ADAM333 not sure where to ask for support. My mum died and I am grief-stricken

[ADAM333]

I dont knpw what to do....as my stepsibling's are trying to sieze assets and properties I purchased for her during my Hollywood years,

 

[rareboy]

I've suggested that the post be moved to another forum since it really doesn't seem to have much to do with this one. Coming Out and Relationships might be the better place for it.

Wow. You have been on JUB since 2007 with only 26 posts.....it will be hard to give advice because we know really nothing about your backstory or what has brought you to seek support...but I am sure that you will find people here to listen and to try to help you over this rough patch.

 

[seven2go]

My sympathy to you......
If purchases you made for your mom were unrestricted gifts I doubt you'll find any legal grounds to reclaim them.
If you can substantiate anything find the supporting paperwork and visit a lawyer.
Sorry and good luck man.

 

[ronboy]

Adam, I am so sorry for the recent events that have happened to you.

The amateur forum is not the correct forum for you to seek advice.

I will move this thread to the Health and Well being forum, where it would be appropriate to ask for and receive help.

Hope that this is helpful...

I will put a 24 hour redirect from the amateur forum on this, so that you may easily find it in its new place.

 

[Cormac135]

My mum died on Xmas morning, i've been almost shellshocked since then.

Time may lessen the blow but the emptyness doesn't seem to go.

Lawyer up if you can, i'm sure this isn't your first rodeo.

 

[KaraBulut]

I dont knpw what to do....as my stepsibling's are trying to sieze assets and properties I purchased for her during my Hollywood years,

Are you seeking advice/support for your grief and loss... or are you looking for advice on how to protect your mother's assets?

 

[TX-Beau]

Legally speaking, here's my guess. Giving people a gift transfers title. It doesn't matter if you bought it for her, if you gave it to her it's hers, not yours.

So...

1. Did she have a will?

2. Is your stepfather still alive, were they married when she died?

If he's alive and she had no will, her property might be his, and then his kid's, who are his heirs, you are not his heir - unless he specifies otherwise. If he died before her/divorced, his kids have no right to anything that was hers, unless she willed or transferred it to him before he died/divorced.

How exactly are they trying to "seize" her assets? What notice have you gotten from their lawyers, are they just taking things our of her house? What exactly are you talking about because this is a lawsuit, and the context is everything.

 

[ADAM333]

Thanks for the kind responses. I don't know what to ask or say or where to post what. My answers to some of the queries are....1. I bought my Mum's house. My parents lived here with his parents in the first floor apartment and my 3 step siblings and my 3 real brothers lived in the second floor apartment. It's a huge stone house with a yard and 2 car garage, it's listed in the town historical society, first floor has 2br 1ba kitchen, dining room and living room, reception hall, butlers pantry and an enclosed front and back porch. The second floor (and third floor) has 5 bedrooms, 2 baths, kitchen, pantry, living room, gorgeous sun-room with french doors and practically floor to ceiling windows she had a top of plants and she loved that room and then the third floor has a dormer with ceiling fan and a full bath. All hardwood, new roof, new heating units, 2nd fl new washer dryer. The town itself is upscale and the families are old families. My Mum bought the house and in the early 70s it was more lucrative to mortgage a portion due to interest rates. I grew up with my Irish grandmother....it was the best. She was hard on me because she didn't want me to be ill-equipped when it came to etiquette, public speaking, the understanding of various arts, etc...she was poor but was born into wealth her dad died and took the home, and it's contents, emptied the accounts, fired the staff and kicked out a woman with 5 kids...it happened in my grandmothers marriage and then my Mum's. A big part of the first born male into my families line of Irishman was the first grandson learned the arts of the old country...Ireland where they are Catholic and practice a form of Sorcery. Charms, unhexing, fayun' vexes etc...herbs, remedies etc. My grandmother was a maid to the Bostonian wealthy and she was like family...and I'd be with her and after school as well. My dad left my Mum for his 4th wife a chick he met in rehab. She was money strapped because I have a disabled brother that was in her care, he cut off her health insurance, took his full annuity and my step sister was screaming about a small lakeside spot in Maine I bought for her....My Mum 2nd Mortgaged her house and I said are you crazy? So, that's how I stepped in. The lawyers had my youngest brother as the title holder after her death with me overseeing everything, including living in the house. My mum got crazy Alzheimers and in 6 months she got violent and she lost her mind and she had a full on stroke right before my eyes. All this time my "family" had been making plans. I found out and retained a lawyer and a legal rep from GLAAD. I am almost done filing the last of my civil rights protection orders....my step sister has a big fucking mouth....but, I find everything out anyway. I was in the hospital after my mum died due to kidney problems and my brother bought a condo and moved and she was taking my house for her daughter. I already had a lawyer...by chance he found out she took my 57k my dad left me. I had medicare and social security guardianship over my Mum. I'm sorry this is too much.

