A bisexual married man

[KaraBulut]

What would you guys have done in the same situation??

The same as you did.

 

[Frafilippolippi]

You did the right thing!

 

[Romantico]

I would run, NOT walk as fast away from this as you can. Dude, if you think you got hurt before just wait. You said it went against everything you believe in? Okay, this is what we call instincts or 'gut feelings'. They are usually honest and we usually listen to those feelings. Just my 2 cents.

 

[conrad]

It's called discretion. Some married men do learn that there is that "other side" to their sexuality and feel the need to explore it. Sometimes it is resolved as simply learning how to relate to other men; our society does not do a very good job of promoting even that male bonding in friendship that has no sexual element in it. I have always urged others to concentrate on relationship first; one really has to get to know the other person before one can have the kind of meaningful sex that acts as a kind of cementing of the relationship that already exists. Being a married man with powerful urges toward man-to-man sex means life-altering decisions must be made. One suspects that many such men simply have an affair on the side and continue to remain with their wives and families. Since I have never faced that decision I am very hesitant about judging their actions. However, as a single man seeking a meaningful relationship I would certainly want to steer clear of married men.

 

[D8Na2R]

I can only add this. I made the wrong decision years ago when presented with the same circumstance. It did not end well. I literally had to move. (It was a small town.)

So yes....run as fast as you can away from this.

 

[ejbonk]

Okay well since i broke up with my boyfriend i have been hooking up on craigs list allot. It helped cope with the depression and helped me get over my ex. Anyways I got a response from a guy on craigslist. We exchanged numbers and we decided to meet up somewhere. He said we should go to a sports bar that he knew of and i agreed. Upon first meeting him i realized that he was very cute. We sat down and we talked and drank beers and got to know eachother more. I was just wanting to hook up but talking and getting to know him was cool too. I find out that he was a teacher in mexico and moved to the united states at the age of 21. he is now 27 years old. He lives with his sister and brother abd they just bought a house together. I find out as we conitnue our conversation that he is bisexual. He told me that for him who ever he is with he is faithful. Anyways we head over to the new house that he just bought. There was only a couch as they hadnt moved anything much yet. We started to fool around. As we began he was hesitant to give me head because it was only his second time giving head and it was very new to him. I finally got him to givre me head but only after assuring him i was clean and that it was okay. afterwards he was spitting ever few minutes. He said it was ver new to him and he was getting used to it. I rimmed him and he LOVED it. Well anyways neither of us brought lub so we decided to not fuck. I also told him that the only person who can fuck me is the person i am in a relationship with. So we decide after foling around that we are going to just go to sleep. As i begin to wrap my arms around him and go to sleep i feel his hand. It had a WEDDING BAND. I ask him if he is married and he bullshits me saying yes. no, yes, no. finally he says we will talk ikn the morning. We wake up the next day and i didnt ask anything nor did he bring it up. As we wal outside we have to go seperate ways i dont drive so im headed towards public transportation. before i go i ask:

"I would like to see you again, but only if your wife is okay with it. "

He said:

"I can handle it" with a smile on his face

I wait a few days and he calls me again

him: so would you like to go out this weekend on a date or dinner or something

me: yeah that sounds good. but look hey are`realy married be honest

him: we will talk about it in person

me: well no just tell me now because i if you are i dont want to keep seeing you

him: why do you want a relationship or somwthing?

me: no its not that, i just dont date married guy i dont think it right

him: well then i guess we shouldnt see eachother anymore then. \

me: okay well take care man

Man guys i was so tempted to keep seeing him but it goes against what i believe. But he was so cute and so new to being with guys. I wanted ot teach him so much and to make feel so good. but i just couldnt stop thinking about his wife.
What would you guys have done in the same situation??

You did the right thing. He was not being honest with you or his wife. If ,his wife knew he was Bi and ok with him see guys and dating them,and having or building a relationship with one. That would be different.

From what your saying,It appears he was playing games.That is not cool.un

 

[Eternaldarkness]

You did the right thing. No matter how much you lust for this man, before you fall into a hole too deep you can't crawl out of, you did the right thing and leave.

Lusting for a person is fucking hard, and you will miss him for a few days, maybe weeks. So what, just remember you did the right thing and you will deserve someone better, someone just perfect for your good actions.

Continuing to see him is ruining someone else's relationship nomatter what they're relationship status is. It doesn't matter if he's unhappy or just curious to fool around, that is HIS problem.