Anal fissure/s? Totally fed up!

[Stevieglw]

Hey. 1st post... Wish it was under better circumstances.

I'd class myself as versatile, but at the same time I don't get anywhere near enough bottoming experience. In all the time I've been having sex with guys, I've only been fucked 3 times and all have been painful experiences. For about 10 years now I've had "issues" shall we say, with my ass. Up til now I thought it has been haemorrhoids on and off, but having done a lot of reading today about those, I'm not convinced. I think my symptoms point more towards it being an anal fissure or maybe even two.

Last week I met this really cool guy and he wanted to fuck me. I'd say he was of a good average size and, knowing my ass, doubted that he was going to get in, but said we could try. He was really gentle and slow and used lots of lube and to my amazement, got his cock in my ass. Yeah, it hurt a bit and I felt like I got a bit of a tear just at the cleft of my butt cheeks which I've had before (annoying and stinging) and in the end I had to get him to pull out as it was just too sore. Pissed off but elated at having got a decent sided cock in me nonetheless.

Afterwards my ass felt ok, but the next day when I had to pass a stool, I felt like a rip. I've had this loads of times and it makes the though of going to the toilet a nightmare sometimes especially when it's just starting to heal. This in turn leads me to not want to open my ass fully and I try to control how much I'm allowing it to open.

Last night I could hardly get to sleep from the throbbing pain and it was the same all of today, even with the use of some haemorrhoid cream up inside my ass and around my ass hole. It's starting to calm down a little tonight but I know the next bowel motion isn't going to be fun.

I just feel so depressed about the whole thing. I would just like an ass that actually works and allows me to experience what I would like sexually. Is there an actual long term cure for anal fissures if it is that? I eat a reasonable amount of fruit and fibre in my diet, and my stools certainly ithe last 3 months or so haven't been particularly hard but I just always feel "tight" and that a normal sized stool that I used to have years ago wouldn't be able to get out.

Is there a good treatment that I can try for myself? I have booked a doctors appointment for next week but TBH I'm depressed and mortified at the thought. I think idvrather go see the folks at the gay men's health project, but don't know if they'd be able to help.

Sorry for rambling on about such an unsavoury subject. I'm just really fed up.

 

[BrunoBru]

A friend of mine had an anal fissure a few years ago and it sounds very much like what you're describing. His father and brother have had them but it was the first I'd ever heard of such a thing. He suffered for months with various remedies and treatments until I finally convinced him to just bite the bullet and have it repaired surgically. The pain would get so bad he was literally incapacitated at times, and that's no way to live. The surgery wasn't the most pleasant thing in the world but he hasn't had any trouble since. Until you can see your doctor and get a professional evaluation, maybe try a stool softener just to get you through. And good luck!

 

[diesel]

definitely go see a doctor first. I've had 2 hemorrhoid surgeries , one about 5 yrs ago and 1 about 9 yrs ago. talk about painful - one of my most miserable life experiences. I had issues again a few yrs ago and thought I was going for round 3, but it turned out to be fissures. The doc gave me a script for a lanacane-type ointment that eased the discomfort considerably. I also had to sit in a warm tub twice a day for weeks and that combo seemed to treat it where I haven't had a problem since. I also take a stool softener gel cap that he told me to take for the rest of my life, and always use flush-able wipes and never use toilet paper. I did exactly what he said and it's working, so do yourself a favor and go see a doctor. Good luck.

 

[Stevieglw]

Thank you for the replies and tips. Yes, I'm definitely going to see the doctor next week and am hoping that she will be sympathetic and actually interested in helping. My last couple of visits to the surgery, albeit with a different doctor weren't great experiences. If I don't have any success I will pop next door to the GMHP for advice. I'm really trying to watch my diet too to avoid any constipation which would be a nightmare. Feeling slightly less painful today and at least managed to get to sleep last night.

I'm really hoping for a positive resolution to this long standing problem!

I do at least feel a bit more positive after your replies, so thank you....

 

[EJMichaels]

I don't know much about fissures specifically, but to reduce risk of making it worse, here's something about diet and fiber from another thread -

Even with a good diet, some people don't get the desired results. Certain drugs and supplements can interfere (iron, ibuprofen). For some people, chocolate causes constipation (Nature is cruel). Products like Metamucil and Konsyl are good for changing the consistency (both meanings of the word) - they don't necessarily make more bowel movements. Get the kind without sweeteners (plain ground - not whole - psyllium husk). And as someone else here said, drink a lot of water. Everyone should get half their weight in ounces. For example, 200 pounds = 100 ounces of water per day.

 

[Stevieglw]

I don't use anything other than my own hands in the shower when washing. I am going to switch over to using wet wipes as opposed to toilet paper and see if that improves things. I read somewhere that someone had used aloe Vera to help speed up the healing process, but are there any other creams / ointments that help? I was using Anusol haemorrhoid cream but have actually found that just washing the area lightly with soap and water and then patting it towel dry and not using any cream has been much less painful. I assume that as a week has passed, the fissure is likely starting to heal.

 

[palemale]

I don't use anything other than my own hands in the shower when washing. I am going to switch over to using wet wipes as opposed to toilet paper and see if that improves things. I read somewhere that someone had used aloe Vera to help speed up the healing process, but are there any other creams / ointments that help? I was using Anusol haemorrhoid cream but have actually found that just washing the area lightly with soap and water and then patting it towel dry and not using any cream has been much less painful. I assume that as a week has passed, the fissure is likely starting to heal.

I had bad hemorrhoids a few years ago. Ever since, I eat lots of fruits and veggies, less meat and keep my bottom clean. I got a fissure recently, but it went away fairly quickly. I'd been having a stressful time at work, and so had diarrhea and soft stools for an extended period.

My hemorrhoid happened right after a very hard stool and slight constipation. Eating right has made me regular and I never get constipated or stools that are too hard.

I clean up with a baby wipe after using paper to clean away the "big mess" after a bowel movement.

For more info, I recommend the Mayo Clinic web page. It's quite good.

 

[Stevieglw]

Only 4 more days to wait for the appointment with my GP... sheesh... 4x 24hrs of my sphincter throbbing incessantly.

Went to the pharmacy today to see if there was anything over the counter that they could offer other than the usual haemorroid treatments, but the answer was NO.

I know this is a low level kind of illness, but it's just so debilitating and getting me so low. And any thoughts of bum sex in the future seem very far away indeed.

 

[Stevieglw]

Apparently, from reading up on the subject, anal fissures cause the inner sphincter to go into spasm, and that's one of the main difficulties of them healing on their own, as the contraction restricts the healing process. I've had a poke around so to speak, and thee doesn't feel to be any lumps like haemorroids would feel like (I've had them before). But yes, I suppose the best thing is to wait for a diagnosis from a doctor and just be patient beyond that.

Seriously though, who would think that a silly little cut would cause so much misery?

 

[Stevieglw]

Update:
Been to the docs this morning and my self diagnosis was correct. Anal fissure. Anyway, the doc has prescribed Anusol ointment and suppositories for two weeks plus a fibre drink supplement along with lots of fluids, fruit and veg. I knew most of that part anyway...
The good news is that things have gotten much better over the last few days. No pain or discomfort on a normal basis and just a bit of nippiness when going for a BM. I have been told to make a return appointment in a month. I'm just hoping that it heals and more importantly, if it does heal, that it doesn't recur...

I'm going to give things at least 2 months before even contemplating doing things in the sexy dept. down there! And I think I will be slowly trying to stretch things first!

Thanks all for comments and advice, it has helped a lot through this past episode, especially to know that others have had it.