal sex (topping or bottoming) does not make you gay or bisexual. It just means you are curious about anal sex.

Gay sex is looking into another guy's eyes and liking what you see. Gay sex is kissing another guy and never getting enough of kissing him. Gay sex is laying together and just enjoying each other's company. Gay sex is taking each other's clothes off and just exploring. Gay sex is seeing, touching, tasting, feeling and enjoying.

It is not just fucking each other in the ass (although that part ain't bad either).

My point to borodude is to be clear about what you're really interested in. If you want to experiment with anal sex with another guy, you've received some really good advise in this thread. On the other hand, if you are interested in gay sex, then take your time, find someone you and like and trust and enjoy gay sex for what it really should be.