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Am I gay, bi, or just really horny??

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Hey guys, I'm from Tampa, FL, I just stumble across this site a few days ago and I was wondering if you guys can help me. I am 18 years old college student and I was pretty sure I was straight because I usually think about being with a girl and doing something romantic with her. But I'm starting to look at guys too, except nothing romantic, I just want to see what it would be like to experiment. So am I bi, gay, curious, or just really horny?? I'm kind of confused and hopefully you guys can help.
 
I'd have to say you're curious. Do you have much experience with woman? What you're feeling may be a natural progression. My suggestion would be to do some exploring to discover the real you. Good luck!
 
I would guess curious, or just really horny.

IF you decide to experiment - PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE PLAY SAFE.

(*8*)
 
Or could it be that desire to be intimate with your own gender is a part of human nature? Could our human history [both the long and the short of it all] strengthen this desire?
And if 6 Billion is too-many human beings---and it really is or really is getting there---maybe it's a natural outlet.
Like someone else said: Be careful however you play, brother.
 
Dude, you are both horny and curious. You are also at the right age for both.

If you do not have fun and start your own personal exploration now, when should you really do it?

Play safe and go and get them, tiger.

SC
 
Staying scared and doing nothing is not a good option, that's for sure! Dont let oppourtunities go to waste.... (been there, done that, got the T-shirt ;) )
 
Don't bother putting a label on yourself, just do what you feel. Guys who say they are 100% straight are full of shit. Anyone can be attracted to anyone for any reason. I know several "straight" guys that love women, some are married, but they still crave dick from time to time. And i know gay guys who have had sex with women and loved it, as i have. The big factor in deciding if you are gay or straight is who do you want to be with the most.
If you are curious, and obviously you are or you would'nt be here, just go for it! Maybe you'll find that sex with a guy is even better than you thought, or maybe you will decide you prefer women. And all guys are different in bed, so don't let one negative experience spoil it for you. Just get as much info as you can about safe sex, and don't put anything in your mouth or ass that isn't wrapped!
 
I think you're a normal, oversexed 18 year old. As a popular movie demonstrated, even a pie can look good. So I would suggest that your appreciation of men as sexual beings does not necessarily mean that you are gay or even bi.

You say that you are having sexual feelings for men but not 'romantic' ones, which I take it means that you don't want to date them. Personally, I'm against any sexual contact unless it is in the context of some form of relationship: it's more fun that way, if nothing else. It is almost certainly safer if you know someone.

So if you do decide to 'experiment', I would advise doing it in the context of friendly dating. Don't 'hook up' (meet just to have sex) on line: there are way too many creeps out there. You can post an add on Craig's List, being very specific about wanting to meet a guy your age who is 'curious' like yourself. While 90% of the responses you get will be from creeps, there will also be some reasonable ones. Have a rigorous sceening process.

Whatever you do, don't let some 'more experienced' guy try to talk you into letting him 'break you in'. Always a bad sign.

You live in Tampa. You could always 'experiment' by doing videos for Corbin Fisher ;) (only kidding)
 
Don't worry about labels. Just be yourself and take all the time in the world to allow yourself to discover yourself. Sexual experiences may help but please remember that your sexuality is defined no only by sexual interactions but by emotions and other factors as well.

Always play safe and personally, I'd be very cautious about playing with another person if I were already in a relationship. I guess what I'm saying is, if you've got a girlfriend, then experimenting sexually with another dude might not be the best idea - that's cheating!
 
You're just like everyone else -- a sexual being. That is the only label I really think applies.
 
Agree with everyone.

Curious and Horny until proven otherwise.
 
interesting said:
Hey guys, I'm from Tampa, FL, I just stumble across this site a few days ago and I was wondering if you guys can help me. I am 18 years old college student and I was pretty sure I was straight because I usually think about being with a girl and doing something romantic with her. But I'm starting to look at guys too, except nothing romantic, I just want to see what it would be like to experiment. So am I bi, gay, curious, or just really horny?? I'm kind of confused and hopefully you guys can help.
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Well, I think you can take gay out of the running.
 
I actually don't have a girlfriend at the moment, I've had a couple in the past and I'm really a virgin. I actually never full on make out with any of my girlfrined. So in all, I don't have any real sexual contact with a woman. When I'm alone I tend to fantasize about women, but then sometimes men too. I take experimentation into consideration, but I really don't want to get involved in anything more than I can handle. Yet, how do you guys suggest I experiment since I'm really shy and asking a girl out is hard, and that makes it twice harder to ask a boy out. And I'm really not sure if I want my first time to be with a guy, since I have never done anything sexual with another being.

P.S. What is Corbin Fisher?
 
interesting said:
I actually don't have a girlfriend at the moment, I've had a couple in the past and I'm really a virgin. I actually never full on make out with any of my girlfrined. So in all, I don't have any real sexual contact with a woman. When I'm alone I tend to fantasize about women, but then sometimes men too. I take experimentation into consideration, but I really don't want to get involved in anything more than I can handle. Yet, how do you guys suggest I experiment since I'm really shy and asking a girl out is hard, and that makes it twice harder to ask a boy out. And I'm really not sure if I want my first time to be with a guy, since I have never done anything sexual with another being.

P.S. What is Corbin Fisher?
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When you have gf's, don't become sexual with them, and look at guys, it is suspicious for being gay. It should have been really hard for you to not have sex with the gf's IMO. If it was easy, then I wonder what your erotic preference is.

Sometimes the prohibition against being gay is so strong that we ignore or play down our feelings for men. And then with women, we become very romantic, perfect gentlemen, but not horny young guys.

When I was in college, I did not believe in pre-marital sex (a term you never even hear anymore) and so did not have to attempt any sexual relations with my gf's. I found it very easy to stay celibate. I was a great bf in every other way, though. I was very romantic, understanding, fun, a great listener, etc.

Just FYI in case it is helpful.
 
Just to highlight and to add something to what Riverrick said.

Riverrick said:
Sometimes the prohibition against being gay is so strong that we ignore or play down our feelings for men. And then with women, we become very romantic, perfect gentlemen, but not horny young guys.
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We unconsciously or consciously ignore or play down our feelings for men. You build up such emotional barriers in your mind without realizing it, that you don't realize your true feelings until they came crashing down. You don't know you had those barriers until afterwards, you never realize it until the barriers are either destroyed by your, or you are mentally unshielded.

I don't know if you are straight, bi, gay, curious, confused, whatever interesting. Nobody here can answer that question for you, only yourself can do so. We can observe what you say and compare it to our personal experiences, and the experiences of our friends and family, but we can't answer it. Only you can do it, and by the looks of things you have been avoiding the issue, or at least not moving in the direction of finding out.

If you want advice or a sounding board JUB is great for that. We just aren't the "answer board." :)
 
thanks everyone for helping me out, think I know what to do now, I'm going to try to use all of your suggestions and see where they lead me
 
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