Am I A Terrible Person?

[Luv_Trail]

yea dude what you did and are thinking about doing is wrong and Im sure illegal in some form...You shouldn't do that to people.

 

[masterjoda]

Ever hear of photoshop? Anyway, if he is a jerk he deserves it!

 

[StlKj]

Wrong to have hacked into his email. Wrong to have cheated and manipulated his team. Wrong to have passed yourself off as the girl. Wrong to even consider trying to get nudes of him.

Do you see a theme here? His being "kind of a jerk" is not justification for anything you have done by violating his privacy. You're headed down a dangerous road if this is the kind of behavior you perpetrate on others. Perhaps these kinds of behaviors are the reason he might not like you in the first place?

Do yourself a favor, and stop now. If you really thought what you were doing was right, you wouldn't have asked us. You know it's wrong--now do the right thing and be ethical.

 

[blackbeltninja]

It's probably wrong, but it sounds like a lot of fun...

-d-

 

[chobbs]

not sure how i feel about this...

 

[cbtfan]

Ok so I've gotten myself into a little situation....


So my question is... Am I a terrible person for going on his email in the first place... and would it be just totally unforgivable for me to try and get nude pictures from this guy? And if not... how the hell am I gunna get a picture of this girl with a sign with his name on it?

You hack into his e-mail.
You read his mail.
You pretend to be the girl.
You are trying to get him pictures under false pretenses.
And you ask us to help you continue this 'little situation'.

Yes. You are a terrible person.

'in fact I don’t think he really likes me'.... I wonder why?

And you think HE is the 'jerk'.

 

[evilmonkey]

Bad for your karma. You'd be pissed if someone did it to you.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

You hack into his e-mail.
You read his mail.
You pretend to be the girl.
You are trying to get him pictures under false pretenses.
And you ask us to help you continue this 'little situation'.

Yes. You are a terrible person.

'in fact I don’t think he really likes me'.... I wonder why?


And you think HE is the 'jerk'.

He said it all.

Delete all the files and get a life.

SC

 

[TNGayGolfer]

Since you posed the question, I'm assuming you're looking for an honest answer. CBT really said it best, but I would add that you have an opportunity to redeem yourself by doing the right thing: stop the insanity (don't do what you're thinking of doing) and move on to more realistic and productive things. Not cool, man... not cool at all.

 

[StlKj]

You guys are all judgmental tools. YOU get a life and worry about your own life.

No, those of us who are telling him he did something wrong are not tools. He ASKED for feedback on what he has done, and he was given feedback. If you want to justify someone being a lying, deceitful, manipulative cheat, then go right ahead. As far as I'm concerned, my feedback on what he's done is not meant to judge him...it's meant to warn him his behavior is leading him down a dangerous road that might someday leave him with his ass kicked or with him feeling like somewhere along the way he lost his sense of ethics.

And anyone who thinks he should do it because he says the guy is kind of a jerk is not taking into account that we have only his word on that.

He asked us to judge his actions so he would know--I felt responsibility to be honest with him.

 

[NastyBlkNWhteCouple]

thats not cool"
there is nothing wrong for fantasizing and maybe sending an email to a person "But going into someones private and personal possessions is wrong.
us gay guys already have a wired reputation and things like that add to the list and not in a positive way.
lets keep it LEGAL and real.
peace and love.

 

[andyspete]

It's called invasion of privacy. You could be sued. It's unethical at the very least. It doesn't necessarily make you a terrible person. We all make mistakes. The very fact that you're questioning your actions shows that your conscience is warning you that what you're doing is wrong. Dig deep. Do the right thing and learn from your error. You're the only one who can build your character.

 

[sapien]

I know it's wrong
But I'm too much in love to care

 

[gameboy 11]

To be honest I don't think you're a terrible person you're just terribly desperate.

 

[probeteam1]

I'm generally not in the habit of calling folks terrible persons.

Actually, that's not true at all. I do it all the time.

