am i bi or what?

[moonie]

im still in that confusion stage in my life and i need some help. i have always had a strong sexual desire(?) for guys but never emotionally. ive never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend so people usually just label me gay but i would never be in a relationship with another guy because its not for me. im also one-sided in the sexual sense because i tried anal stimulation and i hated it, but that doesnt change the fact that i have thoughts about having sex with another man. i don't think i'll ever act on these feelings but i can't help what turns me on, which is women and men.

i don't want to TRY a relationship with a man because, no offense meant, but i find the actual relationship repulsive if it isnt strictly sexual.
then again I never had a relationship with a woman so i cant say I favor the sex more (virgin).

could i have some insight?

 

[bounder]

I think your perspective might change when you actually get involved with someone.

 

[NoStarDies]

I don't think you are bisexual at all.
You say you don't find yourself emotionally connected with a guy and that the though of being with a guy is repulsive.
Just thinking about sex with a guy doesn't justify anything, especially if it is only one sided (just you getting off and not recepricating)...

But like its was said, you will never know if you don't get involved.

 

[flixelblix]

Do what I did, a girlfriend with occasional bisexual threesomes. I get the best of both worlds because like you, I won't even kiss a man. (but I'll swallow his cock in a heartbeat so go figure that one out...)

My girlfriend is very bi and we've had these conversations. Although we haven't done the actual threesomes yet, I am hoping to talk her into it. I came out of the closet to her just this week so we will see where it goes.

 

[BOYBLOW]

Funny when u said u never kiss with a man. I thought only me never kiss with a man. I like to be together with a right man touching each other, wank, maybe I will suck his cock. I never been fuck and never think to fuck.
But I always have a dream to suck tony Blair cock and kiss with him.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

You are very young....just be friends with people. If people ask you if you are gay, just tell them you don't know. Laugh and tell them you think you might be "asexual". Tell them you don't have feelings for dudes or chicks.

After some time, you will meet someone - the gender won't matter, but you will KNOW you are interested in the person.

Don't worry - just enjoy life - it will happen when it happens and be crystal clear!

 

[presidentiado]

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I agree. You're gay. Sorry.

 

[KaraBulut]

You can spend your life trying to ponder labels or trying to avoid them.

Or you can deal with the issue by experimenting and discovering what your real feelings are.

Really, life is too short for all this uncertainty and analysis over words like gay, straight, bi...

 

[rareboy]

Well, WELCOME to the posting boards.

We all understand that you're at a sensitive stage in your life where you're questioning your orientation and emotional aptitude and we just all want to be supportive in helping you self-actualize.

You find emotional relationships with a guy icky. Cool. A lot of guys who post on here do as well.

I'd suggest that you go out and find some guy or girl to fuck, but the likelihood is that you are waiting for an emotional connection to the girl at least.

But since you're not one of the dewy eyed virgins waiting for true romance with Prince Charming, but only sex with a guy, then your only choice is to find some dude to fuck. Which is incredibly easy if your not grossly ugly or obese or have a terrible personality.

And if you don't like your anus stimulated, then tell the guy at the outset. Give him all the rules before you hook up.

And then, if you hate sex with guys, focus only on the chicks. The best part is, you can just go back and forth between guys and chicks for the rest of your life if you want.

Absolutely keep us posted on what happens.

Cheers!!

 

[rareboy]

But since you're not one of the dewy eyed virgins waiting for true romance with Prince Charming, but only sex with a guy, then your only choice is to find some dude to fuck. Which is incredibly easy if you're not grossly ugly or obese or have a terrible personality.

There... fixed the typo. And it bears repeating.

 

[hotatlboi]

You could be gay. During the confused stage of my life I said the same stuff to myself, (would not want a relationship with a guy, didn't like kissing guys, etc). Now I'm into all of that.

 

[rareboy]

Hey dudes. Don't worry. It is all cool. Stop stressing about gay/bi/straight.

And particularly if you're not out, don't even give any more thought to what you are or think you should be.

Frankly, there's no one on these boards that can tell what you are. Everything that everyone is saying is just a random guess based on our own preconceptions and biases.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

It'll confuse you more to try and put yourself into a group. So find guys and girls attractive. Nothing wrong with that, don't complicate that. However, you must ask yourself - are you refusing to accept guys emotionally because it is "normal" by society to date a woman, marry her, and get her knocked up? If so, sorry bud you're most likely gay and trying to convince yourself that men are only sexual tools because that is what they need to be, while women are the real deal because they are supposed to. OR you could geniunely believe that men don't cut it for you emotionally, but you never know until you date one. The most you can do is be honest with yourself. You've never had sex with neither male or female, try it (when you're ready) and see what you like.