Advice please :(

[Puckzilla]

I can't tell you what to do, but if it were me, I'd just remove myself from the situation.

A guy that hooks up with a stranger in the shower at the gym, while he has a partner of 7 years at home doesn't seem like a very nice guy. People can justify cheating for lots of reasons and maybe some of them are even valid, but if that's the way he treats someone he has loved for so long, do you really wanna get mixed up with a guy like that?

I guess if you really wanna see it through, I'd advise you to tell him how you feel and then take yourself out of the equation. He has to figure out what he wants and make a decision either way, to be fair to his boyfriend, you and himself.

Good luck either way.

 

[Seasoned]

It's life so it has the potential to turn out several different ways. Keep in mind people can walk away, end up together or get shot. You don't have all the information here and you're not likely to get it from Josh. It's nice you made such a strong connection, but I think it was very unfortunate that he didn't come clean as you were exchanging numbers. Sex plus personality are strong hooks, but think about being 19 and being short changed. You ought to be exploring or in love with someone who can be available full time.

 

[cliffdweller]

This will end in tears.

 

[uslad7]

You're 19; you have your entire life ahead of you.

Nosotros siempre queremos lo que no podemos obtener, pero tienes que pensar logicamente. Tu estando con el solo te ve a dañarte. Es impresionante que te dijo que te amaba despues de tan poco tiempo. El aparentemente no va a dejar su novio. Ademas, te esta tratando de incluir con el.

Dejalo. Encontraras otro.

 

[TurdPuncher]

vvaamim, would you be interested in becoming a '3rd' in their relationship? meaning, your relationship with 'jose' would also grow to include all 3 of you living together?

is 'jose' polyamorous?

 

[KaraBulut]

If you stop for a moment and think about it, it's not that you're in love with this trick you met in a gym sauna, you're in love with the idea of this romantic guy who is "in love" with you.

And who wouldn't be? A guy who texts you telling you that he loves you? A guy who sends you mushy songs? A guy that you have deep conversations with?

The problem is that - you already know this- he's not your guy and he'll never be your guy because he's in an LTR with a guy old enough to be his father.

This guy has settled for something less than the romance that he wants. Now he's taking you down the same mistaken pathway that he's chosen by asking you to settle for something less than you want.

It's up to you to end it. And it's up to you to find the romance that you want with a guy who is available to be with you.

 

[racer2438]

Sorry to say but you are setting your slef up for a major and painfull FALL.

I can see it going and and you be be desvasted in the end.

It's best to just move on, maybe keep a a friend but even that will be hard for you cuz of your inter feelings. But think real clear and really ask your self to look at it fromthe outside. Think of this as another person you looking in.

What advise would you tell them?

Probly what we all are telling you right NOW... it's early and the longer this goes on it's going to be harder to over come the pain that's at the end..

 

[ben9651]

I didnt even read the whole post and i dont think i need to .. .. A guy which hooks up with someone he had met 5 minutes earlier is NOT a keeper,.. and him being 6 years older than you makes it even more suspicious.
MOVE ON!