anal sex: shit happens? help!

[hornyshauny]

See the Terence Higgins Trust arse-care manual called 'The Bottom Line'.

You can download it as a PDF at: www.mesmac.co.uk/sex/pdf/bottom-line.pdf

Hope that helps.

 

[ronnie_h]

Some guys (like me) just don't find any pleasure in anal sex. I mean to look at a butt or even between the cheeks is great and I also like rimming. However, sticking something up there or getting something up there just doesn't do it to me.

So if you are one of us guys, don't sweat it. Just stick with what you like and what gives you pleasure. No one (not even yourself) should force you to do things you don't like and there is a great fulfilling sex live beyond anal sex.

 

[bibtmazn]

Aloha,
How's your diet? Seriously, I find that a high fiber and balanced diet has helped me keep clean. One thing about enemas is it shouldn't be too deep.....if you're only using it to prep and not part of play.

As far as enjoyment, Most of the nerve ending are around the opening, so it's the anus that needs the stimulation. Being nervous about this is going to spoil some of the fun as well, so relax!

If, during the screwing, he encounters a bit of "soil", shit can happen, especially if he's a deep core driller! That's another reason for condoms!

 

[KaraBulut]

and as i said, i made sure to take a dump right before. but still, i had the sensation of wanting to go. is that normal to feel like shitting during it? or am i doing something wrong, putting it too far, or in the wrong place, or do you get over the reflex sensation?

There are some other threads in this forum where Versatastic and I were talking about this feeling and how to work through it. You might read through these threads and see if they answer your question.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=205376
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=219621

i can understand a bit, i would still be totally embarrassed, but if that just happens i'll have to get over it. it's just the fact that i don't want to take a huge dump on a guy i really like. and that's what it feels like when i fuck myself up there.

A "huge dump" wouldn't happen. If you had stool in your rectum when you were getting fucked, the worst that could happen would be a little leakage or a little poo on the condom. If you're eating the proper amount of fiber and go to the bathroom before sex, this shouldn't happen.

as for enjoyment, i realize some people just aren't into it. but i'm just not sure, i think i might be doing something wrong, and it's simply my fault i'm not feeling the pleasure. i mean, nerves should be nerves in everyone, so you would think that we'd all feel some sensation.

any more advice?

I've said this in other threads but it's worth repeating: there are a few guys who are natural bottoms and could sit on a 2 liter coke bottle and never bat an eye; everyone else has to learn to enjoy bottoming. So, you're just working through what a lot of guys who are new to bottom have to work through. Anal sex involves a fine line between pain and pleasure and as your work through the new and different sensations, it becomes quite pleasurable.

Think of it this way- the first time you played basketball or lifted weights or danced, you probably sucked at it. Your ass is a muscle and just like anything that involves a muscle, the muscle has to be trained. So get a toy or a patient boyfriend (or both) and start training. And if at first you don't succeed- try try and try again.

 

[Luka]

I dont find it big deal it happens to me too, and the guys dont mind, they know its bound to happen. Don't worry about it its just alittle poop.

 

[NewStart]

well, i used to obsess about the same thing when i was a virgin, but don't worry. Keep a balanced diet and it should be fine. I bottom at least twice a week (for the last couple of months), and nothing unpleasant has ever happened.

 

[briefs4me]

I, too, am a virgin. (Can you believe at 29 I'm still a virgin?) I have found that if you go slow with a Dildo (covered with a condom) and lots of lube it really feels awesome. I have never had a problem with any shit on the Dildo Hope this helps...

 

[mbamike]

An enema will resolve the "shit" problem. I use the store brand of the Fleet enema. I warm the fluid in a sink of hot water for 3-4 minutes before injecting it into my ass. Then shower or wash thoroughly after the enema has worked. Showering with your partner can be apart of the foreplay. Then lube up and you are ready to go.