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Am I way too needy or is he just a prick?

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Hey guys, so I kinda wanted some advice/an opinion. I met this guy awhile ago online and for the last month or so we've really hit it off, talked tons, email, text, phone the whole deal. Originally it was him that initiated the conversations (cause personally I think he's way out of my league, like we both used to model, but he's crazy hot) even to the point of texting me at like 1am to chat - thing is when I'm way into guys I tend to talk to them everyday and I know it can get suffocating for some guys, so I kinda let the realtionship ween off a bit for about a week (call it playing hard to get). Anyway now when I talk to him he rarely returns any messages, getting ahold of him is impossible (it really annoys me when someone leaves their IM on and it says their available but they dont respond, I hate being ignored and I think its rude) and the thing is it's leading me to try harder and I feel like I'm comming off as being whinny and needy and acting like a kid (I'm 19, he's 27 and I dont want to look like a kid to him).

I realize we met online and so I shouldnt be putting awhole lot of faith into this but I really liked this guy, and we live less than an hour away and It's not like I want a proposal here, but if he lost interest I wish he'd say it and I've asked if I did anything wrong but he doest respond. Maybe I'm just way too needy or he's just a prick but can someone give me some advice? please?
 
>>>Maybe I'm just way too needy or he's just a prick but can someone give me some advice? please?

"Hey. I haven't heard much from you recently, and that's kind of been a bit of a bummer. I quite like chatting with you, and I'd love to meet up with you soon. Is this something you'd be interested in?"

There. Ball's in his court.

Lex
 
Often the non-answer is the answer.
 
soreknees said:
Often the non-answer is the answer.
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Couldn't have said it better myself. I think.

This recently just happened to me, kind of the same situation, and the guy just was loosing interest I guess, but he was a prick, so its his loss not mine :) because i am a genuinely nice person :)

This happened to my best freind though, and it was completely opposite. She was kind of like you a bit "needy" or in better words, just more into it then he was. They talked and whatever, they really liked each other, but she started getting annoyed that he wasnt replying to her texts etc so they had a fight, and now they are back together and very happy. I guess he was just playing hard to get, trying to be sexy whatever..

This really pisses me off. Why do guys play lovegames? Hes not hotter because hes not replying to my messages, hes just an asshole, and it makes me feel worse about myself.
 
Well I sent him that one last message you suggested Lex, so the ball is in his court. It just sucks cause now I feel like I've blown a good thing by caring too much - but yeah I guess his loss. Thanks boys, any other advice on how to deal with the situation, or even how to prove to him I'm not some psycho needy maniac (though maybe thats a lost cause) would be appreciated boys. Thanks.
 
May be too late for this relationship but hopefully you've learned something and it will help keep this from happening again. Rejection sucks. No matter what form it comes in. You can dwell on it or learn something and try and keep it from happening again. My guess is he's decided to move on. You were too needy, or immature or whatever. Only he knows why and it looks like he's saying it in his inaction rather than words. Let him go. He knows how to get in contact with you if he wants.
 
Lemme just highlight two things.

>>>I kinda let the realtionship ween off a bit for about a week (call it playing hard to get)...

>>>Anyway now when I talk to him he rarely returns any messages, getting ahold of him is impossible.

You figure out why. :)

Lex
 
^ Yep. What's good for the gander is good for the other gander. ;)
 
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