22 years old and I've never kissed anyone.

[Hotswimguy82]

I came out last year. I've had a really delayed development.

The catalyst for my current freakout was my friend telling me the other night that she didn't want to keep dating some guy because he was a terrible kisser.

I'm currently talking to a guy. It's the same guy from this thread. Last month we started meeting in person and exchanged phone numbers, and it's been moving painfully slowly. I'm not sure what he thinks of our deal, whether this is a friend thing or possibly heading towards something more.

What I do know is that I don't want to fuck things up by being a terrible kisser if and when that time comes, because apparently this is a dealbreaker for people.


Making out with the side of my hand can only do so much to bolster my confidence.

 

[altlover85]

A lot of people are bad kissers the first time around. I know I was. It's okay. You can always tell whoever is your first kiss that you aren't that experienced and would like it if he would show you the ropes, so to speak.

 

[HunterM]

Everybody has to start somewhere. Practice makes perfect! Good kissers have been kissing a long long time.

Chew on mint gums or candies for a fresh breath before kissing.

 

[TorontoBoi]

I don't think you need to worry so much. May this be the biggest dillema you deal with in your life.
Besides, enjoying someone's kiss involves much more than just the physical way the kiss is done. Sometimes its out of your control if they like it or not.

 

[Seasoned]

It's not a one type of kiss fits all type of thing. I don't like to be kissed the way my partner likes to be kissed. When the time comes ask the guy to show you how he likes to be kissed.

 

[lyudi-invalidy]

I'd be more worried about when it comes time to give him head

Some important tips:

• No tongue on the first pass
• No face eating
• No flavoured lip balms (I'm still traumatized from a strawberry encounter.. *shudder*)
• Brush your teeth
• Don't eat garlic
• Infact, just don't eat
• Stare at their mouth for a bit
• Subtly lick your lips, this is how guys communicate
• Casually wipe away saliva strands (very important, don't get lost in the post-makeout glare trap)

I'm pretty sure I had my first kiss at 22, I was kinda drunk and ran into the guy accidentally in a hallway and he pretty much did the rest. Don't worry about preparing, when it happens it happens

 

[tipmyscales86]

Be creative, make stuff up along the way. I've had intense kissers and playful kissers, just go with the flow of it.

 

[Hotswimguy82]

I'd be more worried about when it comes time to give him head

Honestly, that doesn't worry me at all. On the contrary, I'm rather looking forward to it.

 

[TNniceguy]

I was 30 before I ever kissed anyone in a romantic way or for that matter have any sexual contact with anyone. Even then, it was just mutual JO.

The one guy I kissed was a super nice guy that I met online who lives in London. I was so scared then that it really amounted to a peck on the cheek. That was the first and last person I've kissed so far. For some reason, I think really kissing a guy would be far more sexy than anything else at this point simply because I've not had that experience.

My advice is to relax and enjoy the experience. I think the rest would come natural and be enjoyable to you and your friend.

 

[rareboy]

I was 22 when I had my first hot and heavy male on male kiss.

I made up for lost time.

You can too.

 

[treanir]

I, too, was 22. It happened without any sort of preparation and without forethought. Response from the guy? "Wow, you're a good kisser"

Don't worry. Take the advice above to heart (especially with regards to breath and intensity/face-eating), but in the end a good kiss is about passion, not following a rulebook.

 

[landers]

I was 23, so I beat you.

The only advice I can add is that, there is a possibility of saliva build-up. It happens, swallow it and get on with things.

 

[SuperDave]

I came out last year. I've had a really delayed development.

The catalyst for my current freakout was my friend telling me the other night that she didn't want to keep dating some guy because he was a terrible kisser.

I'm currently talking to a guy. It's the same guy from this thread. Last month we started meeting in person and exchanged phone numbers, and it's been moving painfully slowly. I'm not sure what he thinks of our deal, whether this is a friend thing or possibly heading towards something more.

What I do know is that I don't want to fuck things up by being a terrible kisser if and when that time comes, because apparently this is a dealbreaker for people.


Making out with the side of my hand can only do so much to bolster my confidence.

The way ive seen it is that you're always gonna be a bad kisser to someone because people like kisses different. I prefer less tongue whereas my boyfriend loves tongue. *Shrug* just go with your instinct and enjoy it and you'll be fine. Your friend sounds like an idiot btw.