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Afraid to Bottom - Your first time bottoming?

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My name is Eric and I am 18, and I am still a virgin. I haven't even had a first kiss yet. I mainly will want to top, but I don't plan on sex until I find that special person. While in my mind, I'll be honest I'm a bit of a slut, haha. But in my heart, I truly want to wait until I find someone special to kiss and have sex with. As I said, I will probably top more than anything, but I do want to try bottoming. But honestly I am terrified. So, I want to know of your stories of the first time bottoming.
By the way I am new here, and to anyone who wants to make fun of me for not having a first kiss, or for still being a virgin, I really don't care what you think. Also I know I don't have a signature or picture yet as I had just now joined. :P
 
Welcome to JUB! :wave:

You will find many guys here older than you are who have yet to have that first kiss or find someone special. Relax.
 
Welcome to JUB, my first time was as a teen, I had always been a top. Then I met a special friend, I can't describe him to do him justice, the smile and his cute face.
Anyway one day I asked him if he would like to fuck me, he happily agreed and we proceeded, I again am at a loss for words, it was such a thrill to feel him in me, to satisfy him, there was no pain, just a big grim on Tom's face.

I can't advise you on waiting or not waiting, but bottoming is something every man should try.:sex:
 
Welcome to JUB, i find it refreshing that one so young can be so honest about his hopes and desires.
 
don't sweat if you haven't kissed a guy yet. i didn't kiss a guy until i was 25.

i used to only top but then curiosity got the best of me. although a guy did penetrate me the first year i hooked up with guys. it was traumatic because i wasn't prepared for the experience and the guy was bi and a total top too - not really advisable.

bottoming is a great sensation if you do it correctly. i suggest that if you want to do it, find a versatile guy to do it with with a few years experience or at least a solid experience of having sex with a guy. a versatile guy would be the best because he knows how to get fucked too.

or you can try and practice on your free time. practice by emptying your ass obviously first; an enema would be better. then put a condom over your finger and play with your ass. get comfortable with the idea and get to know your body and how it feels. finger yourself properly lubed and go in deeper as long as it is comfortable and pleasurable. when you are enjoying yourself, put two fingers and try fingering yourself with two fingers. try to stretch your ass a little bit. you'll realize that if you like this, your jack off routine might never be the same again, lol. so use only two fingers and only as deep up to the knuckles. when you get comfortable with that, it's time to get fucked with a Real Cock
 
I also had my first kiss (and everything else, in the span of 30 minutes haha) at 25.

I could give you advice on topping, bottoming and waiting for the special one, but the only advice you need at the moment is "just chill, don't worry, and read some practical stuff about how gay sex works" ;)
 
Actually, I think is kinda normal that gays start dating guys after 20. I dont know any gay who lost his virginity before that age. My first time was last year and it was... weird. I expected it to be hurtful but it wasnt (Maybe because my date only put in half of his penis, he got cum anyways). My advice is not being in a rush. Just wait for that person who make you feel comfortable (Its not necessary to be a boyfriend).
 
deadmanwalking1195 said:
My name is Eric and I am 18, and I am still a virgin. I haven't even had a first kiss yet. I mainly will want to top, but I don't plan on sex until I find that special person. While in my mind, I'll be honest I'm a bit of a slut, haha. But in my heart, I truly want to wait until I find someone special to kiss and have sex with. As I said, I will probably top more than anything, but I do want to try bottoming. But honestly I am terrified. So, I want to know of your stories of the first time bottoming.
By the way I am new here, and to anyone who wants to make fun of me for not having a first kiss, or for still being a virgin, I really don't care what you think. Also I know I don't have a signature or picture yet as I had just now joined. :P
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There's a lot of stuff that has to happen before you find yourself taking it up the ass. And it's not necessary that you try everything on the first time out of the gate.

However, you might want to give some though to the definition of "someone special"... at least when it comes to basics like kissing and making out. Those things are part of finding out if the person is special. A tip: the person who think is "someone special" is probably not going to be a relationship of any permanence. Most of us went through a lot of frogs before we found the prince. It's all part of the learning process.

And as for making fun, this forum is part of JUB's no flame zone, so you won't find that here. You'll find humor and wisdom here but, at least in this forum, you won't be made fun of.
 
From my perspective there's physical sex, emotional sex and spiritual sex and when you write I believe you are wanting to wait for that combination. I suppose it could happen but it's likely the physical, in the form of horniness, will eventually rule the day. It's ok if that happens. Fear sometimes disguises itself into making us think we want or need to have the first time to be perfect. Sex and love are two different things. It generally takes experience to realize the difference. I don't mean to be cynical but do protect yourself from hurt. No matter what we conjure up in our head, when it actually happens it's with an actual human and not our image of one. While you may be waiting for your "one true love," he may not not be waiting for you.

As someone old enough to be your grandpa please know it's ok to be sexual. A good guy is likely to come along. Mine did almost 31 years ago. Take good care and I wish you the best.
 
When my BF and I first had sex he informed me that he had always been a bottom. Because his penis is under 5 inches he always assumed he had to be the bottom. I persuaded him to top me and he enjoyed it so much that we now flip flop every time. It can be painful to bottom and it takes some practice to learn how to relax and enjoy the experience. I'm not an expert since I've never had a dick over 5 inches plow into me but after you relax the pleasure outweighs any of the discomfort.
 
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