Anal Stimulation first time

[seanystarr]

Hey guys, I wanted to run something past you all and get some reassurance / advice

I tried anal stimulation for the first time today (ie sticking something up my butt). I have never done this before, nor have I ever been fucked by a guy.

It was a pretty uninspiring feeling - it didnt hurt like I was expecting it too, but I also didnt really get any good feelings either.

Am i doing something wrong? Or is there something wrong with me.

Also I had no lube to use, so I used moisturiser - is this bad?

Advice / reassurance really welcome.

Cheers

Sean

 

[lickya42000]

I wouldn't use moisturizer if I were you; it could attract bacteria and cause an infection. It's best to use a water-based lube.

Also, what object did you use? The object you use could be related to your level of comfort.

I'm also a newbie and I've found that anal beads are a great starter's tool!! It feels great.

 

[seanystarr]

thanks lickya - i am looking into getting some toys

for last night i used the rounded end of a hairbrush that i had, its about 5 inches long and about as thick as my dick

 

[grady26]

Starr,

Licky got it right. Any form of butt play, even your own finger, is lube, and LOTS of it.

Try getting an erection first, then dab a bit of KY jelly on those butt lips, them massage 'em. After a while, insert that lubed up device inside and see if the knob on you hardon responds. Go slowly at first to relax that tight sphincter muscle.

For me, butt play of any kind makes for a more intense orgasm. Bigger loads!!!

And I have invested in the above suggested anal beads. I can insert five of the seven comfortably. Beads are the size of large marbles, smaller than ping pong balls on a nylon rope. Love the feel of those butt lips being expanded when I pull them out slowly and then those rapid contractions of the muscle when each bead is expelled.

Those beads set my prostate on fire.

I have decided that the male prostate gland to a guy is what a clit is to the gals.

 

[Bruski-101]

A carefull prostate stimulus is heaven.

 

[KaraBulut]

Am i doing something wrong? Or is there something wrong with me.

No, it's not always magic the first time. If at first you don't succeed, try try try again.

Also I had no lube to use, so I used moisturiser - is this bad?

Moisturizers are not harmful although some moisturizers with lanolin can be irritating to mucous membranes. Better to buy a water-based lube that is designed for this purpose.

 

[DotComGuy]

I have decided that the male prostate gland to a guy is what a clit is to the gals.

That is incorrect. The g spot is the same place on men and women. It is called the a spot on men and g spot on woman.

The clit is a whole other thing. I think of it as a small penis because both are stimulated similiarly and when we are babies, it is almost the same thing. It turns into a penis or a clit

Place the well lubed finger inside so the pad of your finger is facing the front. Your finger will have passed both schpinter muscles. Crook your finger and stroke. Thats the prostate.


My joke is "Prostate cancer . . every fag's worst nightmare"

 

[jockboy01]

As stated, the clit is the penis embryologically.

As to the G spot, I don't think that men have a G spot in the same sense that a woman does actually.

And as stated, if at first you don't succeed, try again. People rarely get anything right in life on the first attempt.

 

[seanystarr]

cheers for the advice guys, i got myself my first Dildo today

 

[DotComGuy]

As to the G spot, I don't think that men have a G spot in the same sense that a woman does actually

The A-Spot
Some males are jealous that females have a "G Spot" that, when stimulated, results in a high level of sexual excitement and a geyser of fluid called female ejaculate or orgasmic expulsion. Males have an "A SPOT".

It involves stimulating the prostate gland via the rectum. This is done by manual stimulation or gentle use of a Dildo or vibrator. The operative word here is "gentle" - the prostate is very sensitive and any rough stuff can be very painful, possibly dangerous. here are the basics:

Put a condom over your index and middle finger; lubricate them well; touch around the rectum till it is relaxed enough to allow easy insertion of one then two fingers. About 2 inches up the rectum you will feel another sphincter, (ring of muscles). It may take a minute or so for these muscles to relax, then, when your fingers can go up about 3-4 inches, you gently stroke and you will feel his prostate. If is firmer than surrounding organs - feels about the size of a walnut and is very sensitive. Then you crook these two fingers towards his abdomen and gently stroke.

Communication is important here. He needs to tell you if it feels good or if it is uncomfortable, even painful. At the same time, you may be performing manual or oral stimulation on his penis and genitals. In all probability, this will result in a very satisfying ejaculation and orgasm.


http://www.talksexwithsue.com/Aspot.html