Am I bi or not?

[PeterEdwards112]

Hi guys,
I stumbled upon this and thought everyone on here seemed really helpful!

Basically, I am 20 and I just want to work a few things out.
I have always been into the idea of forced feminization at the hands of a women, but I guess I have never tried it with a man and so wouldn't know if i'd enjoy it or not.
My area of confusion lies here really... I would identify as straight. I enjoy sex with females and I've been romantically involved with females for relatively long periods of time, and when comfortable around the women, never struggled to perform, so when I find myself turned on by the idea of my gf or any girl, forcing me to dress like a girl and sometimes even 'force' me to perform any kind of humiliating acts (including 'homosexual' acts), i'm wondering whether or not I might be bisexual?
I have never looked at a man and thought anything sexual, but the idea of being forced to be out of my comfort zone seems to turn me on, as does any real form of humiliation (including on the women as I love it when they are dominant). Is this forced man on man thing just a fetish for a straight guy or is it more for bisexual men? I would like to add that I have no particular urge to ever engage in anything passionate with a man, where feelings are involved, it would be strictly "forced" if that helps at all!

Hope someone can shed some light here! Cheers!

 

[shaneripley81]

I would say you are straight.
You have no desire to be with another guy.
Being turned on by the idea of you being forced to be "feminized" and/or
engaging in homosexual acts sounds like you are more into being humiliated/controlled.
Honestly, I don't see why it matters to be labeled one thing or the other.
You like what you like.
At the end of the day, you just have to be honest with yourself and don't be ashamed.
There is no right or wrong way to be.

Hope I've been some help.

 

[sultrysam]

if you're not turned on by men, then you're not bisexual. You're just a kinky straight guy.

 

[palbert]

I have known many a straight man who preferred a dominant female and wasn't interested at all in guys. Be yourself and leave the labeling aside.

And, welcome to JUB!

(I have suggested to the Mods this might be more appropriate in Coming Out and Relationships, where you will probably get more replies.)

 

[PeterEdwards112]

I don't mean to come across as if I am labelling, I just wasn't sure how else to word it. I am happy with what I am regardless, but I was just wondering if anyone knew if this kind of thing was common amongst the straight community really, but I appreciate any replies, all of which have been helpful as of yet! I think I just enjoy you humiliation of feeling feminine !

 

[eastofeden]

Straight men who like to be dominated and humiliated are common...sometimes if the woman wants him to suck a cock or get fucked they may be turned on...not by the idea or action of doing either...but because the woman who is dominating them asked told them to do it.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

You kind of remind me of some guys I've known who were Bi/Gay, but couldn't accept or admit it morally/emotionally to themselves, so they developed fantasies like yours. I think in their eyes, as long as they were "forced" to have sex with a guy by the guy, or by their GF, then they weren't responsible for the act happening and free of guilt.

It wasn't THEIR idea... it "just happened". Being a victim cleared them from any kind of psychological guilt of WANTING it to happen, or taking any steps to make it happen for themselves.

 

[palbert]

I don't mean to come across as if I am labelling, I just wasn't sure how else to word it. I am happy with what I am regardless, but I was just wondering if anyone knew if this kind of thing was common amongst the straight community really, but I appreciate any replies, all of which have been helpful as of yet! I think I just enjoy you humiliation of feeling feminine !

Your sexual path is not set in stone. I have been gay, then bi, then straight and then exclusively gay. Just go with the moment and feeling comfortable.

 

[PeterEdwards112]

I understand what you mean, and I myself know similar people, but in this instance, I am fairly open to what ever I am. The only real appeal is the feeling of being degraded/humiliated, and would lack passion in every sense, whereas with female partners, it's the complete opposite. The idea of being forced applied to women as well, but i'm not trying struggling to accept I like women? So it works both ways

 

[Seasoned]

Labels help or hinder depending upon the situation and/or the person. Questioning people will either arrive at a conclusion with experience or not. It's probably best if you stay uncertain for now rather to have someone else define you. It's ok to be unclear.

 

[PeterEdwards112]

Labels help or hinder depending upon the situation and/or the person. Questioning people will either arrive at a conclusion with experience or not. It's probably best if you stay uncertain for now rather to have someone else define you. It's ok to be unclear.

I understand what you're saying and I don't really like the labelling thing. I guess my question focuses more on whether or not it is a fetish to feel dominated and feminine for a straight guy, or something shared more amongst the bisexual community. I lack sexual attraction to men, yet am stimulated by the idea of being degraded in the presence of one, and that of a female, so was just looking for an insight I guess! Also, I like the quote a lot!

 

[maxpowr9]

I don't think you're bisexual. IMHO, to be "bi" you have to willingly want to be with both males and females.

If anything, you enjoy being: "pussy whipped". Not that it is a bad thing.

 

[bruce379]

Hi Peter,

Here's my take: You're just one kinky little fucker and I mean that in a nice way

I take your word for it and the sense of how you come across: you're straight but sexually adventurous. You like dominant women and get off on that kind of kink. I bet you get hard being told what to do by a dominant gf. You also fulfil some women's fantasies because some women also get off seeing submissive guys take orders from them to suck another guy's dick or get fucked - which ends up as a threeway with the girl getting fucked by you while you're getting fucked by the other guy - you're the filling in a sandwich so to speak, lol.
Anyway. It's good you're open-minded about this thing. Forget what everybody says. As long as all the participants knowingly consent, are enjoying, stops when they want to disengage and no one is in danger of getting even remotely physically or mentally harmed, then it's all fair game. Safe sex and know your status.
I've once seen a girl orgasm when the submissive guy got a massive facial from another guy and is made to swallow the rest of his load while the submissive is plowing the girl. I hope you can imagine the sexual positions of each I think they were in their late 20s.
Anyway, enjoy.

 

[PeterEdwards112]

Hi Peter,

Here's my take: You're just one kinky little fucker and I mean that in a nice way

I take your word for it and the sense of how you come across: you're straight but sexually adventurous. You like dominant women and get off on that kind of kink. I bet you get hard being told what to do by a dominant gf. You also fulfil some women's fantasies because some women also get off seeing submissive guys take orders from them to suck another guy's dick or get fucked - which ends up as a threeway with the girl getting fucked by you while you're getting fucked by the other guy - you're the filling in a sandwich so to speak, lol.
Anyway. It's good you're open-minded about this thing. Forget what everybody says. As long as all the participants knowingly consent, are enjoying, stops when they want to disengage and no one is in danger of getting even remotely physically or mentally harmed, then it's all fair game. Safe sex and know your status.
I've once seen a girl orgasm when the submissive guy got a massive facial from another guy and is made to swallow the rest of his load while the submissive is plowing the girl. I hope you can imagine the sexual positions of each I think they were in their late 20s.
Anyway, enjoy.

Haha thank you for your take on it. You all have been a great help! All the best