A random night to remember, but what do i make of it??

[yehme2]

I have known this guy from my college for about a year now. We started hanging out through mutual friends and then we slowly became friends i guess. We would bump into each other at clubs and have a good time. Recently, he started texting me to do stuff, like hanging out etc. But i think he does this to everyone, so i didnt think much of it. The last time he sent me a text to meet up at my apartment for some drink. I didnt think much of it, i just thought it would be good having the company of a friend. We started drinking, i drank slowly, and he noticed cause i dont like getting too drunk too soon, cause i get quite messy. We started talking about stuff and he told me deep stuff about his life, i was even like "why are u telling me this". Anyway, he wanted to talk and i was there to listen. I wasnt over sympathetic i was just real and heard what he was saying. Anyway, we slowly began getting a tiny bit tipsy and i started playing loud music to put us in the party mood to go out- as we were planning to. He wanted me to show him how i would dance, i think he was trying to show me how to hit on girls at the club, lol. It was fun so i went with the flow. Then he wanted to "role-play" that he was a girl and i was a guy approaching. I was not serious and just laughed it off. He then demonstrated. We got pretty close, like our hands were interlocked and we grabbed each other from the back, like u would if u were slow dancing. Anyway, he told me to rest my head in his shoulder, so i did. He then started to... kiss my neck really slowly. (I ASSURE U THIS IS NOT A STORY FROM A PORN NOVEL, LOL!!). Anyway, I was kinda shocked, so i backed off a little bit. I went to the toilet and he followed, i locked the door but he tried to open it from the outside. I donno why, anyway, i went to the my bed to lay down, so did he. We laid opposite each other, but there was no touching. There was definite chemistry. He told me that he liked to massage his prostate by a girl or guy. At this point, i heard and seen everything come out from that guy. I think he just felt comfortable. He then said he had to leave otherwise he would fuck me... Im not sure what to make of that to be honest.

Anyway, my feelings towards him change from time to time. I like him, but i think he was just horny...he hasn't text and i haven't heard from him since. I cant help but imagine how awkward its going to be when i eventually see him again.

Should i text him, or leave things to cool down, and just forget about. I have rarely experienced this much chemistry with a guy before, it felt like i was riding every wave in the sea, and things flowed soooo smoothly.

 

[latinoguy19]

Sounds like you handled it as best you can. That kind of situation can be really exciting. I guess it would be smart to assess your feelings toward him if you'd like to pursue him. For now just hold tight and act as you normally would around him.

 

[Sportsguy313]

He showed an interest in you and you did nothing to let him know u were interested or not. It's pretty clear he likes you and if waiting for a response. That's why he hasn't contacted you since. You have to approach him and tell him exactly what you think and stop making him guess. Does he even know your gay?

 

[rareboy]

You blew your chances.

You made it clear you weren't interested.

It is called carpe diem.

Don't contact him except in person.

 

[KaraBulut]

...Should i text him, or leave things to cool down, and just forget about. I have rarely experienced this much chemistry with a guy before, it felt like i was riding every wave in the sea, and things flowed soooo smoothly.

Let's change the genders for a moment.

You're a girl. A guy comes over. He tries to get you drunk. He starts putting the moves on you. He tries to break into the bathroom while you're there. He ends up on your bed suggesting that the two of you have sex.

That's not chemistry. It's a bit creepy in a date-rape kind of way.

It's one thing if this guy were saying, "I'm bi-curious. I'm attracted to you."

He's not. It's all about his prostate and him fucking you.

There are lots of nice guys out there who don't get their friends drunk and take advantage of them. Go find one.

 

[TX-Beau]

OK so you were experiencing so much chemistry that you, what, ran away from his advances?

Yeah, I don't' know if I'm buying this. He comes over gets drunk, apparently tells you all about his personal shit, you aren't sympathetic, want to go out, then he wants to dance, wants to pretend he's a girl!?! You went along with this. Then he starts macking on you, you went along with that, but then you lock yourself into the bathroom, he tries to break in, and you don't know why?

So then, instead of asking him to leave, or just going for it, you lay in bed together, where he tells you he wants a prostate massage, but you don't know why he's saying that either, at which point he tells you that he's got to leave or he's going to fuck you - and you don't know what to make of it all?

First, you're right, this is all pretty random - suspiciously random, his behavior is not self consistent. But hey, he could be just that fucked up - Who knows. Your behavior is pretty random. You alternately lead him on then push him away. SO yeah. At several points you're saying you just don't know what to make of it, well here's what to make of it. If this actually happened - this guy has serious problems with boundaries, himself, acceptable behavior, and consent issues.

 

[yehme2]

OK so you were experiencing so much chemistry that you, what, ran away from his advances?

Yeah, I don't' know if I'm buying this. He comes over gets drunk, apparently tells you all about his personal shit, you aren't sympathetic, want to go out, then he wants to dance, wants to pretend he's a girl!?! You went along with this. Then he starts macking on you, you went along with that, but then you lock yourself into the bathroom, he tries to break in, and you don't know why?

So then, instead of asking him to leave, or just going for it, you lay in bed together, where he tells you he wants a prostate massage, but you don't know why he's saying that either, at which point he tells you that he's got to leave or he's going to fuck you - and you don't know what to make of it all?

First, you're right, this is all pretty random - suspiciously random, his behavior is not self consistent. But hey, he could be just that fucked up - Who knows. Your behavior is pretty random. You alternately lead him on then push him away. SO yeah. At several points you're saying you just don't know what to make of it, well here's what to make of it. If this actually happened - this guy has serious problems with boundaries, himself, acceptable behavior, and consent issues.

Well, I had only known him for year, so i didnt want to push things and then let it get weird. Also, I may have also been horny, but I don't want to come off as cheap, especially if i did have feelings for him. I never want to start any kind or relationship (friendship, or more) with sex! BTW, im as confused as u are, and probably so is he. It just shows u what a little of alcohol can do to two horny college students, lol. Im going to brush the incident off.. and just try to talk to him like before. Cause no kissing or touching happened, so i have nothing to worry about. It was rough play, i guess?

 

[texan_slant]

In my humble opinion, I'm not sure if your friendship would ever be the same.

He opened up to you; you slow-danced together, so it seems really conscious on his part, and not just the alcohol. I'm more apt to say that it isn't necessarily just lust on his part.

As a result, I wouldn't necessarily ignore it altogether - I'd talk to him about it if the next time you see each other.

 

[looseliam]

When in doubt, fuck.

It is that easy.