Any other bi guys out there sometimes feel that they missed the boat?

[mikey3000]

I do.

I wonder what my life would have been like if I chose the gay route rather than the straight route. Would I be happy? Happier? I don't have any regrets though. I think. You?

 

[Acanthophis]

You can choose? Since when?

 

[Benvolio]

I do.

I wonder what my life would have been like if I chose the gay route rather than the straight route. Would I be happy? Happier? I don't have any regrets though. I think. You?

You cannot choose. You are what you are. You are either attracted to men or to women, and you cannot decide to change. But some young guys are able to perform with men or women. Later in life when they are less honey, they find that they really were straight or gay along. Many gay men find themselves with a wife and kids and wishing they were free.
The fact that you are at least a little older and think you could have been gay suggests that you may be one of those gay men who were able to function with a woman and now find it difficult to enjoy. I can only suggest that you be honest with yourself and decide what you are as a first step.

 

[Bi Married Male]

You cannot choose. You are what you are. You are either attracted to men or to women, and you cannot decide to change. But some young guys are able to perform with men or women. Later in life when they are less honey, they find that they really were straight or gay along. Many gay men find themselves with a wife and kids and wishing they were free.
The fact that you are at least a little older and think you could have been gay suggests that you may be one of those gay men who were able to function with a woman and now find it difficult to enjoy. I can only suggest that you be honest with yourself and decide what you are as a first step.

Good explanation, however I took it that he was referring to the out lifestyle or the closeted gay/straight lifestyle. You are right about the fact whether you are gay or not, but many gays are afraid of being judged by the people in thier life and for that reason choose the straight lifestyle, but secretly look at gay porn or whatever...I am sure it is more freeing to be a confident out gay, but not everyone has that much courage..(me included) On the other hand. I love where I am with my straight lifestyle. Cautious closet works for me and I find women hot too, however this isn't about me.

 

[mikey3000]

Ok, here we go, the ever tiresome "it's not a choice" mantra.

As bisexuals yes, it is a choice. Do we settle down with a man or a woman? Very few can actually have both. For me, as a true bisexual, I don't mind who I have sex with but I care more about the actual person on the receiving end of my affections. It's not so much that I get my rocks off for my joy, but I get pleasure from bringing others pleasure, who ever stimulates me best between the ears is the one I want to stimulate between the legs. So, yup, FOR SOME it is a choice.

 

[Hot4Latinos]

"If you are male and you choose other than female you must accept the responsinbility of holding the key to freedom."
-Patti Smith, "Horses."

 

[evanrick]

you can have both, you can have a family and have men.

those who say you 'must choose' are heterocentric and it has no place here.

 

[Telstra]

Because you are bi,
I suggest you find two partners (male and female) who wants to be in a triangle relationship

 

[Str8Top14701]

Nope. Too busy having fun with women back then and bi sex never crossed my mind until I was in my 20's. Can't miss what wasn't there.

 

[EdsonDotado]

The older I get, the more I prefer men over women.

Same here. I played around with a few guys in college, but considered myself mainly straight. Since turning 40, I've only been with guys, and I'm happy with that.

 

[DonnieDarko]

Ok, here we go, the ever tiresome "it's not a choice" mantra.

As bisexuals yes, it is a choice. Do we settle down with a man or a woman? Very few can actually have both. For me, as a true bisexual, I don't mind who I have sex with but I care more about the actual person on the receiving end of my affections. It's not so much that I get my rocks off for my joy, but I get pleasure from bringing others pleasure, who ever stimulates me best between the ears is the one I want to stimulate between the legs. So, yup, FOR SOME it is a choice.

Very true.

 

[envious]

I also have wondered that same thing. as a young man I experienced M2M on several occassions. It was total bliss. But being totally afraid of society I went straight as a choice, Ive had three failed marriages, I am in my third currently only because I hate to cause all the heartache even though this marriage has been sexless 20 years. On occasion I meet another male for some fun and only wish I had the courage to make a move sooner. My career would have been a shambles had I ever come out. I love these people who have the simple answer, your either gay or not, its not a choice etc. I choose sucess over sex, but now that I am there I can choose to do otherwise and do.

 

[versatileplayer]

I love and live with a man - and I have still fuck women whenever I want. I know that I prefer men though, and I call myself gay.

I say never settle. If you're feeling as though there is something you're missing out on - don't miss out - do it. Arrange your life as needed to do what you truly want to do. Otherwise, you end up resenting your relationship. Do what you want and be honest about it.

Every woman I fuck knows that I'm going home to a man afterward. My partner is not interested in women at all, so I've never brought any of them home. But I've played with quite a few bi guys and their women, and it's fucking hot.

 

[Hot4Latinos]

I love and live with a man - and I have still fuck women whenever I want. I know that I prefer men though, and I call myself gay.

I say never settle. If you're feeling as though there is something you're missing out on - don't miss out - do it. Arrange your life as needed to do what you truly want to do. Otherwise, you end up resenting your relationship. Do what you want and be honest about it.

Every woman I fuck knows that I'm going home to a man afterward. My partner is not interested in women at all, so I've never brought any of them home. But I've played with quite a few bi guys and their women, and it's fucking hot.

I wish I could get this lucky. I'm gay but have always wanted to try pussy. All I ever get from bi's are the guys who want to suck my dick.

 

[Str8Top14701]

I could never be gay.Not that there's anything wrong with being gay, I'm just not oriented that way. Women turn me on physically, mentally, and emotionally; with men it's just about the sex. It's the opposite for bi guys that are more gay oriented. It's Kinsey's scale. I do wish I had found bi fun earlier, as I would have had even more sex than I've already had, but it is what it is.

 

[gabug01]

I have been seeing a married guy who considers himself 'bi' but mostly straight as he put it. Thing is he says he's attracted to mainly women but only has sex with his wife but has had sex with many many men. Seems to me hes attracted to WOMAN and men not women and men. Also he rents hotel rooms to meet up with these men and frequents a local gay resort. Don't sound so bi to me learning this about him, to me he sounds like a married gay man and a liar about his sexuality. Sadly I've met several 'bi' men like him some married some not. They all seem to have a single woman in their life but seek after and have sexual relations with many many men as if One woman is all they need but 1000 men aren't enough. Just an obversation.

 

[NW007]

Like you I am truly bisexual. I don't have any regrets but I do think if I was in my 20's again in today's world I would be living the gay lifestyle totally.

 

[NW007]

I enjoyed you doing this thread, so thanks for starting it. would love to chat with you sometime in more detail about our sexuality.
-Bob

 

[AlmondMilk]

The only thing you can choose is whether or not you date/hookup with guys,girls, both. You can't choose what you're attracted to though

 

[mikey3000]

Well I'm pleased that some of you guys liked my post. I wondered if I was the only one who felt that way. I'm glad that I'm not.