Anal Sex - too tight?

[chrisdobro]

I do not practice anal sex much with my partner. I don't practice anal sex much with other guys either. So overall, I don't get to experience much of anal sex. That does not leave me much in terms of experience.

When I have sex with my partner, he is very tight, and what usually happens is this: I get myself hard, then start inserting myself into him and then I get soft. I think that this is due to him being so tight that his anus closing in on my penis restricts the bloodflow to the penis. I think if he was less tight I would have an easier time going into him and remaining hard.

This also makes me wonder about why some insertive partners prefer guys who are "tight". I personally would prefer someone who is not tight. Or at least not as tight as to squeeze my penis into going soft.

Does anyone experience a similar issue with tight receptive partners?

 

[bokan800]

Use your fingers to loosen him up, lube is your best friend.

 

[Seasoned]

A lot of slippery foreplay will help as will him sitting on it.

 

[chrisdobro]

I loosened him up with 2 fingers. I used lube. Lots of it. I poured it all over him several times. I barely got 2 fingers in. He was complaining about the fingers. I stopped with the fingers, and then stopped completely, cuz I kept getting soft whenever I entered him.

 

[Rolyo85]

Um, are you sure HE is the problem? Have you tried bottoming for him instead?

 

[ManLicker]

I poured it all over him several times.

It'll only help IN him, not all over his cheeks. A long, slow foreplay session rubbing the lube gently into his hole will relax him; a butt plug can take it further. Then him riding your cock will let him work out the right angle so that it is pleasure more than pain.

 

[AlmondMilk]

I agree that for tight bottoms, me being one, it's difficult to just put in a finger and then follow with a dick. And, don't be afraid of fingering with the lube. Plenty of guys just squirt the lube just outside of the asshole, but it needs to go inside to allow penetration to be easier.

I think you should do other types of foreplay like shower and massage. Try licking him all over and stimulate his nipples.

 

[ipippini]

My boyfriend and I encountered this problem to start with. I found that if he is on his back with his legs up over his head, well lubed up, and you ease in and out slowly teasingly pushing again him for awhile you will eventually be able to fully penetrate with minimal pain to him. A lot of people have recommended sitting on it, but I always found that to be a lot more painful.

 

[Enduster]

I do not practice anal sex much with my partner. I don't practice anal sex much with other guys either. So overall, I don't get to experience much of anal sex. That does not leave me much in terms of experience.

When I have sex with my partner, he is very tight, and what usually happens is this: I get myself hard, then start inserting myself into him and then I get soft. I think that this is due to him being so tight that his anus closing in on my penis restricts the bloodflow to the penis. I think if he was less tight I would have an easier time going into him and remaining hard.

This also makes me wonder about why some insertive partners prefer guys who are "tight". I personally would prefer someone who is not tight. Or at least not as tight as to squeeze my penis into going soft.

Does anyone experience a similar issue with tight receptive partners?

How long have you been having anal sex with this current boyfriend? And how many anal sex occurrences have you had with others?