Am I over-worrying about STDs?

[sellotape123]

Hey guys, so I had my first one night stand last night. It was pretty good actually, but now I'm sitting here stressing about STDs - likely the reason I've not been particularly sexually "out there" before.
I was safe, at least what I would consider safe, though there was unprotected oral sex (no ejaculation) and he asked me if I would fuck him without a condom which I said 'no' to...obviously.

I'm gonna go get myself tested for peace of mind anyway, but am I stressing too much about catching something? I know it's healthy to have a concern and take appropriate precautions, but worrying like this is kinda killing the fun of it for me.

Any words of wisdom?

 

[sixthson]

Any one night stand who asks you for unprotected anal sex is probably someone to run far from. Don't you wonder how many others
he has asked to do that? And how many others took him up on it?

 

[sellotape123]

Yes absolutely, hence my concern now. I suppose I'm wondering if my concern is disproportionate to what took place.

 

[racer2438]

Never ever have unprotected sex w/someone you know nothing about, period end of.............cuz are you willing to risk your life on it..................think about it.. your life...

 

[sellotape123]

Update: I have been in touch with him and know more about his sexual history (a little late, I know, I know) and I am less concerned. Still going to get myself tested though.

I do wonder, though, if my concern over catching something is over the top? My rational mind says that you can't be too careful, but last time I went to have a test and told them my recent sexual history (same as this time, unprotected oral only) I felt like I was wasting their time.....

 

[Benvolio]

Unprotected oral sex is consided to be relatively very safe, unless you have sores or a cut in your mouth. So, even if he was positive, you probably will not be infected. Yes, you probably are a little over concerned, and you will become less concerned with experience. But some individuals never lose the extreme fear. Sex is never completely safe so, you will want to read up on safer sex, determine your level of risk and stick to your rules.

 

[sellotape123]

Thanks Benvolio.

Funny thought just occurred to me: I used to smoke a pack a day and never worried about cancer, but everytime I have sex I'm worried about catching something.