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Am I gay? Confused!!!!! lol

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Hello everyone and thanks for reading my rambling about this. I'm almost 29 years old, have always dated women, but have had sex with 7 or 8 guys in the past 10 years. I would totally date a man if I found one I click with. There is just something about it when I'm with a man sexually than a woman. I don't know if it's the fact that I know it's another guy and thats hot, but it's just something about making out and being sexual with another man. The other thing is, I always talk myself out of meeting guys. I dont know why. All my friends and family are completely open, maybe it's me just trying to accept it or something. But I'll fantasize and think about men alot sexually, then when it comes down to actually meeting one, I get all nervous and talk myself out of it and that I like it. Then 2 hours later, I'm pissed I didn't do it. It's this weird cycle like that. What the hell?!?! lol
 
Even if friends and family are accepting you may still have trouble accepting it yourself. The most difficult person to come out to may be one's self. Heterosexism permeates our society and all types of messages are given to us from birth. It's possible for you to work on this yourself by being around gay people and socializing. You'll do better by not seeing gay just in the sexual sense.

As someone who struggled with internalized homophobia, I didn't think accept my sexual orientation. It would only come to the surface when I was horny. I needed therapy in order to accept myself.
 
Yup.

Gay.

In denial.

Yup.

I've had joyful and positive relationships with guys since I was 21. I have been with my partner 28 years. We are inseparable companions and enjoy one another's company as much today as in the beginning.
 
Yes, you're totally gay. EMBRACE IT! OWN IT!

Welcome to the club! (*8*)
 
lets not get bogged down in lables. you are attracted to men sexually, as many men are. can you really blame them? men are sexy hot...i cannot blame you for wanting other men... i mean...how can you resist their sexy bodies?
 
The first step and often the most difficult step in the coming out process is accepting yourself.

That seems to be where you are stuck.

The key here is that you feel a stronger connection with the guys that you date. The question is, "Why are you so scared of that connection?"- it is loss of control, fear of commitment or the inability to just accept that you like cock better? :)
 
loki81 said:
not to derail the thread, but it just occurred to me that this straight guy is having more gay sex than I am and I think it's sending me into a depression spiral :P
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Hahaha you and me both lol
 
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