However, I do not know you well enough to make a judgment. Nor do I know this other guy well enough to know whether his behavior somehow justifies you. However, I can make a few observations:

I was in a fantasy baseball league. In the league was this kid who I went to school with but is now in boarding school. We aren’t really friends at all (in fact I don’t think he really likes me... and he’s kid of a jerk) so this guy never checks his team, doesn’t pay attention, and doesn’t really care. So I was playing him in the playoffs, and was losing going into the last day. Being the competitor I am, I attempted to hack into his yahoo account so I could bench his players. (He doesn’t check so he would never know... also the league wasn’t for money) So I was able to guess his password (it was his last name) so after I benched his players, curiosity got to the best of me, and I read his emails.

First, you cheated. What's more, you cheated for no real reason. There was no cash prize, so it wasn't for the money. There was no mention of any other enticement to win, so it wasn't becaiuse you wanted anything, and I can think of a few words other than "competitive" to describe that sort of behavior. It's not a terrible thing, but why would you bother?

Turns out, he had been having a steamy conversation with some girl he met on the internet. She had sent him a couple nude pictures, and he had sent her some shirtless pictures. This guy is pretty good looking mind you. Anyway, the most recent email said that he would send her some NUDE pics of himself. Then apparently he questioned whether or not she’s real and he stopped talking to her. Anyway... I checked every now and again to see if they talk but nothing happened... until a week ago he sent her an email starting up the conversation again. I waited about 2 weeks and she didn’t respond... that’s when I got a little mischievous...

Then you went on to invade his privacy, and to read personal messages between himself and someone with whom he's building some sorta relationship. Again, not necessarily terrible, but it's not the sort of thing I'd want to encourage.

I created a new email address and sent him a message saying that I was that girl and that I got a new email. If I want, I could get him to send me some nude pics. I wouldn’t show them to anyone, they would just be for me... but I don’t know if I should. Also, he wants me to send him a picture of myself holding a sign with his name on it to make sure the pictures are really of me.

And then you went on to misrepresent yourself to this guy as the person with whom he was corresponding, for the purposes of screwing with his head. What exactly did this guy do to you?

So my question is... Am I a terrible person for going on his email in the first place... and would it be just totally unforgivable for me to try and get nude pictures from this guy? And if not... how the hell am I gunna get a picture of this girl with a sign with his name on it?

Not much is "totally unforgiveable." It is, however, very sleazy.

I won't say you're a terrible person, but I will say that you've made several bad choices all in a row.
Hacking into his account was a bad choice; it was unethical, and possibly criminal.
Benching his team tp effectively win nothing was a bad decision; now you won't know if you actually would've won - or else you already know that you could only have won by cheating. Either way, it seems to me that the thrill of victory would be cheapened.
Going on to read his e-mail was a poor choice. If you can't understand why, I'm not sure I can explain it. But I consider it to be so, and you did ask our opinions.
Posing as the girl was a poor choice. Aside from being every bit as dishonest as hacking his account to win your fantasy baseball playoffs, it stops being competitive and gets personal.
As for getting nude pictures of him, I would advise you to let this go; there are countles pictures of naked guys on the internet without this sort of head-game.

IMO, games like this can end up being about power far too easily, and should be avoided. But what do I know?

The opinion that really matters here is yours. If you don't see anything wrong with it, then no amount of dissuasion or condemnation on my part is going to stop you. And if you do have a problem with it, no amount of reassurances on my part will make it go away.

But if you want my advice, it is this: Stop now. Delete your prank account. If possible, advice your not-friend to change his password to something a little harder to guess, just to remove you from temptation. Get your naked pictures some other way.

 

[thegreatescape]

I totally recommend that you end it now. I once did something, not exactly like this, but sort of similar and I felt fuckin horrible about it. You don't realize it til after it actually happens, how bad what you did actually was. I remember for such a long time after, I constantly felt like shit, everyday I would wake up feeling sick. I'm sure my case was a little more extreme than yours and I don't really want to elaborate on it, but still, I guarantee you'll feel horrible, even if the guy is such a jerk. To this day, I still feel bad about what I did and I regret it all the time. I think our horniness just gets in the way of rational thinking.

 

[none_2362]

It might have been funny and excusable if you had stopped at just benching his players, but it has certainly gone too far at this point. If he's a jerk and he's hot, fine, jerk off fantacising about him without feeling guilty; but doing this is not only breaking the law, he doesn't deserve being violated like this.