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A new start...Maybe?

wawawater090

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So after a two year relation ending during the summer, I have kind of put myself out there. I started talking to people, and met a guy. He's about a year younger, but we hung out on saturday night. We watched a movie or two and talked the entire time till around 5am in the morning. We started holding hands and what not, but didn't make out, or do anything else, which i am glad. I felt like we clicked and would definatly like to see him again. I have texted him a few times over the past few days, and he said he would like to hang out again. I invited him to go to the movies with me tonight, and he said he couldn't. Here's what is running through my mind, I'll ask him a question and he wont respond( after I asked him to the movies). Am I just over analyzing things, or being impatient?

I haven't dated in a long time, so I am kind new at this... Any thoughts?

any comments would be very appreciated
 
Leave him!! I'm right here; come to me!!!

Just kidding. Sorta. :p

I think you should chill out a bit and just keep contacting him-- but only after you get a response first. I think if he responds, it means he's interested, and if he doesn't, then you can move on. My rule of thumb is that I don't txt/call if he hasn't answered my last one, unless I get super-desperate.

PS-- a call is higher on the totem pole than a txt. If he were to never respond to your txt, you could always call him once to see what's up.

Crap, is this making any sense??
 
Take it easy. As you said, you and he are communicating and that is a good thing. His not responding to a question or so doesn't necessarily mean anything. I would not read into it. Maybe he has no answer or is nervous about how to respond! Nothing has changed much in the dating world. When meeting new people, everyone tries to put their best foot forward. Give it more time....and patience. He may also have a shy side that doesn't easily open up. Evidently he likes you and you like him. For starters, that's a good start! Take it slow and easy. It's all something new to both of you.
 
I guess thats one of my other questions...
I don't know if it is a big deal to hold someone elses hand anymore... Does it mean anything, or not really as much in this day and age...
 
I think holding hands means something if you believe it does. A guy I used to "date" would always ask me if he could hold my hand, and it really meant something to me, and hopefully him too. Remember, there isn't anything wrong with taking a relationship slow.
 
Well it started perfect! That does seem to be a problem nowadays with technology, we can be in contact so readily we get impatient when people don't respond immediately.

Most people don't stay up till 5am talking, some can barely last 5 minutes of conversation! So I believe he is genuinely interested, just give it some time, I agree with Martin6 about not sending something unless they replied, or call. As for the hand holding, I still imagine it being a big deal, but thats coming from me which probably doesn't count a whole lot.

Keep us updated!:D
 
I think that I am slowly losing faith in the whole dating/relatioship thing. I feel like most of the times its just mind games, (not talking about the guy afore mentioned). I wish I knew if the juice was worth the squeeze...
 
Of course it is mind games. What did you think dating was about? Having fun?

You bring as much baggage to this as everyone else. When you start looking at dates as one offs with the possibility of just increasing your wider circle of friends, then you might just stop worrying about whether there is going to be marriage at the end of the date.

I have no idea, but it also seems like there are more and more rules out there about whether you can just fuck like bunnies on the first date or whether every date actually requires the investment of three dates before you can hint about tapping ass.

Oh, and a hint...don't stay up talking until 5 am on your first date with a guy unless it is after getting the sheets soaked in sweat. You've just used up about a year of your respective lives doing that.

Just relax and stop worrying about relationships and just start having fun.
 
Stuff like this, alas, has to grow naturally. You have to cultivate it but it's either gonna happen or it's not.

Personally, I think a guy who just wants to hold hands is rather sweet.
 
>>>Oh, and a hint...don't stay up talking until 5 am on your first date with a guy unless it is after getting the sheets soaked in sweat.

If you can stay up to 5am after getting the sheets soaked in sweat, you either did it all wrong, or you've got WAY more stamina than I ever had.

Lex
 
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