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A new confused guy here. advise from gay/confused/ straight?..

JOHN B

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Welcome aboard! Hope your time here helps you decide which direction you might be going sexually. But it sounds to me like you already know. ;)
As far as this cute dude you like---don't let stereotypes confuse you. He might be straight, or he might be in the same situation YOU are; unsure of himself. Give it time. Once you become more comfortable with your own sexuality, it will become easier to approach other guys, and give/receive signals. Good luck. :)
 
excuse me for being forward, if your dick gets hard looking at naked guys, youre most likely gay
do you wack off women at all? if not then that also tells ya something, dont kid yourself ya kno??
also, you should approach this guy, dont bring up anything about being gay, just get to know him and take it from there... good luck to ya
 
Well in situations such as this, I wouldn't read too much into things.

What I would do is introduce myself and see if he'd like to get together and do <insert mundane activity here>.

Once you get to know him, I'm sure you will better be able to ascertain if he's gay and/or into you.
 
F22-Raptor said:
Even if I'll get to know him better, how does one take the next step and break the mold. What if we are both scared to ask. I would be petrified if I'd hint on the "I like you" or "are you gay" line and freak him out if he is straight.
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You have nothing to lose by approaching him. If he's cool then he'll either accept or reject you politely. Being hit on by gay guys happens to straight guys. A confident man will take it as a compliment. You'll never know unless you go for it.

I agree with the above. No reason you can't ask him to hang out someplace just to see if you really do like him. Maybe you both look hot to each other but he's a total prick. If he asks you if it's a date say yes and see what his reaction is. If he says nothing then do it anyway. The touching, extended eye contact, and the vibes you're getting... dude, you've got gaydar!

As to what your preferences are, don't worry about labels. Go out with this guy or another one. Try out sex and intimacy with guys. If it's not for you then it isn't. This is what dating is for; to test and develop our sexual and romantic preferences. Give it a shot.
 
First off, welcome to JUB!

Your questions. Do I try to impress girls? Not specifically. When I was younger, I tried to impress pretty much everybody in an attempt to bolster my rather flimsy self-esteem. Didn't work much. :)

As far as the guy in your class. Is he gay? Signs are favorable, but there's no true way of knowing except from the source. If you're intrigued, why not get to know him a bit? You don't have to jump immediately to "You wanna go out with me?" Sit close to him, and at the end of class, say something related to the class.

"I was gone Thursday - did you take notes?"
"This test sounds like it's gonna be a killer! I'm not sure I'll be ready."
"Did you understand what the professor meant today when he said...?"

Let the conversation progress naturally from there. You should be able to tell from his responses how interested he is in talking with you, at least.

Lex
 
NEVER "Assume" anything ... If you are so uncomfortable around women and you are not sexually attracted to them ... I believe you know how that sounds ..
SO; if you are sexually attracted to guys .. so be it . Then remember that COMMUNICATION is the key to any kind of a relationship ... so what is stopping you from saying "hello" to this guy ... Mention how hard an exam is, was, or is going to be etc .. ask if he'd like to study with you ... ask if he'd like to do dinner or lunch sometime ... DON't wait for him to speak first .. It could make you a very lonely guy ...
 
Raptor....Why do we fall down in life? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up and start over again. The road ahead isn't going to be smooth. It's not going to be easy and nobody can tell you for sure what you can do. I guess with age and experience things do become easier. But for right now I think you just need to pick yourself up and continue on your way. Worry about School Work and other things and let your love life sort it's self out. It will happen when you least expect it to happen! Trust me on this! :)

Good luck buddy!
 
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