24 yrs old/ no boyfriend..EVER?!

[Gin&Tonic]

Actually, I had one boyfriend...for a month... I broke up with him because he wasn't what I was looking for. I guess I thought he would change... but he was the wrong guy for me...

Does it seem strange for a 24 year old, to be single, and NEVER had a proper relationship??

It seems like all the guys in So Cal have been dating from the age of 12 and, it's so frustrating. I grew up in a small-town in Utah.

I am old fashioned... I don't want to ever hook up with random guys. I've done it in the past, and I felt so bad.

I really don't know what to do. I really want a relationship! Is this wrong??

 

[Eagle653]

Believe me, you are not alone.

There are thousands of men, even older, who have never dated anyone--let alone someone for a month.

It sounds trite, but just keep plugging away. Get out there and be seen, and network through friends. Sooner or later, Mr. Right will come along.

Good luck!

 

[Gin&Tonic]

Thanks Averageguy! I hope you are right!!!

 

[Gin&Tonic]

this is me, by the way.

 

[btiger]

I was 27 before I had my first boyfriend and relationship.

 

[Gin&Tonic]

I was 27 before I had my first boyfriend and relationship.

How many guys did you have to date before you found your first boyfriend?

 

[LuvBoys]

Which town did you grow up in Utah? I've lived in Utah my whole life The town I currently live in is absolutely impossible to find anyone to meet. There are very few gay guys here and most of them are stuck up or crazy. Try not to put much pressure on the age thing, and just keep trying to meet guys. I was 21 before I ever met a guy, so you're not too far off. Just focus on meeting new people and eventually the right one will come along! I know it's frustrating though waiting!

 

[Aratron]

I'm like you. I never had a boyfriend either even though I had some hook-ups but I felt like something was missing afterwards.

I believe that someday I'll find someone who I can really connect with though sometimes I like to be by myself, doing my things. I don't know what more I can say

 

[btiger]

None. I was questioning my orientation for a long time and took a long time to accept the fact that I am gay. I went on craigslist looking for a friend with benefits and I guess you could say I'm one of the rare cases where it turned into a serious relationship. I hooked up once before but that wasn't a dating situation. I met up with the guy twice and we talked online a lot but when he said he felt we could be boyfriends I freaked out and stopped talking to him. That was a good year before I met my current boyfriend.

 

[Gin&Tonic]

Which town did you grow up in Utah? I've lived in Utah my whole life The town I currently live in is absolutely impossible to find anyone to meet. There are very few gay guys here and most of them are stuck up or crazy. Try not to put much pressure on the age thing, and just keep trying to meet guys. I was 21 before I ever met a guy, so you're not too far off. Just focus on meeting new people and eventually the right one will come along! I know it's frustrating though waiting!

Utah boys have a special place in my heart

btw: I grew up in Ogden Ut... Left when I was 18, and haven't looked back.

 

[Gin&Tonic]

I'm like you. I never had a boyfriend either even though I had some hook-ups but I felt like something was missing afterwards.

I believe that someday I'll find someone who I can really connect with though sometimes I like to be by myself, doing my things. I don't know what more I can say

Exactly... Something is missing. I really dis-like that feeling. It brings on negative emotions. blah

I too, like to be alone... just not ALL THE TIME.
I have hope too, that one day I will find a good guy.

 

[Gin&Tonic]

None. I was questioning my orientation for a long time and took a long time to accept the fact that I am gay. I went on craigslist looking for a friend with benefits and I guess you could say I'm one of the rare cases where it turned into a serious relationship. I hooked up once before but that wasn't a dating situation. I met up with the guy twice and we talked online a lot but when he said he felt we could be boyfriends I freaked out and stopped talking to him. That was a good year before I met my current boyfriend.

geeze... i hear this type of story all the time!! i am happy 4 you, but at the same time, i wish it would happen to me :/

 

[Kyanimal]

Hey, Brad ...

RELAX! At 24 you're really still a "Puppy"! (And, a rather Cute one, at that!) You have lot's of time to grow into the Life that shall "become" Yours!

Don't focus on the Relationship "thing" so much. Just be Yourself, and take Life as it comes to You. CONFIDENCE in YOU is the strongest asset You can have. Enjoy the people you meet! "Just Friends" is not a "Bad Thing"! "Mr. Right" will likely show up when You're least expecting Him!!

My own story is a long, complicated, though not unique, one. At your age I was still dating, and having sex with, Girls! But, I was also "playing" with the occasional guy! I didn't meet "My Kev" until I was 32! (He was 25!)

We've been together, and through lot's of "stuff", for 26yr. now! And ... He "showed up" just when I wasn't looking for Him!

It may take some time. But, trust me on this, when it happens for You, it'll be more that Worth it!!

No matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Gin&Tonic]

We've been together, and through lot's of "stuff", for 26yr. now! And ... He "showed up" just when I wasn't looking for Him!

It may take some time. But, trust me on this, when it happens for You, it'll be more that Worth it!!

No matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

awe, that is so awesome! I hope to have a life long love, like that.

 

[Yeehaw]

Well, I'm turning 25 in a few days and I have never dated anyone, let alone be in a relationship. Sure I've had my share of dates and hook-ups but they are not what I really wanted and none turned into anything profound. I guess the key is to put yourself out there, which I'm still learning to do.

 

[MCsNo1Fn]

Definitely not alone. I'm 25, and I've had one relationship that lasted almost a year...until he decided to move 15 hours away without telling me and now he's engaged...to a girl, and wants me to be his best man....ANYWAY so yeah, you're not alone. I don't do random hookups either, I love to love someone. It makes me feel good. Theyre just hard to find. I'm not picky, but usually they are.

 

[MaxMouse]

I'm 23, same thing. I'm not worried about it at all. And neither should you be. Wait until you really want to be boyfriends with somebody...it's nothing worth forcing, otherwise you'd be miserable anyway. There is no misery in being single for me, I don't think I'm the exception, I think the whole idea is just to not look or worry about that...Truthfully there are always more important things. xoxo

 

[BabiGayPimp]

Really, there is nothing unusual about it. You have to pursue your life on your own schedule, not everyone else's. Some of these young relationships are enduring, but many others go down in flames. You will know when you are ready and if he's the one. In the meantime just live your life and be open to a relationship if the opportunity presents itself.

 

[Lube]

this is me, by the way.

Damn, you are totally adorable. Have you tried Bear411 or BearZone.com? (Are you furry or do you like furry guys?)

I don't do random hookups, but I do hook up with guys I've met at those sites--after I chat with them for a while, or see them and talk to them at a local bear event.

Relax!

Sex is enjoyable. Don't fret about it too much.

And while I may seem old to you, I've only been out a couple years, so I'm pretty much in the same boat as you, experience wise.

 

[LuvBoys]

Utah boys have a special place in my heart

btw: I grew up in Ogden Ut... Left when I was 18, and haven't looked back.

Crazy! I was born and raised in Ogden. Sounds like we left about the same time, 6 years ago. I only moved to Southern Utah though. I don't blame you for leaving, California is an amazing place, especially if you're anywhere near the beach!