advice

[fishing]

hello,

I have a neighbor that lives down the hall from me who I have developed an attraction for. I get horney when I see him in certain clothes and believe he has seen me checking him out..i believe he might be bi/gay. how can I let him know im interested without making things awkward.

thanks

 

[Seasoned]

If he's seen you checking him out he already knows you're interested. Be friendly and chat him up. Invite him in for coffee or a drink.

 

[Rolyo85]

He's not gay, and he's not interested. If you are looking to date/have sex with someone, look for people you KNOW for a fact are gay.

 

[checkinthingsout]

hello,

I have a neighbor that lives down the hall from me who I have developed an attraction for. I get horney when I see him in certain clothes and believe he has seen me checking him out..i believe he might be bi/gay. how can I let him know im interested without making things awkward.

thanks

Can you provide more details and context behind your relationship with this guy so we can accurately assess?

I.E. specific social encounters, conversations, what is he like as a person, relationship status, does he have sex with women, what are you like as a person, etc..

It is difficult for anyone to give you good advice when you haven't even qualified what is going on. We take the time to read and respond. Take the time to write so you can get tailored, appropriate responses.

 

[hylas]

(edit: I realized that I don't actually have anything interesting to say)

 

[fishing]

anyone else..he sees me checking him out and does not seem to mind.

 

[Rolyo85]

Did you not see the post telling you that you haven't given us ANY information and therefore we can say nothing?

Hint: most straight guys wouldn't mind you checking them out.

But either way, until you tell us more, we can't tell you anything. That's why you are not getting any responses.

 

[Ganoderma]

If he's seen you checking him out he already knows you're interested. Be friendly and chat him up. Invite him in for coffee or a drink.

hi fishing,

Would you mind to provide us with some information about your and his age and would you mind to give us some details about your own situation? Are you closeted or are you living as an open gay (which does not mean that he might be aware that you are gay)?

Seasoned already gave you a very good advice. So say hiii to him any time you see him and smile friendly to him and try to make chats with him (about anything). Depending on his age and other knowledge, you even can ask him if he is / was married (or has kids, etc.), just to get some idea about his background. Maybe he will also ask the same question to you. A nice opportunity to tell him more about yourself (depends on your situation, if you are closeted or open, etc.).

I tend to think that people over here can provide you with more advice when they know abit more about the local situation.

Thanks in advance for a response and please realize yourself that you don't need to tell details you don't like to share with people over here.

Best wishes.

 

[fishing]

We are both the same age..we speak to each other periodically. I am closeted but would come out to him..he is friendly and knows I check him out. We live 2 doors down from him.

 

[Ganoderma]

hi fishing,

Thanks for your reply and good to read that you are already talking with each other. Im sure you are also a friendly guy (just like him), so no big deal to continue talking with him when you meet him again. Well, why not invite him to your place to have a drink / coffee (etc.) when you meet him again?

Please be aware that he might as well be a friendly guy who is 100% straight. Quite a few straight guys don't mind it at all when you smile to them and when you let them know they are handsome / good-looking / muscular (etc.).

Good idea to come out to him. I hope you will tell more people around you that you are gay, so its no big issue anymore that you are gay.

Take care & good luck and please keep us informed. Please don't hesitate to ask other questions as well.