Any advice for a straight guy?

[mtmattan]

Hey guys,

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Perhaps not entirely believable, but I am in fact straight.
But I would very much like to bottom for a guy.

I don't have any proper guy friends who are gay to talk to this about - hence this post.
I've literally got no idea how to go about meeting someone for an experience.
As mentioned, I am straight so my understanding of gay men is limited.

If you are wondering, I'm not attracted to men - but I'm very attracted to the act of being taken.
I'm currently without a girlfriend so the timing is right to learn a bit more about myself.
Also if you are wondering, I'm not effeminate in the slightest but keep a completely open mind - by no means still in the closet.

Thanks, As I say, I'm quite clueless here!
If anyone would like to mentor me or provide guidance I'd very much like to have someone who I can share this journey with.
Kind regards, John.
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[Eagle653]

First--welcome. I hope you find this forum a safe place to explore your fantasy.

It's not really that hard to turn your fantasy into a reality. You just need to go where gay men are, strike up a friendship, confide in them what you want to experience and see if they're game. To some men, the idea of helping a guy explore his sexuality who has little experience is a big turn on.

As you might expect, I think the minority of men you'll encounter will take your story at face value. Many will think you're a closet case; while others couldn't care less about your motives--they are in it for themselves anyway and will play along with your fantasy to get laid.

I don't mean to sound cynical, I only mean to give you a heads up on reactions you might get and mentally prepare for them. As long as you know what the boundaries are for you, and what you want to happen and don't want to happen, and find a willing partner, you'll be fine.

This is something that is best done with someone other than a total stranger whom you pick up at a bar. You can certainly make acquaintances at bars and other gay-frequented venues, but I would think you'd want to nurture an acquaintanceship or friendship with someone before trusting them enough to respect your limits and give you the experience you want.

Good luck and let us know what happens.

 

[mtmattan]

Hey Eagle653,

I genuinely appreciate you taking the time to give me a proper reply. Haha, yep, your predictions of the "closet case" are spot on. At the end of the day, I know I have loved giving it to girlfriends but also have the curiosity to be on the receiving end. So in that regard, I don't consider myself gay or bi, but straight.

I wish I could post some exciting news but I can't. I'm sure coming out is a terrifying experience - but I'm also quite terrified as being a guy wanting to meet another man to fool around with. I don't have any good gay friends to help out either - not that I'm a homophobe but it's just turned out that way.

Chatting to guys on Grindr is also quite an experience in itself. As mentioned, I have zero experience but on chat guys are crazy straight forward and it goes right over my head. As you say, a friend to show me the ropes would be ideal but I haven't yet met someone like that as of yet.

Again, thanks Mr Eagle, Appreciate it.
John.

 

[Benvolio]

One possibility is to hire an escort. Take a look at your city on Rentboy.com. Or Men4rentnow.com. You will find photos and in most instances, fees. It wii probably be in the are of $150 to $200. Another possibility is backpage.com or Craigslist. O

 

[mbamike]

John, do you plan on doing any preparations for your anal sex adventure? Preparing can make the difference between absolutely hating the experience and having a wonderful time.

I bottomed for the first time in 2009 after a lifetime of denial. I am not saying you are in denial, just telling you my experience.

Here are some of the tips I have learned:

First, you will want to be clean inside and out. Some say eating a high fiber diet is enough. Other say douche before hooking up. I have always douched before hooking up. Shit does happen, but you want to prevent any shit from happening while having anal sex.

Second, you may want to train your ass to accept a cock into it. Others say just go for it.

Your ass has been pushing stuff out of it your entire life. Now, you want to shove something up into it. Of course your ass is going to revoke! You will feel like you need to shit the entire time you are being fucked unless you train your ass to accept a cock into it.

I wore a butt plug and played with a dildo I wore the butt plug a little each day until I could wear it continuously for about two hours comfortably. I use the dildo to simulate being fucked. It also help me to determine if I was clean on the inside. I made a few tests using the dildo to conclude a high fiber diet was not enough for me. Hence, the reason why I douche.

Third, don't forget about condoms and lube. You will need both. Use latex, polyurethane or polyisoprene condoms. Lamb skin doesn't prevent HIV transmission.

Fourth, how do you find a guy to fuck you. Ideally, it would be nice to get a gay friend to do the honors, but apparently you don't have any. I was in a similar situation when I decided I wanted to be fucked for the first time. I used the gay hookup sites Adam4Adam and Manhunt to find the guy that popped my cherry ass.

I was really fortunate as to the person that accepted my offer. I was surprised at the number of rejections I received too.

I made a list of guys from both sites that were tops and were in reasonably shape. I sent out invitations to all of them. I explained I was a gay virgin and was interesting in experiencing gay sex for the first time. As I said, I got a lot of rejections.

However, I did have a really nice guy that answered my invitation with an acceptance. He was a few years younger than me and was openly gay most of his life. We really clicked!

We ended up spending the entire weekend together. He fucked me several times each day, stopping only to eat, take a nap, or to use the bathroom. Then we were back in the bed having sex. I am so glad I prepared my ass prior to this event. The sex was AMAZING!!!

So, this is my experience and how I handled the task of getting ass fucked for the first time. I have been fucked many times since and by many guys.

I enjoyed anal sex then; I enjoy it even more now. I just want you to have the pleasurable experience I know anal sex can be.

Send me a private message if you have any questions. I will be glad to respond. Good Luck!

 

[Newmercedes]

John, do you plan on doing any preparations for your anal sex adventure? Preparing can make the difference between absolutely hating the experience and having a wonderful time.

I bottomed for the first time in 2009 after a lifetime of denial. I am not saying you are in denial, just telling you my experience.

