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alcoholism

I am an alcoholic. I don't drink often, but when I do I drink to excess.

The symptoms you're describing are quite frightening. Shaking and needing the alcohol to negate the tremors, delirium tremors. You've advance to a medical state now. For you to get through this you will need detox. They'll advise you from there.

It will be difficult. You will think you can't get through it. You will want to quit. You will want to drink again.

Here's what you have to remember: Yes it's difficult but you can make it. Don't quit. Leave the booze, it's not worth your life.

I wish you all the best. If there's anything with which I can help, by all means ask.

-Liam

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twardmo, tardmo, whatever: wrong place, wrong time for that type of humour. You too, bedbugy.
 
Unlike my father and brother who enjoy their alchohol, I've never taken to it much. I may have no more than 2 drinks socially before reverting to a soft drink. I suffer from psoriasis (skin problem) which is aggravated by alchohol, so that's another reason not to over indulge.

Unfortunately my grandfather did not live passed 62. Oneday after finishing his first bottle of whiskey of the day he asked grandmother for another. When she refused he put a gun to his head and ended his life. :(
 
I, too, can relate, awilliam.

Currently, I drink about 14 or 15 beers every night. I have a gut and dark circles under my eyes. I don't get tremors if I go a few days without it, but I don't sleep well either.

The problem I see with being a "functional drunk" is being "functional." I would bet that very few people I know have any clue how much I actually put away.

This is compounded by my perception that the alternative is worse. Should I sit around with a group of other drunks and talk about how much we want to continue drinking like an AA meeting? No thanks. Yet, I've been to several alcohol counselors (because I WOULD like to change) and every single one of them threatens me with AA.

I drink because I like solitude. To give up drink and solitude is just a little much to ask.

If you come up with an alternative or something that works for you, please let me know. I'll keep you posted if I learn anything, too.

Good luck and God bless, awilliam.

A4A
 
You've got to find the reason why you drink. Mine was my father -- I didn't have a relationship with him or if I did it was tumultuous (there are more details and drama of course, but irrelevant to post them here now). I quit 3 months after his death and have no desire to drink, ever. Cold turkey, no AA. I'm not saying it's his fault, but I am convinced it was the reason. I guess a pop-psychology explanation is that I was using alcohol to repress my emotions about him rather than dealing with them. I know i t may sound like a simplistic solution, but it worked for me, and I did a lot of thinking about it before I arrived at that revelation.
 
trawler69 said:
I've been there. I think it's a genetic tendancy in some people waiting to get exploited.
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I agree. My grandpa was an alcoholic. (died of liver problems) My dad is an alcoholic. Now I'm an alcoholic. So is most of the rest of my family. About a year ago I was joking with a friend about going to rehab, just because we both drank alot, but I could control it. Now if I didn't get drunk every night, I'd probably never sleep. I think it's mostly just because my life sucks horribly right now, not so much that I'm addicted to alcohol. I could stop if I was happy when I'm sober.
 
Please get this in your head: There are things you can do that work and don't cost a lot of money.
What ever you do, I hope it works. But if it doesn't, there is something just for you that WILL work.
 
I am a professional: I have a good job, a wonderful partner, great friends, a loving family and two adorable cats. Nonetheless, I can't seem to help destroying all that is good in my life.


^^^^What beautiful reasons so stop drinking.

My brother and my cousin are alcoholics. Their lives are really good, like yours, and I don't understand, other than perhaps a genetic disposition, why they drink so heavily.

Please take care of yourself. The guys here have offered some excellent advice: see a counselor, or go to AA.

No one is judging you, thank God. We care about you, and hopefully it shows in the posts.

Please let us know how things are going for you. -P.
 
awilliam: how are you? Reading all of these thoughtful posts, I hope (esp the one from GSDX, among others).
Please keep in touch. We care about you.
 
Hey guys,

Thanks very much for your messages. They were a tremendous help. I guess I posted because I was in a terrible state and I just needed to "put it out there" as they say. I made it to my home group meeting last night and let the folks know what I had done. Now that the physical pain has passed it is just a matter of staying the course--easier said than done mind you. However, I have too much to lose and it just isn't worth it. I cannot drink like a regular person and I have tried to moderate my drinking but it doesn't work so abstinence is the answer. In a rational frame of mind it is pretty clear to me that if I have to try so hard to moderate something that most people can just take or leave, that has got to be the clearest sign of all that there is a problem.

I don't post on here very often, although I lurk and read regularly, and I just want to say again how much I appreciated the words of support. Anyone who doesn't believe that there is a caring gay community out there should go back and read this thread! I don't know any of you but you were there for me anyway, and that means a lot.
 
Good luck, from your opening post, you have plenty of reasons to succeed and I truly hope you see it through this time.

Take care
 
So glad to hear the outcome. Keep up the good work!
 
My Friend You can take advice from everyone from the pope to satan and it wont do a bit of good unless you decide to be a selfish bastard and quit drinking for your self.Too many times we hear of people quiting for their family, work, relations, etc. That is all bullshit.You have to do it for your self otherwise it wont work. I am an alcoholic that has been dry 19 years. My quiting was simple. It was either drink and die or quit and live. I choose to live. My liver was so screwed up. I can feel for you with the shakes till you get a drink. I did the same thing. One thing that I hope you never have to go through is D.Ts . That is the worse hell any one can go through. A.A. is good for people that can relate to the problems that others have suffered while drinking. I found it to be useless in my condition because I did not go through the problems that others talked about. And for me I got so depressed after going to a meeting I wanted to drink. So I stayed sober on my own. My advice is to check yourself into a good rehab center that deals with alcoholism. Dry out is about 3 days.The medication they give you takes care of the shakes and the withdraw symptoms. Then take it from there. If you feel AA is for you than by all means go to AA. Remember staying straight is one day at a time. It does get better where you loose any desire to drink. But dont look to the future while you are recovering JUST ONE DAY AT A TIME. You will be suprised how easy it gets as time goes on.. Good luck my friend I hope all goes well in your future. There are a lot of us out there so you are not by yourself. God bless Mark
 
Taz, that's a reply with a lot of helpful insight for those struggling and for those struggling with those struggling...and so on!
 
Yuki Sohma said:
awilliam

Get to an AA meeting and get a sponsor now............

Good luck

Yuki
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Best thing said.

I am also a "recovering" alcoholic as we say in AA, and have not had a drink in 25 years now. Before that, I used to wake up in jail, and also did 2.5 years for drug abuse.

Good luck to you, and hit me up if you have any questions. I managed a Detox/rehab unit before I left there last January.
 
Practicing (non-recovered) third-generation alcoholic here.

That first post was frightening.
Depression and alcohol can be a deadly combination.
I'm glad that you are getting the help you need.

Good luck!
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awilliam, I too am wondering how you are doing. Please check in with us and say 'hi'.
 
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