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ybnd22

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Not sure why I'm posting here...guess I just need to vent.

I'm a mostly straight guy with a girlfriend...the problem is we rarely have sex anymore...she has run into some physical problems that makes it difficult and it's killed her sex drive almost completely...it's tough because I really care about her and I don't want to end the relationship because of it when it's really not her fault.

...I'm not necessarily attracted to men's faces, but the thought of playing with another guy's cock has always turned me on and I've been curious about it for a LONG time...and what with not having hardly any sex, I've lately been considering "other" alternatives. Today I was online, just looking at some porn and horny out of my mind and I thought "why not...?" and messaged an older gay guy on craigslist with a huge cock to see about trading handjobs.

...we even talked on the phone and I had his address...I was in the shower, getting ready to go meet him....then at the last second I called him back and chickened out. I just couldn't bring myself to cheat on my girlfriend and now the guilt of almost doing it is killing me! Not sure what to do at this point...not even sure why I'm positing this here! Just looking for some advice and a place to vent.

Thanks for listening... !oops!
 
Hmm... I guess that's kind of good. You should ask your girlfriend for a handjob if you're that desperate for sex, but not desperate enough to cheat.

-Brandon
 
You stated that "the thought of playing with another guy's cock has always turned me on and I've been curious about it for a LONG time."

You need to decide for yourself and go at your own pace; however, you need to confront these feelings before you find yourself married with kids and still wanting to hookup with guys.

Depending on how you handle the situation you could end up in divorce court, which is no fun at all especially with kids. There are a lot of divorced gay men. I have found them on here and on other websites.
 
mbamike said:
You stated that "the thought of playing with another guy's cock has always turned me on and I've been curious about it for a LONG time."

You need to decide for yourself and go at your own pace; however, you need to confront these feelings before you find yourself married with kids and still wanting to hookup with guys.

Depending on how you handle the situation you could end up in divorce court, which is no fun at all especially with kids. There are a lot of divorced gay men. I have found them on here and on other websites.
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It's not so much the fact that I want to be with just a guy or that I NEED to try it....I just want to get off. And at this point, I really don't care who it's with, you know? With women, it's much more difficult to find one just looking for a casual, quick round...hence why I would consider a guy. I'm JUST curious enough to try it if that makes sense.

dicklipschitz said:
Hi there. You've certainly come to a good place to vent.

It seems to me there are some missing variables to the description of your situation. One, how old are you? Two, are your girlfriend's physical issues a permanent thing, or will they get better in time? If this is a permanent thing, it's sad to say, you might have to consider ending your relationship with her. Love conquers all, but sex is a very, very, very important component to any relationship.
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I'm 26...not sure if the issue will get better. She doesn't seem in any hurry to correct it. =_= What (we think) happened is she went to the doctor a year or so ago...doctor was extremely rough and hurt her...and so she's still in pain when we try to have sex...to the point where when she event thinks about sex she tenses up so it just completely kills her libido. I've never considered myself to be an overly greedy person when it comes to sex but damn, I'm not some sort of sexual camel here...I need a little bit. I'd hate to cut off the relationship because of it. When we try to fool around when she's not into it, it feels extremely forced which kills it for me.

If you're a typical horny guy with frequent needs, then this is going to be a major roadblock down the line -- especially if you're in your early adulthood. On the other hand, if you're older and your needs aren't as frequent and you think you can live with the rare sexual encounter with her and masturbate the rest of the time, well, maybe you can get through it and live on love alone.

There is another possible answer, and it's not for everyone: If she's not able to have sex, or isn't interested in it, and never will be again, maybe you can work out a deal where she lets you play on the side. But you'd have to work it out with her if you are indeed in love with her.
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I can't even imagine asking her for permission to play on the side. I think it would kill her. I talk to her quite frequently about this issue...she's very defensive about it and it hurts her feelings when I even bring it up.

I completely can understand the quandary you're in. But the way I see it, you're really going to have to decide this for yourself.

That said, the fact that you're interested in exploring your extracurricular options but backed off is a good indicator that you still love her. It seems to me, you need to decide how important the sex part really is for yourself before making any other move.

Good luck, man. You're in a tough spot -- one that many married guys face down the line, for what it's worth.

Cheers,
DL
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Heh. I feel like a bastard for even considering it. It's not like I want a relationship with anyone else...I just want some one to get off with...she doesn't seem to want to oblige or care...and yet there are a ton of guys out there who have no problem "lending a hand"... wish I could have both without the guilt.
 
I'm NOT into guys faces,body,ETC just THE COCK.When I was single I played with many cocks but now that I have a GF to I will NOT cheat. I MUCH prefer pussy but cock is tasty too.
 
lenzefflin23 said:
I'm NOT into guys faces,body,ETC just THE COCK.When I was single I played with many cocks but now that I have a GF to I will NOT cheat. I MUCH prefer pussy but cock is tasty too.
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I'm married and I love sucking cock! My wife and I have a very open door policy though. ..|
 
Just being honest bro if you care about this chick don't cheat on her... it will just hurt her in the end and if you feel bad now about almost doin it you'll probably feel worse after you do it.
 
Yea don't cheat but also don't kill yourself over almost cheating either. You are human and you are sexually deprived right now and the two together can make you do and think about things that go against your character. I can relate.

You should talk to your girlfriend. Maybe she doesn't understand the depth of your sexual deprivation? Make it clear if you already haven't. If she cares about you, then she will work to find a solution with you.
 
mbamike said:
You stated that "the thought of playing with another guy's cock has always turned me on and I've been curious about it for a LONG time."

You need to decide for yourself and go at your own pace; however, you need to confront these feelings before you find yourself married with kids and still wanting to hookup with guys.

Depending on how you handle the situation you could end up in divorce court, which is no fun at all especially with kids. There are a lot of divorced gay men. I have found them on here and on other websites.
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Nothing wrong with being married and occasionally turning to a male friend for relief. It's called bisexual. Tell your girlfriend about it.
 
clicker said:
Nothing wrong with being married and occasionally turning to a male friend for relief. It's called bisexual. Tell your girlfriend about it.
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It seems most married men are bisexual but only on the DL
 
ybnd22 said:
Not sure why I'm posting here...guess I just need to vent.

I'm a mostly straight guy with a girlfriend...the problem is we rarely have sex anymore...she has run into some physical problems that makes it difficult and it's killed her sex drive almost completely...it's tough because I really care about her and I don't want to end the relationship because of it when it's really not her fault.

...I'm not necessarily attracted to men's faces, but the thought of playing with another guy's cock has always turned me on and I've been curious about it for a LONG time...and what with not having hardly any sex, I've lately been considering "other" alternatives. Today I was online, just looking at some porn and horny out of my mind and I thought "why not...?" and messaged an older gay guy on craigslist with a huge cock to see about trading handjobs.

...we even talked on the phone and I had his address...I was in the shower, getting ready to go meet him....then at the last second I called him back and chickened out. I just couldn't bring myself to cheat on my girlfriend and now the guilt of almost doing it is killing me! Not sure what to do at this point...not even sure why I'm positing this here! Just looking for some advice and a place to vent.

Thanks for listening... :oops:
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I’m in the same boat with my wife. I haven’t been with a guy in 15 years and I miss it. Just the physical part. Probably not gonna cheat on her with a guy, and certainly not with a female.
 
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