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new boyfriend - suggestion of toys

Ho there,

I have just found the most amazing loving, kind sweet guy and I know that after 3 months I am ready to have sex with him or rather him with me. I am very tight though and I was wondering what you guys suggest as a way of loosening up my hole beforehand - any toys that also give pleasure etc.
 
Re: new boyfriend - suggestion of toys

I agree with the wise boy 'armandweaver': you don't need to get into toys at this stage of your sex lives. Your dicks and their natural lubricants are the best - but the suggestion from 'Nutsac' is another option - using your lubed fingers (spit is good, as is precum or semen - or some commercial product, if you must!)

On the other hand, if you are determined to go for a toy, then I suggest it be simple - perhaps a cockring rather than a Dildo But a tongue or a stiff dick is a great natural 'toy'! :kiss:

I too am curious as to why you have taken so long to have sex together but maybe you want that to be private and no concern of any of us JUBers - between your boyfriend and you alone. :D Why not just explore each other's bodies for a time - to break the three-months drought! You have each other to get to know more intimately than before - and that is enough for now, I would suggest! :-)

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Originally posted by - armandweaver - Re: new boyfriend - suggestion of toys

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I don't get it! You need toys? The guy probably has a dick, so do you - use 'em. As for the 'being tight' part - oh come on! You should know that the 'precum' is the best lubricant ever. No KY's or shitty stuff can compete - suck him off real nice and let the 'precum' on his dick while penetrating you (i know it's tasty, don't suck all of it, leave some for the 'tightness').
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Are you advocating that they have sex without a condom? Uh, ever hear of HIV, Hepatitis, syph, and all the other STD's? Use a condom and a good lube......

And lay off the toys and kinks until you (or you partner) are like 40+ and actually need them.
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Uh, what does being over 40 have anything to do with this? I am 45 and don't need to use any toys. Can they be fun? You bet. But much prefer the real thing. And toys do not equal kink.

BTW Are you saving yourself for marriage or something - 3 months? Nobody is that insecure.
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I think it is great that he has waited. We all proceed at out own pace and when the time is right. Some guys don't give it up just because someone bought them a cup of coffee or paid some attention to them.

I am sorry, but I don't really see much in this response that I would consider to be good advice.
 
Re: new boyfriend - suggestion of toys

I say, for maximum enjoyment for both of you, let him loosen you up!
 
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armandweaver said:
:grrr: I don't get it! You need toys? The guy probably has a dick, so do you - use 'em. As for the 'being tight' part - oh come on! You should know that the 'precum' is the best lubricant ever. :sex: No KY's or shitty stuff can compete - suck him off real nice and let the 'precum' on his dick while penetrating you (i know it's tasty, don't suck all of it, leave some for the 'tightness').

And lay off the toys and kinks until you (or you partner) are like 40+ and actually need them. ](*,)

BTW Are you saving yourself for marriage or something - 3 months? Nobody is that insecure.
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No.1, If the dude wants to wait 3 months that is his business and it does not mean that he is insecure.
No.2, Maybe 'You' should know that precum as lubricant is not a very smart choice in this day and age.
Have a good day.........
 
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I've been watching too many gay videos - you are quite right, precum is not a smart choice any more. I don't rely on it myself but am glad you have taken me to task in this forum (do you want to spank my naked butt?) for some sloppy advice to Youngjock. I promise I'll be a good boy from now on! Yes! (*8*) :kiss:
 
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I agree, use the finger method and try making that a part of sex the first few times. In fact, you might feel more relaxed if you guys just did that and held off fucking with the real thing until you're ready.

I too don't understand not using a condom. Catching an infection may screw you up and probably will screw your relationship up (like in who got what where?).

