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I was talking to a gay friend about how to come out to my parents, and he said to say "mum, dad, what has to thumbs and loves the dick? THIS GUY! ".

I laughed so much at that and I'm considering doing it because I think it might lighten the situation. But what do you parents think? Would this be "appropriate" as such to come out ? I have a good relationship with my mum, but my dad is a bit of a worry.
 
I would never say the word "dick" around either parent (unless I was using it as an adjective).
 
Personally, I would not open with that. They might think it is a joke and that you are not being serious with them. They maight find it hard to believe without the joke and with it makes it that much harder to understand. Even if you have a good relationship whith them, you still can't be sure of 100% of how they are going to take it. My cousin, who is 26, recently came out to the family several weeks ago and my aunt, whom I would have thought would have been very supportive, was not. Perhaps, the initial shock will wear off that everything will be cool, but in my opinion it's still an important that shouldn't be treated that lightly.

You laughed at the joke because you have known for X years and are very comfortable with it and that's good. Maybe you mom and dad already know, I certainly don't. After you tell them and things settle into place, then you could tell them your joke. Those are just my two cents. Perhaps others will strongly disagree.

Ultimately, I think it's great you want to come out to them and you have a great realtionship with them. I wish you the best and I hope you report back how things went.
 
It totally depends on your parents' sense of humor. That would work fabulously on some people, but fall flat with most. Only you know.
 
That is cute and funny, but we do tend to make it all about sex, don't we? You may be asking the wrong parent. I had hoped I'd have a gay child.

I think the best way is to be simple and direct. "It's time for you to know what (took me a bit of time to figure out.), or (what I've known for a long time). I'm gay."
 
OhReally said:
I was talking to a gay friend about how to come out to my parents, and he said to say "mum, dad, what has to thumbs and loves the dick? THIS GUY! ".

I laughed so much at that and I'm considering doing it because I think it might lighten the situation. But what do you parents think? Would this be "appropriate" as such to come out ? I have a good relationship with my mum, but my dad is a bit of a worry.
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Don't joke.
 
I really wouldn't use that joke or any other. Maybe after you have told them and seen how they are taking it. You know your family. We don't. I just don't think it's a good idea.

Let us know how it goes. Good luck

Steven.
 
I was sitting down watching tv with mum and just blurted out "I'm gay" during the adverts. She was fine with it. Took SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much courage to do. Hardest thing I've ever done in my life :'(
 
OhReally said:
I was sitting down watching tv with mum and just blurted out "I'm gay" during the adverts. She was fine with it. Took SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much courage to do. Hardest thing I've ever done in my life :'(
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That sounds like as good of a way to do it as any. We all know how you feel man. And we are proud of you. That takes so much strength. I remember when I came out to my mom, I felt like I couldn't breathe, I started crying. My knees were shaking. It's the hardest thing to do when you don't know how they'll react. It IS one of the hardest things you'll ever do, and now you get the privilege of knowing how strong you are. Congrats. :=D:
 
Just be straight forward. Tell them you ave something to tell them and go for it. You may say that you've felt this way(gay) for as long as you rwmwmber.

You may be surprised. Most parents have thought about some signs.

ust tell them you love them and ask for their help in being out.
 
Well done.

Eventually tell them the other way you thought of coming out to them.
 
IMHO, you will be happier if you always remember that what happens sexually between you and another person is personal and private and the wisest persons are those who keep it that way.

You do not need your parents to be present and consenting. Who knows what your sexual orientation will be next year?

Cut youself some slack. You are a big boy now. Right?
 
Well if they never saw you go on a date with a female and they probably already know.
 
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