Am I turning gay or what???

[A Box of Tuna]

I have always loved women, and I still do.

But latley I've been craving cock. I keep thinking about having sex with another man. And the idéa of a Cock in my mouth makes me horny.
But after I've cum I feel disguisting and evil. I have nothing against gay's but I feel "dirty."

I have always had a little gay side. Whenever I see a hot guy I can't stop looking at him. But latley I've been wanting to have gay sex.

Amd I turning gay?

 

[Seasoned]

Just remember that no one "turns," and that you don't have "sides.". You are an integrated person. Homophobia may have kept you from gay exploration. Some people like upping the ante with sex. Perhaps it's nothing more than your sex drive pushing you to explore something new.

 

[saymyname]

Yes. You are. Go do it. now.

 

[A Box of Tuna]

So no one else can tell me? Maybe I shoul'd experiment and see what happens...

 

[TX-Beau]

So no one else can tell me? Maybe I shoul'd experiment and see what happens...

Obviously. No one in here lives in your head. Your possibilities are.

1. You're gay and you've been repressing because you've been taught that gay sex is wrong.

2. You're Bisexual and you've been repressing because you've been taught that gay sex is wrong.

We don't know, but if you're getting off thinking about cock it's safe to say that at least your libido has a gay side to it.

If you're not committed to some woman go find out.

 

[KaraBulut]

You are what you are.

Everyone has the fantasies. The real question is whether you want to act upon those fantasies.

Perhaps a compromise is to find an adventurous male-female couple looking for a third to play with...?

 

[briefboy86]

Well I was the same way. I always had girlfriends but I was really attracted I guys. I finally couldn't handle the stress of hiding what I really wnated some
Good pasionate gay sex. I now have the greatest bf in the world and couldn't e happier!! So if your feeling that at just try it you'll me glad you did in either sense, you will know if it feels rite and if not you were just courious. So by advice to do it. I did and I love the outcome!!!

 

[giorgiobaby]

You might be just Bisexual, you should try it. If you don't find out, you'll always wonder what if?

 

[Reprobate]

I spent three years having the same internal arguments you say you are having. I met a guy, jacked him off a few times, today I experimented a little orally, he seemed to love it and it was very exciting for me. Just my experience but for me I am glad I did it and sorry I wasted three years arguing with myself about it and really sorry I didn't go ahead and do it back when I was 16. Now that I am like 150 in gay years (41) seems like allot of wasted time just to figure out that I really like men.

Your millage may very but if you ever wind up with a cock in your mouth and realize you like it you can rest assured that you are not straight

 

[rareboy]

But after I've cum I feel disguisting and evil. I have nothing against gay's but I feel "dirty."

The clue to your dilemma is right here.

Why do you feel disgusted? Why evil?

Resolve these and you'll be more comfortable with the idea that sex with guys is just sex with guys and not something inferior to fucking a female.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>So no one else can tell me?

No way of knowing, especially from the limited information you gave us. Even if you gave us an entire history of everything that's turned you on (and hasn't turned you on), I don't know if we'd have a perfectly clear idea what's going on.

You're getting off on the idea of giving oral to guys. Does that make you gay? Not necessarily. I've gotten off to fantasies of sex with guys, women, groups, famous people, utter strangers, aliens and monsters...but I don't think I'd actually want to have sex with all of them. I've had fantasies (and not just sexual ones) about being and doing simple, complex, normal and outlandish things. That doesn't mean I necessarily want them to come true. It's fun to fantasize about being a rock star, say, standing on stage and facing the adoration of thousands of screaming fans...without actually having to learn an instrument, write a hit song, and play in crappy bars for four years. As one famous singer once told me, "I never fantasized about the long trips in the van, or facing yet another fruit tray." That's reality. The fantasy has all the positives you want, without facing any of the negatives that come along with it.

So back to you. Does this mean you really want to have sex with a guy? Offhand, I'd say no. Why? Because you lose interest completely post-orgasm. You don't sit there in post-orgasmic bliss thinking "Yeah, that WOULD be hot". Instead, you feel "disgusting" and "dirty".

And that, I think, is probably what's going on. What's getting you off isn't the cock, per se. It's the whole "disgusting" and "dirty" thing. It's exciting to fantasize about crossing borders from time to time. Doing things we wouldn't normally do. I think that's all you're doing, and it's fine. Enjoy it. Eventually, the fantasy probably won't hold the appeal it once did, and you'll find another one to take its place.

Lex

 

[M4P]

Your feelings are completely natural - feeling dirty and ashamed afterwards. I'm not going to say you're gay or bi but there is definitely a curiosity. You have no reason to feel disgusting or evil

 

[Fallen1984]

It sounds like you might be bi, and, having apparently lived an entirely straight existence up until now, are having some "growing pains" with your new feelings. As soreknees said, there's really no "turning" involved ...you're just discovering a new facet to your own individual sexuality.

As for the feeling dirty or whatnot, I feel like that could simply be an effect of difference -- if you've heretofore felt totally straight, any new feeling might seem strange or, as you say, "dirty." How one interprets that feeling probably depends on one's upbringing or social conditioning.

I've always identified as gay and only been sexually attracted to men, but when I was a teenager, I had a strong aversion to sex immediately after getting off. There was no moral component, I was just done with sex during that refractory period, didn't want to watch porn, didn't feeling anything sexual. I think that feeling can be interpreted in many ways, depending on our individual personalities. None of it is wrong, but I think, in your case, it's simply a hurdle to be overcome. And I feel like, when you do, you'll be happier with yourself, whether you identify as bisexual or gay or straight, and whether you happen to live as straight or bi or whatever. So long as you're honest with yourself about your sexuality.

 

[DBSKIsMine]

I'm one of the firm believers in the idea that your sexuality is defined more in terms of romantic attraction to a specific gender, rather than sexual attraction. Obviously nothing is cut and dry when it comes to sexuality, but I've known men who are otherwise straight that will do sexual things with men without thinking twice. Their motives aren't clear but obviously the only thing they want you for is personal gratification.

If you had, say, met a man that you felt a strong romantic attachment too, that you wanted to have sex with but perhaps wanted more than JUST sex, then I'd be inclined to say you might be bisexual, but from what you've described I don't think this is anything more than a desire to experiment.

 

[Caaake]

I think you're bi. not gay. BUt go put a cock in your mouth, satisfy that craving, you won't regret it.. mm

 

[Deandbn]

If men sexually arouse you - you are gay
If women sexually arouse you - you are str8
if both do - you are bi

and no you cant choose - thats how god made you.

If you like you can bluff some of the people all the time
or you can bluff all of the people some of the time
but you cant bluff yourself any of the time

Yeah man just have fun cos life is short.

 

[Lube]

^ Woo-hoo! I couldn't say it better than Deandbn.

When I was married, I used to jack off thinking about guys--then as soon as I came, I no longer felt that intense feeling anymore.

It didn't mean I didn't like guys (although I used that excuse on myself)--it simply meant that, after cumming, you lose that horny edge. That's all.

If you fantasize about guys, you're at least bi-sexual if not gay.