And go at your own speed. Its nice to have a boyfriend with whom you didn't have sex the first time you met. ..| ..|
 
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Ramon11 said:
I've been watching too many gay videos - you are quite right, precum is not a smart choice any more. I don't rely on it myself but am glad you have taken me to task in this forum (do you want to spank my naked butt?) for some sloppy advice to Youngjock. I promise I'll be a good boy from now on! Yes! (*8*) :kiss:
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:spank: ..|
 
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Your bodies are the best toys.Like everyone else said, have fun, play safe.
 
I am having a hard time right now with anal sex. My boyfriend is incredibly well endowed - almost 4 inches thick when hard and I am finding it hard even getting the head of his penis inside me, as I am very tight. I was wondering what you could recommend to stretch me to open up more.

thanks
 
what kind of foreplay are you doing; or rather what kind of foreplay is he willing to do? rimming in combination with fingering is an amazing way to prepare yourself for the main event. make sure you use lots of lube.

another thing you might want to consider is taking a warm bath together beforehand.

what kind of anal experience have you had beforehand? if you're still a relative newbie, i'd recommend fingering yourself, and maybe use a smallish toy and move it around a lot. use lots of lube. do not get some honkin' big Dildo

some guys recommend poppers (nitrite inhalent) to relax their sphincters emergently to permit penetration. personally i don't like poppers: they make me whoosy/nauseous, and give me a headache afterwards.
 
hey, just read your profile. i'm assuming you are no longer a virgin :) but nonetheless you are still very new to anal sex. your partner needs to be patient and really work your hole before he fucks you.

the first times are always more painful than pleasurable. stick with it. you'll be glad that you did :)
 
Peto Antoni said:
As you can tell, I'm not a shrinking violet. I hardly fuck at all, but if I do, I have to be fair to the b.f./f.b. so there has to be lots of tender butt play at first. If you're going to get fucked by a big one, your b.f. should get down and loosen you up and get you horny by rimming you till you moan with pleasure, getting you good and wet! [...]
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Excuse my ignorance but what's a "f.b."?

But yes foreplay is key.
 
Some cant take it up the ass as well as others. Have to agree foreplay is key! You need to relax. Try a couple of drinks as well.
 
^Drinks? Lol, you suggesting he get so drunk he don't remember any pain? :P
 
Hang on, how big did you say your partner's cock was?

4" in diameter?! Holy shit! :eek: :-) Is your boyfriend really a horse and not a human being? :p
 
Hi thanks for the advice - I bought myself a butt plug and having been using it everyday, holding it in for an hour and then thrusting it to help me climax which is loosening me up - we tried two nights ago and we got his head in me - that was a big step. I was just wondering what the side effects were of anal sex and anal toys?
 
difficulty with anal sex - training

Hi there guys,

I have posted a few threads but can never find them again to add stuff, so please forgive me. Here is my situation. I have been dating the most incredible guy for 6 months - sweet, talented and just, well, incredible.

We took our time getting to know each other before we attempted anal sex - this is my first gay relationship/experience so I was pretty daunted at first. However, my boyfriend is incredibly well endowed, his erect penis has a circumference of 6", so I guess that is 3" thick or so at it's widest point.

I bought a medium sized anal plug to loosen myself up. We tried to have sex the other night and while the head of his penis was in, the rest just wouldn;t go. I felt relaxed but I just wouldn;t loosen up to let him in. So what I did yesterday was order a five anal plug traing kit - do you think this is the thing to do? Maybe I am being too adventurous right now, to think my virgin ass can take his schlong.

Any advice or similar experiences which have ended with a positive outcome would be greatly appreciated. perhaps you have used a training kit and found it enabled you to take your hung partner.

I just need teh support right now and before someone says, "just bite your lip and take it" - it;s not a question of me being a baby - If I could have the pain and know it would get him in I would - but my body just isn;t working that way.
 
what is that stuff called that numbs the asshole? analeaze or something like that?i was like you but i went out with this guy that could put a donkey to shame. it really is not about you preparing as much as your bf knowing how to relax you and when to stop and go.
 
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