a bit confused from one guy :-)

[Nice Boy]

Hi guys.

In August, I met one guy just to talk though he posted on one dating/sex chat website that he wants someone who could tease him through trousers etc. The date went fine, we talked a lot, he told me I was quite nice and that he liked me etc. We did no sex. Then, some time after when I texted him if he wants to meet he did not respond to me... So I let it be.

Then I logged in from another nickname and he contacted me from other nickname too. I quickly recognized it was him so I told him we met. He remembered me and I asked why he did not want to meet again. He responded that I was nice but he felt "nothing more" that wanted him to get to know me more as a friend. I let it be.

Then I was on that dating/sex chat website and he posted that he wanted someone who could jack him off or maybe discretely blow him.

So I posted him half by joke: You know I would blow you but since you doesn't want to... He told me we never talked about this option openly so maybe Then we texted and I proposed him to meet so he could tease me etc. He kinda retreated and started to be insecure. I even asked him if he finds me attractive and he said yes. He told me that he would not meet first time if I wasn't.

When I wanted to know the reasons not to meet, he wrote he was afraid cause he was not used to meet like this and also that he might feel guilty.

But everytime we talk about sex, I tease him a bit and he tells me he would try it with me and that he would find it very exciting but when I propose him, hey, let's meet then, he kinda start to be insecure again and is very hesitating and finally he would not meet.

What should I think about this? Why is he so hesitating?

Any ideas appreciated

 

[Seasoned]

There's no real way to tell what his issues without him self disclosing. It could be that he's more talk than action. I wouldn't waste too much time on him unless you get off on being teased.

 

[Rolyo85]

Why would you even be interested in this closet case?

 

[Nishin]

you're wasting your time

 

[HunterM]

Yeah, he sounded like he's all talk and no action. I met plenty of guys like that online. They like the tease, but they cannot commit when push comes to shove. I told a few of them, "Since you are all talk and no action, I need to start charging you by the minute for phone sex."

Drop him. Find other guys that want to have sex with you.

 

[jaysizzles]

I agree with the others...he's all talk and no action. Perhaps he's a virgin, in the closet, scared.

Since you would be interested in having a purely sexual relationship/encounter with him, maybe you can send him a message telling him that if he decides that he wants to see you again that it is now up to him to contact you.

 

[Corny]

Oh I got to know guys like that. Most of the time when they get sexual, they're just horny. Then they jack off and feel guilty, dirty and like a damn homosexual. Then they cut you off, until the spiel starts again later. Save yourself the time.