 

[TX-Beau]

OK most of that is irrelevant. Apparently there are multiple residents of the house? Depending on where you are that could get really messy. If she died intestate - the State is going to decide, but you said your brother was the legal owner of the house not you. It doesn't matter who paid, it matters who's name is on that paperwork. If you are "overseeing" everything does that mean you are executor of her will? An executor is not an inheritor. It's certainly usual that the exectutor of a will is an heir, but that positiion just means you dispose of the estate, it doesn't mean you get to change the terms of the will.

WHAT did the will say? What did your lawyer tell you it said? If you have competant counsel, you don't need us. Generaly when it comes to cash and property, if there is no will, it all goes to all of her heirs, AFTER any debts/taxes/liens etc. The money gets divvied up, the property gets sold and the profits split, or one party buys out the interest in the property of the rest, that would be you and any siblings. UNLESS she didn't legally own the house, i.e. she didn't have legal title to it.

Some of those people are tenants, and if you live in states like California it's not going to be easy to evict them even if you do end up owning the house.

Don't buy property and give title to someone else. Your Mom and Brothers could have lived in YOUR house and avoided all of this.

 

[rareboy]

Thanks for the kind responses. I don't know what to ask or say or where to post what. My answers to some of the queries are....1. I bought my Mum's house. My parents lived here with his parents in the first floor apartment and my 3 step siblings and my 3 real brothers lived in the second floor apartment. It's a huge stone house with a yard and 2 car garage, it's listed in the town historical society, first floor has 2br 1ba kitchen, dining room and living room, reception hall, butlers pantry and an enclosed front and back porch. The second floor (and third floor) has 5 bedrooms, 2 baths, kitchen, pantry, living room, gorgeous sun-room with french doors and practically floor to ceiling windows she had a top of plants and she loved that room and then the third floor has a dormer with ceiling fan and a full bath. All hardwood, new roof, new heating units, 2nd fl new washer dryer. The town itself is upscale and the families are old families. My Mum bought the house and in the early 70s it was more lucrative to mortgage a portion due to interest rates. I grew up with my Irish grandmother....it was the best. She was hard on me because she didn't want me to be ill-equipped when it came to etiquette, public speaking, the understanding of various arts, etc...she was poor but was born into wealth her dad died and took the home, and it's contents, emptied the accounts, fired the staff and kicked out a woman with 5 kids...it happened in my grandmothers marriage and then my Mum's. A big part of the first born male into my families line of Irishman was the first grandson learned the arts of the old country...Ireland where they are Catholic and practice a form of Sorcery. Charms, unhexing, fayun' vexes etc...herbs, remedies etc. My grandmother was a maid to the Bostonian wealthy and she was like family...and I'd be with her and after school as well. My dad left my Mum for his 4th wife a chick he met in rehab. She was money strapped because I have a disabled brother that was in her care, he cut off her health insurance, took his full annuity and my step sister was screaming about a small lakeside spot in Maine I bought for her....My Mum 2nd Mortgaged her house and I said are you crazy? So, that's how I stepped in. The lawyers had my youngest brother as the title holder after her death with me overseeing everything, including living in the house. My mum got crazy Alzheimers and in 6 months she got violent and she lost her mind and she had a full on stroke right before my eyes. All this time my "family" had been making plans. I found out and retained a lawyer and a legal rep from GLAAD. I am almost done filing the last of my civil rights protection orders....my step sister has a big fucking mouth....but, I find everything out anyway. I was in the hospital after my mum died due to kidney problems and my brother bought a condo and moved and she was taking my house for her daughter. I already had a lawyer...by chance he found out she took my 57k my dad left me. I had medicare and social security guardianship over my Mum. I'm sorry this is too much.

I am not sure that this makes things much clearer but as has been suggested, only lawyers are going to help you in this situation. I don't think we are able to provide you with the legal advice you are seeking.