difficult to ejaculate while getting fucked

[sixthson]

I'm sure the problem is not an uncommon one. It's possible that you being in him gives him a sense of fullness that is greater than his urge to ejaculate. Perhaps it is the in-and-out motion that distracts him and causes him to lose focus on his own orgasm. Maybe he is overthinking it?
Whatever the problem, try different things such as only partial penetration with no motion, while one of you masturbates him. When he gets close, start fucking again. If his urge ceases, repeat. Try having him on his belly or doggy style with his cock in your hand. While you fuck him, he fucks your hand, maybe using lube. Take your time and enjoy all sensations. It's the journey, too, not just the destination, you know.

Remember, sex is to be playful and loving, so experiment and learn together what the other likes. It is possible that he might just not be able to cum with you in him. Nothing is etched in stone.

 

[sixthson]

I find that hard to believe.

 

[treanir]

turn off the tv.

Indeed. BBC Breakfast is not a turn-on.

 

[Seasoned]

I have this problem and I think it's because I am very tight. My anal muscle can't contract and therefore I can't cum with something in my ass.

 

[cityboi]

Guys who are bottoms tell me they cannot get hard when someone is in them. I've never experienced being a bottom so cannot tell you firsthand.

 

[cklover]

Guys who are bottoms tell me they cannot get hard when someone is in them. I've never experienced being a bottom so cannot tell you firsthand.

I guarantee that I'm always hard when I have a cock in me.

 

[KaraBulut]

There is no special position that will resolve the problem.

We have this idea that guys getting fucked have to be hard to enjoy it and we also have the idea that it's not satisfying unless they come while there's a cock in their ass.

That's the problem.

If getting fucked is satisifying to you, there shouldn't be any reason that it's not a complete act unless you stay hard or unless you come while getting fucked.

If it is really important to your boyfriend to get there, then start slowly. Have him masturbate. When he's about to come, insert your finger into his ass and finger fuck him. Over time, repeat the masturbation and increase to two then three fingers. Then change to fucking him for a while, pull out and let him jack off then when he's close to coming, slide your dick back in.

Over time, the sensation of anal stimulation and orgasm together will become more natural to him. It may time some time and patience, however.

 

[Monkeydonkey]

Maybe pressure build up?