Here are some of the tips I have learned:

First, you will want to be clean inside and out. Some say eating a high fiber diet is enough. Other say douche before hooking up. I have always douched before hooking up. Shit does happen, but you want to prevent any shit from happening while having anal sex.

Second, you may want to train your ass to accept a cock into it. Others say just go for it.

Your ass has been pushing stuff out of it your entire life. Now, you want to shove something up into it. Of course your ass is going to revoke! You will feel like you need to shit the entire time you are being fucked unless you train your ass to accept a cock into it.

I wore a butt plug and played with a dildo I wore the butt plug a little each day until I could wear it continuously for about two hours comfortably. I use the dildo to simulate being fucked. It also help me to determine if I was clean on the inside. I made a few tests using the dildo to conclude a high fiber diet was not enough for me. Hence, the reason why I douche.

Third, don't forget about condoms and lube. You will need both. Use latex, polyurethane or polyisoprene condoms. Lamb skin doesn't prevent HIV transmission.

Fourth, how do you find a guy to fuck you. Ideally, it would be nice to get a gay friend to do the honors, but apparently you don't have any. I was in a similar situation when I decided I wanted to be fucked for the first time. I used the gay hookup sites Adam4Adam and Manhunt to find the guy that popped my cherry ass.

I was really fortunate as to the person that accepted my offer. I was surprised at the number of rejections I received too.

I made a list of guys from both sites that were tops and were in reasonably shape. I sent out invitations to all of them. I explained I was a gay virgin and was interesting in experiencing gay sex for the first time. As I said, I got a lot of rejections.

However, I did have a really nice guy that answered my invitation with an acceptance. He was a few years younger than me and was openly gay most of his life. We really clicked!

We ended up spending the entire weekend together. He fucked me several times each day, stopping only to eat, take a nap, or to use the bathroom. Then we were back in the bed having sex. I am so glad I prepared my ass prior to this event. The sex was AMAZING!!!

So, this is my experience and how I handled the task of getting ass fucked for the first time. I have been fucked many times since and by many guys.

I enjoyed anal sex then; I enjoy it even more now. I just want you to have the pleasurable experience I know anal sex can be.

Send me a private message if you have any questions. I will be glad to respond. Good Luck!

HAAA Very cool, Nice Advice.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

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Very good advice. Its all well and good to want to do it, but then you also need to do some preparations to make it a more enjoyable experience for you and the other person.

As for finding someone, there are a lot of ways to do that. As someone mentioned, you can hire an escort. That can be expensive, and you are also dealing with a sex trade worker who may or may not be all that you imagine. There are better ways to go about this that will not cost you $$.

One option is to make an account on one of the hook-up sites. Squirt.org and adam4adam.com are pretty good. Just make sure you have an anonymous hotmail account to use beforehand. If you go that route, be very explicit in your profile what you are looking for, and take the time to chat to someone before you meet them. That doesn't just mean a couple of lines of "Hey, nice pic", "I'd love to fuck your ass". Develop a rapport over a couple of days or more. Trust me, you will be pounced on with a new account and you need to weed out some of the trash. Spending a little extra time will benefit you in the long run.

You can also meet people the regular way, through work, or the gym, or whatever. That can take time, and I think you have already experienced this and want to speed things up a bit. The benefit here is that you develop a relationship first and get to see them in person. There's a lot to be said about that.

And..there is also the option of random anonymous sex at theatres and cruising areas. Not advised, as you are looking for anal sex.

Whatever you do, just don't be hasty because you are horny. There are a lot of people out there who identify as straight but like a little bit of this and that from time to time.

 

[AsianDream]

First, you will want to be clean inside and out. Some say eating a high fiber diet is enough. Other say douche before hooking up. I have always douched before hooking up. Shit does happen, but you want to prevent any shit from happening while having anal sex.

Second, you may want to train your ass to accept a cock into it. Others say just go for it.

Definitely training your ass with a butt plug or dildo for several weeks every time you masturbate is a very good idea before trying anal for real.

As to finding guys – I think a gay sauna (bathhouse) is the best place – usually they have a time when a lot of “Married Men” go for uncomplicated sex (often Sunday afternoon)

 

[mtmattan]

Hey guys,

Wow, thanks so much for the support! I hadn't expected any responses - let a lone some great and especially helpful posts. Been giving it some proper thought this week so hence the belated reply.

As to finding a guy, I have been active on Grindr and the dating sites in my area. I'd ideally like to find someone naturally rather than go to a professional. There are pros and cons to both but first I'll give normal guys a shot first.

One problem I'm facing is the stress associated with a first meeting. Granted, I've slept with 10 or so women but it's a bit of mindfuck putting intentions directly out there right from the beginning.

Also, I've had a fair interest from guys on Grindr etc. However, the last thing I want to do is waste anyones time and lead them on in the case of I decide not to follow through at some point - either before or during the meeting.

Any recommendations for how I should structure a first meeting? Just meet for drinks and take it from there?

As to getting my behind ready for some action, I would have to begin preparations. I do enjoy anal play with a butt plug or vibrator but I'd by no means be ready for a pounding.

Should I post any further progress when it happens?

Thanks again,
I do appreciate the responses.

Kind regards,
John.

 

[TSLexi]

To OP: If you're uncomfortable with having sex with a guy, but still want to take a cock, try hiring a TS escort, or become fuck-buddies with a TS.

 

[mtmattan]

Hey guys,

Never thought I'd actually say this but I met up with someone!

 

[bankside]

Welcome to [STRIKE]bisexuality[/STRIKE]…i mean JUB…

Asspounding 101 for heterosexual guys…

Dunno, did you ever have anal sex with a woman?

 

[BiMike]

Hey guys,

Never thought I'd actually say this but I met up with someone!

How did it go ? Tell us more